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    Default Need help with shy girl?

    So theres this shy girl that I have some questions about and was hoping you guys in the community could give me some much needed guidance. So first off I will say that this shy girl is someone I met at work something like 6 weeks ago. However, although she did catch my eye from day one, I felt it would be a hassle to try and pickup at work. So because of this, i didnt pursue her and just went about my work. However, things have changed since and im in need of some advice as i don't know what to do.

    So this is how things have gone since i first met her:

    Week 1-2

    Not much significant just the common "hey" while passing but nothing worthy of comment. the only thing was on our first day I was wandering around the isles in the store where i work with one of those little scanner guns kinda with a deer in the headlights look, when i came up on her isle and she came from the opposite end to ask if i needed help and that she could show me how it worked very smiley and willing. she showed me how the thing worked and that was that.

    Week 3-4

    again nothing significant as i didnt see much of her as they put her to work in the backroom whereas im out on on the floor, not to mention that we are part time.

    Weeks 5-6

    one day i was sitting outside the lunchroom at break (I usually leave at break or lunch) as it is very small and horrendously crowded, when she came and sat across from me and struck up small talk. I then dove into more meaningful convo about herself. She told me that she grew up near me (to my surprise) and I found that she had many similar interests in going to school. We talked and I joked how she must of been living under a rock because I had never seen her. We talked a little more and break finished.

    maybe 1 day after our first conversation, I struck up another conversation while she was cleaning some windows. Funny thing is that when i talked to her for the second time I didnt even know her name or really remember what we had talked about, yet she was saying remember xxxx you said that when we were talking, and was kinda like oh yeah? We talked about a bunch of different things at about an hour until clockout. and in that time i managed to make a friendly competition out of what we were doing. on some occasions I would begin to walk away whn she would reengage in what we she was talking about. And I didnt think anything of it initially but i did remember saying "hey i think its clockout", whereas she just continued to talk for maybe 3-4 minutes without a care in the world talking and cleaning glass lol.

    and then finally day before yesterday 2 of my other co-workers told me that she "had a crush on me" and that to pay attention because she stares at me when im not looking. and i called bullsh1t to them saying they were just messing with me, but not 15 minutes later she out of nowhere asked me at break "how i was getting home", and that "if I needed a ride that she could take me home". I said sure and so she took me home. Honestly, before I was paying attention i was pretty oblivious.

    While we were in the car we talked about lots of different things but only a few stood out to me, whereas everything else was just kind of joking and teasing her. But some of the things she said was how it was her first day with her car driving to work as her dad is protective of her and because of that she didnt have many friends besides her "best friend". I joked saying she needs more fun in her life, when she reluctantly said "there will be time for those kinds of things later in life". I dropped it and moved onto something else. I also found it kinda funny how every time I would talk to her she would lose focus from driving and turn the wrong way getting us lost. she said sorry, and i just said it was ok as we were going on a little adventure. Odd too, since we live maybe a mile apart and our workplace isn't too far.

    THIS IS WHERE IM STUMPED :

    when we got to my house I was kinda unsure as it has been difficult for me to gauge this girl, and I bitched out in asking for her number doubting what i have seen. Instead, i committed a sin in that i gave her my number and told her that she could text or call me. Then yesterday i noticed she would kind of avoiding me, not to mention my d1ck manager wasnt helping me by sending me to do other sh1t. admittedly, i am having quite the difficult time reading this girl as she is quite shy and socially awkward. You know, the rare girl where you wonder if shes ever had a boyfriend? Well thats how this girl seems and so im unsure whether she is disinterested or simply shy. please help guys because now that im actually interested I think I blew it. I'm want to straight out ask her out, but how?

    also I'm 19 and she's 18

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    Default Re: Need help with shy girl?

    It's the "there will be time for those kind of things later in life" kinda dads who's daughters you would want to avoid. They just don't want their daughters to live their lives and have fun, they want them to work, provide and then get married when she comes of age.

    Back to you, being unsure and stressed out about it won't get you anywhere. Those kinda small mistakes will blow it up for you slowly with any girl, you're the one that needs to make it happen she's not going to call you up and start flirting with you.

    Freeze Out for a few days now, and then approach her again and take her number.

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    Default Re: Need help with shy girl?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirtyOnPurpose View Post
    It's the "there will be time for those kind of things later in life" kinda dads who's daughters you would want to avoid. They just don't want their daughters to live their lives and have fun, they want them to work, provide and then get married when she comes of age.

    Back to you, being unsure and stressed out about it won't get you anywhere. Those kinda small mistakes will blow it up for you slowly with any girl, you're the one that needs to make it happen she's not going to call you up and start flirting with you.

    Freeze Out for a few days now, and then approach her again and take her number.
    Well the thing is that i'm leaving this job probably thursday as it has made my schedule hectic and impractical, but am now wishing i had a little more time. i got a week and a half tops, what should i do? BTW do you think I may have read her wrong?

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    Default Re: Need help with shy girl?

    A week and a half is enough time, you could just avoid her for a couple of days. If you really were something in her mind she will feel the difference when you avoid her, so you strike back after that and make it happen.

    You shouldn't care about reading her wrong, she doesn't want to give you her number? Big deal. Move on to the next babe.

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    Default Re: Need help with shy girl?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirtyOnPurpose View Post
    A week and a half is enough time, you could just avoid her for a couple of days. If you really were something in her mind she will feel the difference when you avoid her, so you strike back after that and make it happen.

    You shouldn't care about reading her wrong, she doesn't want to give you her number? Big deal. Move on to the next babe.
    Yeah I think i'll wait a few days and assess the situation and just be straight forward. lol like you said what've I got to lose anyway since i'm leaving. I think i'll do it on my last day, but depends i guess.

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    Default Re: Need help with shy girl?

    Hey DOP, do you have any suggestions on how I should go about asking without sounding like its important, while simultaneously being direct and open about my purpose?

    Any and all input is welcomed.

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    Default Re: Need help with shy girl?

    Well no matter how big of a novel you wrote to explain about it I sure will miss some of the details in your story so I can't tell you exactly what to say and how to say it.

    In general, don't be going at it to take the number there's much more to it than that. I'm going to be captain obvious: approach her with confidence, remove this fear of rejection from your head cause it's the only thing that holds you back. My advice would be to start gaming a couple of new HBs in the next few days, have options so that when you go talk to her you wouldn't be worrying about blowing the (sadly) only deal you've got.


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