be warned this is a lengthy field report.
to start off, it has been almost a month since my boot camp (august 30th 2013)
why I took the boot camp - I felt like it would be a good stepping stone in my journey to becoming one of the greatest pua's on the east coast. plus I felt that it would be a great experience getting to go out and hit the clubs of new York.
to start off, they sent me a "pre-boot camp package" (pdf file) of my homework to do before the boot camp (though it wasn't necessary to complete everything, I wish I would have) in addition they gave me access to a webpage with several training videos to get me in the grove before I even got to new York. (this was about 2 months in advance of the event)
the package contained several really good openers, as well as the abc's method, and in addition it gave us a list of the types of attraction switches and wanted us to come up with a story for each of them (but before you ask for me to spill any of it, I had to sign a non-disclosure agreement so I cannot share there method with you)
on Friday I was the first person to show up at the apartment, I actually had to wait several hours because I was way ahead of schedule. when the instructors arrived we introduced ourselves and went out for lunch. I got the chance to talk to them and get to know them a little before any other students arrived.
when we went back to the apartment I squeezed a quick nap in before getting to meet any of the other students.
when I woke up, everyone was at the apartment. turns out I was the only white guy of all the students lol the rest were all some pretty cool Asian guys. we introduced each other and quickly began getting to know each other and what we thought about pua stuff.
class began around 6 or 7. J.T. (our main instructor) handed out workbooks witch contained even more in depth information about the abc's structure and how to get through each phase. we went over it and practiced making approaches on each other. we discussed indirect game and some approach strategies. the first night would be all about attraction and bantering.
sarging that night: for starters we made a wager for who would approach the most sets, we all threw some money in the pot and decided it would go to whoever had the most blowouts.
on my way to the club the bottom came off of one of my dress shoes, there was no time to go back to the apartment, so I got shoe glue from right aid and glued it back on, then I rapped my shoe strings around the bottom of my shoe and tied them tight. this would make for an interesting night lol
the first club we went to wouldn't let us all in (they wanted our group to pay for bottle service) witch caused us to go to a club called "park" this is where the action would start
upon entering the club my first instinct was to get to the bar and get a drink, but first I approached a girl to say hi and get warmed up, I quickly opened her and when our topic started to die I told her I was going to the bar to get a drink and would be back, of course after returning from the bar with a beer, she was nowhere to be found so I went about approaching other girls. before I knew it I had blown several sets and found myself talking to jared one of the instructors, he got me to approach an ok looking brunette he had spotted, so I went and talked to her and she was clearly interested, she was leaning into me when we talked, but her friend came and of course I introduced myself to her and talked for a few more minutes, of course she stole the brunet away (I was starting to lose the set anyways)
so I then went off and approached a 3 set of 2 girls and one of the other students, I was there to wing for him, but the problem was clear, we sat down at a table and the girls sat across from each other, witch forced my wing and I to sit across from each other. the girl who was super interested in my wing was beside me, and the bored girl was beside him. this caused a "cross-talk" when I tried to hold the bored girls attention while the wing tried to talk to the girl beside me after several minutes the bored girl pulled the other girl from our set.
I tried setting down with alice (the only female instructor) and two Asian girls she had met and was talking to, however we were seated too close to the dance floor. I couldn't hear a word they were saying (though later alice told me they were being "b1tchy")
I re-approached the two girls who had ran off earlier. this time they wanted to get a picture, so I squeezed in between them for a picture and ended up spilling my beer down one of the girls arm lol I just walked away and busted out laughing. even though it ruined that set I didn't care it was funny and embarrassing, but it makes for a good little storie and I even used it as an opener for my next set "what would you do if some random guy posed with you and spilled his drink all over you?"
the instructors told me that my big problem was that I was self ejecting, so jared challenged me to stay in set for as long as possible, I approached a couple (might I add that the guy was this big firefighter guy who had saved peoples lives) and I tried to talk to them for as long as I could. I stayed with them for over ten minutes but our convo got stale pretty fast and I knew I wouldn't get anywhere, but they were really nice people who were cool about things.
by 11:30 I was starting to feel disappointed, I had approached nearly 30 women with no luck, so I got a rum and coke and went to talk to the instructors, alice took me around looking for any more sets but I had nearly approached everyone there. I had ran out of steam.
by midnight we decided to leave and debrief. at our debriefing we discussed what had happened to each of us. I had the problem of not staying with my sets long enough and of not transitioning as well as I should. comfort was my sticking point. btw, I won the wager, I had approached around 30 women while none of the other students approached more than 10
day 2. on Saturday I went out shopping with one of the other students, we'll call him "Nigel" (he was the guy most like me so we hit it off pretty well) we went to this store to get him a nice blazer and I had him approach some ladies to get their opinion of the blazer he had picked out.
