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    Default How to approach a group of girls?

    Okay, so this is my issue (been really frustrated at trying with no results).

    Like, I could just go and talk to any group (assuming that I feel good on the day; but this is another topic altogether) having any guys or girls in it - what I mean is approaching them and joining in the conversation and then hanging out with them even if they move to some other location to continue hanging out, from their location at that time. Talking about pubs where there ain't loud music at all.

    Problem is:
    - Pub setting / anywhere with no loud music -
    When I talk to the group, then when I'm wanting to Isolate the girl I like, 9 out of 20 times, she'll be like " i don't wanna leave my friends". And I didn't wanna escalate when I'm in the group (I don't even touch her much - cause then the group might cut me off seeing as I'm too obvious with what's on my mind as in intentions). So, in those times, I ended up just asking for their contact like phone number or Facebook (which I hate, but I consider em goners since 2 out of 20 cases then would actually respond if I do contact em). I haven't really try pick ups before - so by far, I've only tried like say 15 times, and 3 were successful (as in manage to sleep with em).

    How do I go about resolving this?


    - Club setting with loud music -
    Like some place with loud music and with dance floor. More often than not, I see like sometimes some I'd be interested in but since I'm not a good dancer, I often stay away from the dance floor. How do you guys approach a girl you like who's like dancing on the dance floor? *Since I know if I wait, some guy would have approach her to dance with her (making his moves on her while he's at it) and then my chances would be cut down to total zero.


    Random question:
    Also, what do you guys think of kissing a girl within minutes of chattin with her? Cause a girl once did this to me, and I thought heck, why not - I should try this with a girl I like next time I spot one.

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    Default Re: How to approach a group of girls?

    In my experience, the object is to attract the entire group primarily, that way your intentions wont seem so obvious, its also good to have an approach that isnt cliche so thay there is genuine interest in what you are doing/saying.

    Ive opened groups before where ive negged/ignored my target and attracted everyone which made it easier to Isolate her later. This way im accepted into the click early on and not considered a threat, hell, ive had a group ask me to join them the rest if the night because of the social proof and rapport I gained.

    Personally, im not big on k-closing so unfortunately I have nothing for that specifically as im usually going for the f-close and settling for the n-close. lemme know it any of this helps.
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    Default Re: How to approach a group of girls?

    First off, open the group. Use an opinion opener that the entire group can be involved in. This is where gambits and canned material can be very awesome.

    Next, work on comfort and rapport with the group. Try to Isolate your target a bit within the group dynamic. Never try to isolate her physically until she has qualified herself to you.

    Once she has qualified herself to you, you can now isolate her physically. A great way to do this is by stating, "I need a drink, come grab one with me." You can buy her a drink or whatever, or you don't even have to. If you have a wing you can use your wing to isolate the target by closing her off from the group while your wing interacts with them. There are lots of ways to do this.

    Note: It's acceptable to buy her a drink here because it's on your terms, and you're actually reciprocating for the fact that she left with you.

    Finally, kissing a girl right after you met her typically involves skipping certain stages in the pickup and that will lead to problems such as buyer's remorse later on. I suggest not going for a kiss right away in most instances, but you can.

    Batman has a great thread about dance game that you can look at to answer your dancing question. The only way to pickup a girl who is dancing is to dance with them. Otherwise, you're just an ass who's interrupting their fun.
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    Default Re: How to approach a group of girls?

    Idk really, but today I tried talking to a girl within a group - so, the group had like 10 people in it (pub setting). I started talking to few people in the group, and they were showing signs of not being interested so I sorta walked away. (I'm still trying to see where this goes - as I had always tried like speaking to the whole group first whilst ignoring the person I wanna talk to - but I find that doesn't really work as much as being promoted across PUA tutorials, as the girl that I'll be targeting usually loses interests after a while and sometimes even leave the group to talk to some other people).

    So yea, later the girl was sorta standing beside the group - and I observed from her body language that she's actually looking for someone to talk to - so I approached her and asked her if she'll like to go away to corner of the place for a chat near where the breeze from the outside are - she said yes, and I put my arms around her as I pull her away. I'm putting my arms around her on and off later during our chat - but then she came up with the excuse of buying a beer near the bar (common excuse for leaving). I wonder what did I do wrong cause she was all friendly and all during our chat.

    I tried one more time cause I read on plowing. I went to her one last time and asked her if she finds me attractive - she said no and that she has a boyfriend (with an irritated voice and was kinda rude at this point), so I left her


    I'm not sure if you guys saw this video before of a guy who asked 3 questions to girls. I did 2 as in 'do you find me attractive', 'give me one reason why won't you kiss me now' - well, just for the fun of it. I talked with this gal for like 5 minutes, and she had to leave, so I asked her the 2 questions to which she replied:
    1. yes
    2. i have a bf (i tried moving in to kiss her but she pulls her face away - saying she's a loyal gf)
    So yea, nothing happened then :P Just had some skin contact with her (arms and legs) prior to that. And ended up with a Facebook contact (which is pretty useless if you ask me).


    From my observation is that I find it easy of course to talk to a group if majority in the group is friendly but the group I mentioned above was like unfriendly most of them.

    At the end of the day, chatted with few more - and just ended up with contacts and nothing happening (though one of the gals responded when I messaged her minutes later (via online) asking her to join me for a snack thereafter on the same day, though she excused herself like wanting to go sleep since she has to be awake early the next day.

    That's that.


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