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    Default how to sotp stuttering

    I can't seem to not stutter when I talk to a girl. Conversation goes fine, but then I start stuttering. Any advice?

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    Default Re: how to sotp stuttering

    I used to get a bad stutter on occasions when talking in social groups and it made me self conscious. Thankfully it happens only rarely now but I don't let it bother me. If you only stutter once or twice then turn it around and use it to your advantage. Say she is so good looking that you are a bit overwhelmed and then carry on. If you continually stutter afterwards then you will have to move on as you can't keep apologising. It's hard I know but keep going as it will go away.

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    Default Re: how to sotp stuttering

    I've never really had this problem, but here's what I do when I'm nervous around a chick. (I believe I read or heard this from another MPUA as well)

    Don't use fillers in your conversation. Examples: Like, you know, uh, hmm, ah etc. Any words or sounds taking up space in a conversation to buy time or stall the conversation. These are probably the things that promote stuttering...

    Instead, slow down your voice, speak clearly and pause whenever your about to use a filler. When you do this, it makes you look a little smoother and intriguing. You can say 4 or 5 words and pause to take a sip from a drink and resume the conversation.

    Another thing, try to just visualize her as a regular person or a friend, instead of someone you want to make out with or F close. You don't stutter when a cute waitress ask what you want to drink, do you?

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    Default Re: how to sotp stuttering

    Quote Originally Posted by Ice Breaker View Post
    I've never really had this problem, but here's what I do when I'm nervous around a chick. (I believe I read or heard this from another MPUA as well)

    Don't use fillers in your conversation. Examples: Like, you know, uh, hmm, ah etc. Any words or sounds taking up space in a conversation to buy time or stall the conversation. These are probably the things that promote stuttering...

    Instead, slow down your voice, speak clearly and pause whenever your about to use a filler. When you do this, it makes you look a little smoother and intriguing. You can say 4 or 5 words and pause to take a sip from a drink and resume the conversation.

    Another thing, try to just visualize her as a regular person or a friend, instead of someone you want to make out with or F close. You don't stutter when a cute waitress ask what you want to drink, do you?
    Good advice. It's difficult to eliminate filler words as they are used way more frequently than you would imagine in everyday conversation. But you will make for a much more intriguing speaker if you can get them out of there.

    I'll tack on one more that should help that stutter disappear... breathe. Most people's stutters, unless a biological speech impediment, are generated from a lack of oxygen. Your throat muscles are affected by this and in turn your trying to force speech. This results in a st-st-st-stutter. Make a conscious effort to take a nice big breath at your breaking points when speaking.


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