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    Default 2nd approach on girls at parties

    So recently I have noticed a little hitch in my game. I have no problems with the initial approach, keeping the conversation going or even getting a girl interested in me in a house party setting. Where my problem lies is in approaching again after I have made first contact. I guess I need to explain.

    I am almost always good when it comes to the approach and building rapport from the first meeting. With the nature of a party, and the fact that I am social person, I want to meet other people that are also there and not talk to the same person all night. The problem lies in when I want to go back and talk to the girl again after a bit of time has passed. My 2nd approaches on the same girl are about 50/50 in terms of success that I was getting from the first approach. Sometimes the girl will start the conversation, sometimes their eyes will glaze over while just smiling at me then I go for a kiss close. Every other time though I have no idea what to say to start up a conversation when I want to go back and talk to her.

    Any tips or openers for a 2nd approach on the same girl would be much appreciated.

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    Default Re: 2nd approach on girls at parties

    Since you've already opened her and built some rapport, there shouldn't be much pressure put on the situation at all. Open with an observation then start conversing. "oh nice! You drink xyz too! How's the party been for you ?" Or sometimes I like to play the role of the host even if I'm not, and say "hey, doing ok? You need anything?" And she'll respond, then say "great, because if you do, I'm sure a host will be around and they can totally help you out" I say it with a huge smile and they always laugh or chuckle. Shouldn't be too much, just need to keep conversation back up in the air.

    What makes you think it's not always going well ?

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    Default Re: 2nd approach on girls at parties

    If you open, it's going good, most can't even get past the first step seems more like you're having trouble hooking after the initial approach, you should try some social proofing, walk around high fiving, dhv with others within their eyesight, and or course the above mentioned. Don't look at the second approach as another opener look at its as you revisiting a successful set just to keep the ball rolling.
    You can't miss something you've never had, but I can be sure she will regret her opportunity...

    Better known as Debauchivalrious...

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    Default Re: 2nd approach on girls at parties

    Awesome thanks I will go out and try some of those next time I'm out.

    I don't think it goes well often because I know I am thinking way too much about it. When I go in to talk again my head starts turning trying to figure out what to say to get talking again but while that is happening, if she hasn't started the conversation already I just stand there kind of awkwardly waiting for something to happen. As I said I am aware of the problem and am working towards fixing it.

    I will over come this just like I have with everything revolving around The Game.


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