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Thread: Is directly asking for a date too blunt

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    Default Is directly asking for a date too blunt

    So there is a girl I have been chasing who "friendzoned" me over a month ago. We have hung out about once a week since then as "friends" but I'm always moving things in an intimate direction. She was just letting her kiss me on the cheek only for the last couple of times but after the movies on monday we made out twice and she was really into it. Shes still acting low interest though(ie I always have to initiate things). So I'm gonna freeze her out for a week and then ask her out again. My question is just asking "This friday night you want to go on a date" too blunt. I want to just cut to the chase, no more "just hanging out" bullshit. I want it clear in her head its a date, not friends. And if she says no **** it and move on. Be done with this around the bush crap.

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    Default Re: Is directly asking for a date too blunt

    I would say it's too blunt. If she's giving you the "let's just be friends" thing, but making out with you, then she's probably not entirely comfortable being more than friends yet. So I would say don't do anything to draw attention to the fact you're escalating things. Until she suddenly looks around and realizes she's naked in your bed with no real idea how she got there. Let it happen naturally.

    Keep doing the make-outs and try to physically escalate from there.

    It also seems to me you've got the wrong attitude towards it. If she's saying "just friends" but letting you do things to her that clearly say "more than friends", then what's the problem? That whole "next" attitude is totally wrong, I think. It's only if she's saying "just friends" and not doing anything that says otherwise that you should next her.

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    Default Re: Is directly asking for a date too blunt

    Hey thanks for the advice bro. I see where you are coming from. Glad I asked before I messed that up.

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    Default Re: Is directly asking for a date too blunt

    It's not about being blunt or not there champ. Or quite honestly you haven't earned it yet.

    Your mistake lays way back, you didn't create enough attraction. Focus on that and then it won't matter if you call it a date or not. I never "ask girls out on a date".

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    Default Re: Is directly asking for a date too blunt

    Give her the "I don't wanna just be friends" speech. Say it and mean it. Tell her, how you feel, and that if she doesn't feel the same way, that our not interested in being friends. You have made yourself clear as to what you want from her. If she isn't looking for that from you, walk away. But you have to walk away and mean it. You can't go back in a week with your dick between your legs saying, "OK, i'll just be your gay male girlfriend"

    Walk and find someone who does want to shag you rotten. Plus, when you are gone, you might see that in a week or two or three, she reaches out to you. And when she does, assume it is because she wants to be more than friends.

    But if she backs off, and says, "no I missed our friendship", you have to explain to her again, "I think your great, but I have enough friends, I'm looking for more, call me when you change your mind"

    Just keep going out and meeting people. It basically comes down to a numbers game.

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    Default Re: Is directly asking for a date too blunt

    @DirtyOnPurpose I totally agree with you. Its just a matter of not enough interest.

    @easyflow spoken like a student of corey lol. reading his book right now actually Also the approach I'm going to take at this point


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