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    Unhappy I am afraid of success?

    The other night I was in a club and WAS approached by a girl, which I have known for years. She was more than happy to see me and even hugged me. But since I am a noob on the dancefloor (I am open for tips^^), she soon drifted away and I turned back to my friends. By leaving the club I met her and we talked about good old times and I ended up with her number. As I recall, I was just lucky again.

    Now we are texting for far too long time, but I can't pull the meeting trigger. Am I just afraid she could really want to meet me?

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    Default Re: I am afraid of success?

    I don't think this case only will be enough for you to diagnose, if you have the fear of success.

    Maybe you just don't feel The Vibe between you two. Maybe you're not attracted to her.

    In my humble opinion, you just found yourself n-closing a girl who doesn't fit your standards, just to get in the zone or to brush up your ego.

    And subconsciously, you don't want anything more from this girl, n-closing was enough for you.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: I am afraid of success?

    Thank you!

    I will think about what you said. It doesn't seem so odd...

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    Default Re: I am afraid of success?

    As he said. I don't know your background, but when I started I came from a very AFC background. And as such, my main criteria with women was that "she wants the D"

    But then, the more you gain experience, the more you encounter these situations where a girl is clearly down for it, but you don't feel like going for it. Why? Because you're not this starved down AFC anymore, you became picky. And that's a good thing.

    It simply takes time to understand, and then to also understand WHAT exactly you are looking for
    Seduction is a martial art. Reading books and talking to experts is important, and helpful. But you won't progress unless you go out there and fight.

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    Default Re: I am afraid of success?

    Quote Originally Posted by Tow View Post

    Now we are texting for far too long time, but I can't pull the meeting trigger. Am I just afraid she could really want to meet me?
    The only way to find out is just ask her out. Be direct dont need to complicate things just ask like "come hangout with me tomorrow" being direct with women is always good. If you didnt feel like meeting her it means you are just not attracted to her easy.

    cheers
    Nice guys don't finish last, boring guys does.

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    Default Re: I am afraid of success?

    @Mikalichov: I am a zero gamer, I am this starved down AFC. That's why it is so weird.

    @super_gamer: Yeah, seems so. But maybe it is a up and down with my attraction because she's the only one which seems in reach at the moment.

    She's no oneitis, I am definitely going out and talking to other women. I just wanted to suffocate a problem before it can get big.^^

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    Default Re: I am afraid of success?

    Well, then it's simple.

    Think about you on a date with her. Think about both of you tipsy, holding her hand, going for the kiss. Think about the first time you would remove her pants.

    How do you feel? Excited/impatient? Repulsed/weird?
    Seduction is a martial art. Reading books and talking to experts is important, and helpful. But you won't progress unless you go out there and fight.

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    Excited, but with the respect/fear of a big challenge.


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