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Thread: What is this being an A-hole ?

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    Default What is this being an A-hole ?

    Her: *Pen falls off desk*
    Me: Nice
    or
    Her: *Tries to throw paper ball into the trash, misses*
    Me: Way to go haha, or Better luck next time.

    Does it make you look like an A-hole when you tell her things like that ?
    My friend said it does, but then again he's been friend zoned by almost every girl he likes (he's too nice).
    I think this is teasing her but I am not sure, can I get some opinions here ?

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    Default Re: What is this being an A-hole ?

    Do neither. if you want a woman approach and run game.
    If one keeps doing things like these it may cum off weird.may avoid them

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    Default Re: What is this being an A-hole ?

    Quote Originally Posted by HardRock View Post
    Do neither. if you want a woman approach and run game.
    If one keeps doing things like these it may cum off weird.may avoid them
    Not to be rude but I'm having difficulties trying to understand what you're trying to tell me.
    How will it come off as weird? She messes up, and I tease her (At least I think I am) about it by saying "Nice" or "Way to go" in a sarcastic tone.
    So I am wondering if this is being an asshole instead of a tease?
    (I messed up the title: "Is this being an A-hole", not "What is this...")

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    Default Re: What is this being an A-hole ?

    Yes you want to be an A-hole as Nice Guys finish last. Don't be a total A-hole but a Nice Guy with a bad boy edge. Basically you want the best of both worlds as too much of a prick will push girls away just as fast. Me being a total A-hole has got me rejected many a time but being a little bit of this and a little bit of that gets me rather far. This is the art of calibration in tempering your persona with both elements and using the element you would work best for that situation as sometimes you get rejected for being too soft or being too rough so you have to calibrate it so you are not caught stuck in a pattern. Either heartless A-hole openers have worked wonders but so have hopeless romantic openers. This translates to heartless/indifferent comments and nice guy comments. Essentially you should be 80% nice guy and 20% A-hole. Also being indifferent is all the rage these days in Video Game characters so I derive much inspiration from that and think indifference if exercised at the right times will get you Alpha Male status and give you a badass quality to yourself.
    "It is what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are." -Mewtwo

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    Default Re: What is this being an A-hole ?

    Whichever way its framed too much of this and you may be called out by the girl most importantly its not best practice.It could get you a few laughs or not but then there are other ways.

    In a nutshell:Not teasing.


    Bantering and teasing should be used as a spice.don't focus much on that if you may..

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    Default Re: What is this being an A-hole ?

    It's fine for you to say that,but don't go overboard with that cocky funny attitude,because eventually you will become an a-hole in her eyes.

    For example :

    Her: *Tries to throw paper ball into the trash, misses*
    You: Way to go haha, or Better luck next time.
    You : Watch me *Tries to throw paper ball into the trash and possibly misses*
    You : See,I was closer than you (or something stupid like that).

    This will make her laugh,but if you just neg her all the time you will in her eyes,eventually become an a-hole and probably a nuisance since you have nothing else to say.

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    Default Re: What is this being an A-hole ?

    Yeah, I would usually pick the pen up for her, or do what you said with the paper ball into the trash can. I'll take the advice given though, thanks.
    Also, how would I be a combination of a nice guy and an a-hole? A female friend of mine says I'm too cocky, I surely am realizing I'm going about this all wrong...

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    Default Re: What is this being an A-hole ?

    Her: *Pen falls off desk*
    Me: Nice
    or
    Her: *Tries to throw paper ball into the trash, misses*
    Me: Way to go haha, or Better luck next time.

    Does it make you look like an A-hole when you tell her things like that ?
    My friend said it does, but then again he's been friend zoned by almost every girl he likes (he's too nice).
    I think this is teasing her but I am not sure, can I get some opinions here ?
    those are not really examples of being an a-hole, I would say that those would fall along the lines of annoying commentary.(if you use it more than once or twice it can get to be really annoying)

    no being an a-hole is all about being hyper-critical of others or downright making fun of them. (don't criticize people very much unless you desire to be lonely)

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    Default Re: What is this being an A-hole ?

    Alright, so I wont do this anymore.
    Doesn't banter and teasing make you come out like an a-hole a bit too?
    I guess I've been teasing all wrong, can anyone shift me to the right direction ?

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    Default Re: What is this being an A-hole ?

    Doesn't banter and teasing make you come out like an a-hole a bit too?
    being an @-hole is about degrading the other person. teasing should never degrade them or put them below you.

    bantering is all about creating a small sense of rapport, it has little or nothing to do with teasing. flirting is about using meaningless conversation to create a shared reality between you and your girl. use your imagination the possibilities are nearly endless.

    if you want some examples of good flirting/bantering I highly recommend you read the e-book "how to meet and connect with woman" by wayne elise, you should be able to find it on the internet for free.


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