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Thread: How do I connect with a girl?

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    Default How do I connect with a girl?

    I've recently gone through a lot and I'm not gonna clutter up the forum with my drama but here's the position I'm in.

    Recently My dad passed away 6 months ago and it was just me and him, I moved out at 18 and started living in my car but now I have a small, very small trailer (That I don't want to bring girls into) with a roommate (that's a complete drunk and pervert) and a steady electrical job as an apprentice making $11/h. I'm currently saving to move out.

    All I want to do is start having fun and meeting girls. I've dealt with a lot of bullsh1t and constant repetitiveness of work then home every day without anything to do afterwards.

    I don't have any friends and I don't go out and do anything because I have no one to go with.

    I don't really have a hard time approaching women but it's after I start talking to them, I'm really not sure how to get them interested in me. I start talking about stupid regular sh1t and make a few stupid jokes but I don't see how to make her attracted to me and to really have a deep conversation so we can connect.

    Is there some kind of book I can buy or something on this forum or any kind of advice people can give me on what to do at my age and not having any friends?

    I really want to find a gf but right now I'm just interested in going out and being able to hold a conversation with a girl and have a good time with her.

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    Lightbulb Re: How do I connect with a girl?

    A few things.

    Sorry to hear about your dad. That sucks.

    There is a ton of free information about what you're asking. Start anywhere, find something you like and use it.

    Set clear goals. Yearly, monthly, weekly, and daily. Accomplish your daily goals.

    Get out of the house. Go there only to sleep. Join a gym, go there straight after work, exercise, socialize, shower and change into nice clothes. Go anywhere, a coffee shop, grocery store (like whole foods), a bar, music venue, club, promenade area, meetup group (check out meetup dot com), anything is better than nothing.

    Most importantly start talking with everyone you meet, especially women you find attractive. Don't try to get anything, just focus on making their day a little better with a small joke or compliment, practice giving others value for free and accepting everyone for who they are.

    Be who you want to be.

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    Default Re: How do I connect with a girl?

    Well let's examine a few things here mate.

    First
    Your living situation sucks. Sounds like some potential drama going on there and I wouldn't want to bring girls there either due to jealous roomates, drama, etc. But you can still pull it off I guess I have pulled it off with girls in my room when I was in a farked up situation when I was 19 and my roomates let everyone and their brother move in. In the end a lot of drama 5 people in a 2 bedroom downstairs basement that had a kitchen. Super dirty but my girl at the time was in love with so I didn't care nor did she and tried to have sex with me while my roomates were in the other room.


    Second
    Get the fark out. I cannot tell you how times I have been lied too, stolen from, betrayed by best friends, roommates, etc. You only want to live with family or people you can really trust. This is why I moved back in at home sure I can't pull girls there because I am living with my family with a Religious upbringing but I have a killer little game room. Plus I love having my own room and coming home and not being drilled about where I was, what I ate, who I am dating. Surprisingly my family is less invasive than my best friend ex-roommate. He got jealous and said I couldn't bring girls there. But he brought home guys yeah I know really farked up so this is actually better for me. Even though I am 30 living at home I love because I can still have a GF just not bring her home per say but can be less restricted by drama if she wants to hang out there during the day.

    Third
    Well just get out. You can stay as long as you can but try to get because this will really hurt your inner game since you have a bad living situation which will cause stress to your Outer Game which hurts your Inner Game when you go out. So essentially just approach girls less than you really want, still approach and hang out but you got to try to pull it off at their place which is possible to sustain a relationship and eventually move out and live single as this is the best option for a PUA. Less drama=more play. So keep that in mind but don't spend all your money going out finding girls and dating because you need those funds to move out and get your own place. This is why guys living single with their own place have the most advantage for meeting women since that is the most advantageous situation. Check back for Project Iceshield Part 2 as it talks more about this in the future.

    Lastly
    This is why I wrote up Iceshield because I realized unlike what "women" say online about "not living with Mom" I do it anyway and thanks to that I just bought a Tv, a 3DS, a couple of games, and got some new diggs. Basically I just got $1,000 worth of crap in the last 3 months just for having no rent. Imagine for a second I was "living" the way "women" wanted without my Mom and never successfully brought them home once and did 75 sets this year! Sure towards the end I stopped trying due to my bad Outer Game but my Inner Game is pretty solid. Essentially I was confused because I was living on my own but girls never wanted to come over and never asked who I lived with. Living situation never even came up and I dated this girl for a month dating her. This is why now I realized and seen the light that towards the end I started up front asking my ex-roommate if I could bring girls in because I started getting numbers every weekend from HB9's so towards the end of our lease my ex-roommate started getting really jealous. Asking if my sunglasses belong to some "b!tch" saying girls couldn't sit on the couch if they came over because that was sacred and he did it with guys in his bed then he told me I had to do it on the hardwood floor. I was so pissed that my best friend wanted me to be like an animal and he lived like a king. I didn't have my own bed and used his hid-a-bed and then he goes and sells it like it means nothing. He was in love with me and I told him I might not come home some nights because I was getting farther with girls from the Bars & Clubs to outside the Bars & Clubs and starting to escalate and he got all butthurt when I said that. This story shows you HOW your Outer Game ie living situation can hurt your inner game. I was afraid to escalate because I feared the whiplash of my roommate after I would send a text like "hey going home with a girl tonight!" he always wanted to know if I was coming home like he was my Momma and that's how it hurt my inner game.


    On that note now that I live at home I can't bring girls to stay the night or when they are gone but they can hang out during the day if they are my GF something that never happened with my ex-roommate so not only am I saving money with no rent but also have a little more freedom. My mom said she doesn't care what happens as long as I tell her I might not come home that night she is happy because I am a grown man. Man I love my mom! I can hookup and as long as not at my place and not worry. Granted it is her place. But more on this to come much to discuss.
    "It is what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are." -Mewtwo

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    Default Re: How do I connect with a girl?

    You're about to hop on the self improvement train boy.

    There's a ton of books that will help you improve your mentality, deal with your inner issues and others that will teach you how to be a better conversation, how to "create attraction"...

    Do this right and you could even find yourself better jobs, better places to live in and quality friends.

    Being on this forum alone will reveal the existence of certain classic pua books among others.


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