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    Default Too Alpha?

    I have a question. Is there something like too alpha looking? Respectively too big? I am 6'2 and currently 265 pounds. I work out and look like the powerlifter type. I've been told i am handsome too. just two days ago my coworker kept staring at me and started giggeling. Upon asking her what's going on, she told me she just likes to look at me because i am handsome but probably i get to hear that all the time. I approach women at clubs mostly. But it seems they are reluctant towards me. I can't even get them to dance with me. And i am not even approaching the hotties but rather cute looking ones...

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    Default Re: Too Alpha?

    Good post, good question. id have to say no, I have a buddy around your size and hes niceand aaggressive on a lighter note, funny thing is he commands attention in a good way that women respond positively to,and he gets approached alot. id say just maintain that alpha minset, that go get it attitude, you gotthis.
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    Default Re: Too Alpha?

    Disagree with the above to an extent. You can't be "too alpha looking," but size can be intimidating. Although I'm not as big as you, I am still much bigger than the average guy and it's definitely been an issue for me at times. The solution is to adjust your traits in such a way that you counteract the size issue. For instance, doing silly things like sticking your tongue out or making faces can counteract the size issue.

    But being big is not being alpha. Females fear bigger guys because it would be much easier for a big guy to physically dominate them.
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    I agree with that it may simply be you're physically intimidating. Your best friend is the feeling of "safe." If you can convey "safe" then you are off to a good start. That doesn't mean to try and convince her you're safe by saying "I've never murdered anyone before" or "I promise I won't stare at you while you sleep." Lol.

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    Default Re: Too Alpha?

    thanks for the replies. yes,i think 'intimidating' describes it better.

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    Default Re: Too Alpha?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    Disagree with the above to an extent. You can't be "too alpha looking," but size can be intimidating. Although I'm not as big as you, I am still much bigger than the average guy and it's definitely been an issue for me at times. The solution is to adjust your traits in such a way that you counteract the size issue. For instance, doing silly things like sticking your tongue out or making faces can counteract the size issue.

    But being big is not being alpha. Females fear bigger guys because it would be much easier for a big guy to physically dominate them.
    I agree with Duke. I have a few large friends. The girls are physically attracted already, so they initially don't need to worry about negging or teasing because the girl would get too insecure since the guy is very goodlooking. They come in very shy and nice. They will later pepper in some breaks in rapport, but first they need the girl to understand he isn't going to club her over the head and carry her from the club. Just approach with a compliment and you'll be good to go.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Too Alpha?

    As I'm not a bigger guy I guess I can see where you gentlemen see coming from, my buddy just had major sucess while sarging and I didn't really see the other side of the coin. Ive seen guys get intimidated by his size but that's about it, liking forward to some field reports from you.
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    Default Re: Too Alpha?

    One question I don't get: how can you command attention?
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