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Thread: Needy vs. being persistence

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    Default Needy vs. being persistence

    Every comment is welcomed: what's the difference between being needy and being persistence?
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    Default Re: Needy vs. being persistence

    The difference is in the Mindset when you approach or take any action. If you come from the mindset shes the only one or if she rejects me im done for. Then yes this mindset will be seen as needy.

    On the otherhand if you see her as just anither girl than yeah your actions will persistant not needy as your willing to let go.

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    Default Re: Needy vs. being persistence

    When you're outcome dependent you are NEEDY.

    If you don't care whether you get her or not as you're being persistent, then it's just a want.

    In one you will view yourself as a failure if you don't accomplish your goal of picking up. In the other you'll see yourself as one step closer to your next pickup and ignore what just happened.

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    Default Re: Needy vs. being persistence

    I agree fully with dave_xxx, being needy is seeking for approval and validation from girls..your state depends entirely on results..while being persistent is pursuing what you want with detachment from the outcome..and this is a paradox..a powerful one indeed
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    Default Re: Needy vs. being persistence

    In my opinion, needy is when disregards logic and or reasoning often acting in fear of losing in a hyper attentive manor seeking instantaneous positive response. Putting this into prospective it is like being addicted to a drug the needy need more and more validation to feel that they are getting the results they want.

    Persistence is rationally evaluating the situation and making well guided judgments to respond and achieve the desired results. Persistence is learning from your previous experiences that have failed to yield desired results and consciously using that information you seek to achieve those results by not falling into the same tracks. Lastly persistence is not motivated by fear or a need for gratification by the other party it is all about results.

    The needy have a need for affection that doesn't cross the line of addiction it flat out IS AN ADDICTION. Subsequently to feed that addiction logic an reasoning go right out the window. Persistence however is taking what you know about an un favorable position and objectively finding another way to achieve the results you want.
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    Default Re: Needy vs. being persistence

    Well put msa173 and dave_xxx!!

    When you have put the girl on a pedestal in your mind, then you know that you are being needy. Stop it and move on to another girl.
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    Default Re: Needy vs. being persistence

    I think I'm a contradiction because I'm both outcome dependent but won't really stress if one girl isn't sexually interested in me because I can go talk to other women... On the other side we as humans also look towards our failures more than our success; example: we think about the girls we didn't get more than the ones we have or had.
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    Default Re: Needy vs. being persistence

    Persistent is intent-driven. Needy is desperation. Persistent means you can have any of them but want her. Needy means you can't have any of them and want her. It's abundance versus scaracity at its core.

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    Default Re: Needy vs. being persistence

    You can tell if you're needy very easily. Try hard to set something up with her. If that fails, just cut her out of your life. Then wait and see what happens. If you feel the need to txt or call her within a few days u are probably needy.

    If you don't feel the need, u are probably ok. And she will probably reach out to you. If not then it's no big deal. You should already be gaming other girls at this point anyway.
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    Default Re: Needy vs. being persistence

    There is a very thin line between both, it's all about whether you are ready to lose her or not. Your whole game will be better if you can accept that at any time you might lose her and IT'S OKAY.
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