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Thread: What to do when we're both busy..?

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    Default What to do when we're both busy..?

    Hi, I got a girl's IM through a dating site the other day and we've been chatting for a few times now. Today SHE suggested that we should hang out and get a coffee on Saturday, but the thing is, I have something planned with some friends already and it's impossible to cancel this event. So I said that I was busy, but still available for Sunday afternoon. She replied that she's probably too busy with schoolwork and that we could meet up another time.
    I'm not sure how to react or what to do exactly in this situation. Hope someone can tell me here

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    Default Re: What to do when we're both busy..?

    Tread lightly don't overreact, I suggest either bringing her to the event with your friends or next time shoot her an invite where all you need is confirmation,

    something like
    "hey, I know this really nice place with (insert whatever), I think we'd have a good time there, this Saturday afternoon good for you?

    If her response isn't what you want gauge her a bit then possibly Freeze Out, that way she'll throw out her availability and try to plan around you two.

    Hope this helps, Gluck.
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    Default Re: What to do when we're both busy..?

    When a girl suggests a meetup you may follow through at an early hour before event or talk to the other.if she was looking forward she may be a bit offended or put off. Dont wait too long and may keep in contact a few times.make sure content is emotionally charged.

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    Default Re: What to do when we're both busy..?

    Hardrock has it about as strait forward as possible but paramount is don't do anything that makes it look like it is that big of a deal.
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    Default Re: What to do when we're both busy..?

    Always best to make the meet up. I would have said, "Busy Saturday... When else are you free ?"

    Best to let her know you're busy, so she knows you're still interested. I put the "..." to build comfort as well. Would not have done so if she wasn't so interested. And then, better to find out when she is free than to suggest a time that she may not be able to make. Just makes a back-and-forth situation that is not helpful.

    Does that help?

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    Default Re: What to do when we're both busy..?

    I'm curious cdharders, but how does the "..." build comfort?

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    Default Re: What to do when we're both busy..?

    It shows that you are trying to make things work. If you just had a "." It sounds more cold. I'm talking minor degrees of change, but the girls pick up on it.
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    Default Re: What to do when we're both busy..?

    Or a comma or a semi-colon is the proper punctuation in that instance if she happens to pick up on that. I do know a few chicks that are nuts about using proper punctuation, though I frequently anger them.
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