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    Default How to Answer Embarrassing Questions?

    Hey guys. Something embarrassing to talk about. But facts are facts and I need to deal with them.

    I've had 3 relationships in my life.
    1. High school. 2 years. No sex
    2. College. 3 months. Yes sex
    3. In my twenties. 1 year. Yes sex

    Now I am 45. In the last 20 years I've had no relationships and no sex. Yes, 20 YEARS.

    In fact, not even one DATE in 20 years. Not even one approach.

    I am just getting started with PUA skills. At some point with a woman the question will come up

    -When was your last GF?
    -How many GF?s
    -How many sex partners?

    I am terrified of these questions.

    The true answer to her questions will be a massive display of dlv.

    And if I give the true answer she may very well ask WHY? The true answer to that is I had a severe illness for 20 years that kept me from functioning as a full human being (symptoms partially lifted a month ago so I feel better and am now in a position to date) and also had no social skills both which are yet another massive display of DLV.

    I mean no woman is going to tell her girlfriends, "yeah I met this amazing guy last night. He's so sexy. He was so sick for 20 years that he couldn't date plus he has no social skills. He has almost no experience with women or sex. What a catch."

    I just don't see how any woman would be "understanding" enough to want to see me again. I'll get blown away immediately, and if that happens, how can I ever gain that critical experience of meeting and dating women so I can get better at PUA skills?

    Everyone has facts about their life that they are embarrassed about and try to not reveal. Often you can maybe keep these things hidden until a woman gets to know you and gets invested in you and at some point they come out, but by then she could be more accepting. But these 3 questions are pretty commonly inquired about by women, and fairly early on in the early "getting to know you" stages, it seems to me.

    How do you answer questions about your life when the truth would display massive DLV.

    What do you recommend I say?
    Last edited by Markus721; 10-04-2013 at 06:14 PM. Reason: Forgot an important point

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    Default Re: How to Answer Embarrassing Questions?

    I'm no Master, but honestly I'd go with the truth. Or at least mostly truth.

    Tell her honestly about the disease. In my, admittedly limited, experience, most women are sympathetic to that sort of thing. I would NOT, however, mention the lack of social skills. Besides, the more people you talk to, guys and girls, the better your social skills will become.

    Also, for the sexual confidence, take a look at "2 Girls Teach Sex". It's a DVD set I bought a couple years ago, and it really made a difference in my confidence under the covers. I still break it out once or twice a year as a refresher course, so to speak.

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    Default Re: How to Answer Embarrassing Questions?

    The fact that you think it's embarrassing is your main problem. You have to embrace it and wear it like an armor. And then you can move to learn PUA skills.

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    Default Re: How to Answer Embarrassing Questions?

    I would not tell the truth in that circumstance.

    Tell her that you have been single for over "just" 6 months (technically not a lie) and that you have just dated off and on since then because you had very little free time for a relationship.

    Also mention that you like moving forward with a new girl rather than talking to her about the girls in your past. That should put an end to those questions.

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    Default Re: How to Answer Embarrassing Questions?

    Quote Originally Posted by dave_xxx View Post
    I would not tell the truth in that circumstance.
    Dude, no. Starting off a relationship with lies is only a set up for more lies that you'll have to make up.
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    Default Re: How to Answer Embarrassing Questions?

    Its not a must to tell every girl you meet the truth..you will tell her the truth when time goes on but not straight out of first date..i am not saying you should lie, what i am saying is omit the details about your past relationship experiences and try to workout your social skills and improve them..i would recommend you to order david deangelo's double your dating ebook..this will teach you how to answer questions you don't want to answer as one of the basic rule is to maintain element of mystery..again i am not saying you should lie..what i am saying is don't talk about yourself to a point that women become familiar with you instantly..just omit the truth..and hey go and order yourself a copy of david deangelo's double your dating ebook..trust me it will work wonders..cheers and enjoy adventure of seducing women you desire..goodluck!!!

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    Default Re: How to Answer Embarrassing Questions?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bimmer View Post
    Dude, no. Starting off a relationship with lies is only a set up for more lies that you'll have to make up.

    Normally, I would agree with what you're saying and not lie but puas do lie in some situations to a girl.

    If he comes clean MANY girls will not accept his past or be able to handle the truth right at the beginning. They won't even give him a chance to show who he really is now that he is healthy.

    If he glosses over his past like I mention in my first post in this thread he won't have to make up other lies to cover up that one lie. He can just fall back on , "Hey, we talked about my past when we met. I hate dwelling on the past when the future is so much more fun to live."

    No need to lie to cover up the original lie in this situation.

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    Default Re: How to Answer Embarrassing Questions?

    Honestly, this conversation won't come up with most girls right away. So this is only a problem until you've been with one other girl. Go out, snag a girl and then tell the truth.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: How to Answer Embarrassing Questions?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirtyOnPurpose View Post
    The fact that you think it's embarrassing is your main problem. You have to embrace it and wear it like an armor. And then you can move to learn PUA skills.
    Yeah. Most people don't care. My game now is get them talking add much as possible and just listen attentively. They don't really want to know, they just need to know that you're Ok.

    How to be ok. The past is the past. You were sick. You can't change it. You're only alive right now. Be the Man you want to be. Write down your ideal self and act accordingly. It feels great!

    Live Well.


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