on our way back I stopped by a shoe store to look at dress shoes, a pretty sales lady came around and I flirted with her, though I forget everything I said, I remember her being fairly attracted to me (I should have gotten her number)
we had our lecture that day and learned some really awesome body language stuff I can't really talk about along with a discussion about Direct Game and how to approach tables with girls at them.
also one of the instructors gelled up Nigel's hair for him and changed him from looking like a short nerdy Asian, to looking like a yakuza mob boss. he literally looked completely different!
that night we went to a really cool rooftop bar called 230 5th street.
the place was packed. we got a table with bottle service and pretended like it was Alice's birthday.
the goal was to chat up girls and get them to come over to our table. though it was almost a repeat of the first night for me, blowout after blowout, I had decided to play around with different openers, though most of the girls weren't all that interested in me. I did manage to get into comfort with some British chicks (who were more interested in our instructor J.T. who pawned them onto me and then left the table so I could game them), and a Russian girl who had been kind of cold towards me at first but warmed up a little before she eventually got bored and left. I just wasn't feeling it, comfort phase was kicking my a$$.
though I failed to pull any girls that night, Nigel got a k-close with a pretty African girl. I was feeling kind of de-motivated at the time as I had been rejected by virtually every girl I had approached since arriving in new York. (it wasn't the instructors fault either, I was not used to the fast paced night game we were playing)
at the end of the night I downed a full glass of strait vodka to finish the bottles off before hoping in a taxi to go back to the apartment for a de-briefing. (I really shouldn't have, before that I was just drinking the orange juice we had to mix it with, and this vodka was the good stuff )
at our debriefing I was struggling to stay awake, but I will never forget what J.t. told me " you have got to be proud of who you are, you cannot be afraid to share details about your life" that line really hit home, I was holding back in comfort, the same way I held back when talking to my parents. I was too good at shutting people out of my life, when I needed to be sharing my life with them.
on sunday we had our lecture on day game, it would be slower paced and we would have to be able to maneuver to get into the right positions for a successful approach. this was where I came into my own. we went to time square for some direct day game. I was able to approach and open in the day with ease. but many of the other students seemed to almost have a certain fear of approaching girls during the day (they were almost like vampires lol) even though most of the sets were blowouts it didn't matter, I was having a good time approaching with ease while some of the other students were just sort of standing around.
this made me feel a lot better about how things were. all in all most of the game I had done before this was day game anyways. I was better at it than I thought. I started using situational openers and ended up chatting up this hot blonde who I had followed into a Barnes and noble bookstore.
by the time I was finished I realized that none of the other students were still sarging. I went back to the apartment and found out that I had stayed out an extra hour and had missed the debriefing
sunday night we were givin the opportunity to go out on our own. I couldn't go out clubbing because I had to return the id that I had borrowed from a friend in new York. so undeterred I decided to go out for some street game on my own. I walked down the street and wound up talking to these two homo-sexual looking guys who were going home from a church service of some kind. I chatted them up at a cross walk and couldn't help but notice a tall hb11 blonde in a blue dress who was monitoring our conversation. so I simply approached her after she crossed the street and walked with her. we talked about travel, and relationships and other things I can't remember, but it was a smooth flowing conversation that lasted over a half hour with what was likely the hottest girl I have ever met in my life. even though she mentioned that she had a boyfriend, I chatted with her for quite some time (all the way down both east and west 14th street new York)
after she ejected when she met up with her friends, I felt so stoked! I was excited to go meet more women like her.
on the way back up the street I met a brown haired, brown eyed, hb9 bartender who was headed home from her shift at a club somewhere. she was interesting and we talked about how people in new York could be so rude at times and about how she thought that some people pretend to be assholes just because they are in new York and they think it is the morn. I walked and talked with her for about ten minutes before she found the subway station she was looking for.
after that I chatted up two drunk girls who were a little b!tchy because they had both been dumped that night. though I tried to have a good convo they were too distracted to be pleasant towards me.
when I got to the apartment I debriefed with alice (the rest of the guys were still out) and felt pretty good about how sunday had gone.
all together the boot camp was a good experience. and I must say that for being a 19 year old getting thrust into the new York bar scene for the first time I did pretty well. overall I got rejected over 120 times in one weekend, but I learned some valuable lessons and had a good experience. the instructors were awesome and I want to give a special thanks to all of them.
getting home was a hole new ball game, the girls in wv are fare easier to game than the ones I had to contend with in new York. I feel like I live in candy land. I now see how the event helped me, my inner confidence was fortified by all those rejections, now getting into c phase was easier and I have a far better understanding of the body language I want to use in order for success.
I would highly recommend any of you to get signed up for an abc's of attraction boot camp, you'll have fun and learn a lot.
I know this field report was long and I congratulate anyone who stayed long enough to read the whole thing lol I hope this can help you to understand what its like to take a boot camp