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Thread: Marina - I am infatuated... how to make it work?

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    Default Marina - I am infatuated... how to make it work?

    There's this girl at my job that's extremely beautiful, I'm pretty positive I've never seen another girl like her in my life. She can wear minimal amounts of makeup and still look amazing. I'm so infatuated with her that I can't think straight pretty much everyday because I'm just not sure why she doesn't seem interested in me at all... In my opinion I'm a daily attractive black guy, I hit the gym almost everyday and other girls a work notice my progress and joking refer to me as their boyfriend. This has been the case for me the majority of my life, it's always the girls I don't want any sort of relationship at all
    That get attached to me and the ones I want more then anything in the world play with my emotions or show no interest. If I had a chance I would spend everything or do anything to please this girl I can't stop thinking about though (Marina). I need help
    Before I go crazy, I've told her how beautiful she was and said flirtatious remarks trying to eat rise out of her but she just laughs it off. She told me she isn't the type of girl who likes commitment after me prying for some information casually which leads me to believe she's experienced something that has shifted her though process I'm this direction. Although I've encountered girls like this before, is it possible for me to change her thought process? I'm willing to do anything to make it work out... I just want her to want me.

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    Default Re: Marina

    Ok just gong tho throw this one out there. You need to take her off that pedestal you placed her on in your mind. She is a woman that has feelings just like all those other ladies you interact with at work. That being said, you found good grounds with them so you are capable of getting results. So now you have to find a channel to relate with her on and then you can proceed with that.

    I am willing to bet that channel is not going to be too far off of what you do with the other ladies you interact with so.

    Conclusion, you are over thinking it. You are letting the her beauty allow your mind to think that you are up against something different but at the end of the day she is a person too. Also I'd she is attractive I'd expect her to act less interested because se is likely used to attention. Therefore, it may take some effort and you may get less ioi but it doesn't mean she isn't interested at all. I would treat her like the others and let her see you interacting with the other ladies, this will prove your social value to her. Which inevitably helps to build rapport and comfort in turn making her open up easier to you.

    That is just my opinion
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    Default Re: Marina

    I agree with you completely, it's something I've tried to work on constantly throughout my life. I've never been the best at approaching girls mainly because I think too much about the situation and rejection scares me immensely just like it scares everyone else. You make a good point because when I treated her like another one of my girl friends she opened up to me and we talked about music which was when I found out we similar taste in that area. But when I started referring to her as a goddess and buying her things she began to see it as a little weird. Sometimes I wish women would just accept the fact that their are some men that would treat them like goddesses.

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    Default Re: Marina

    It would be ideal however for every one guy that would like to do so there are about ten looking to hump and dump so this is why it takes more finesse and effort with the hotter ones.

    Additionally the role change for ladies of now days they don't want to be showered in gifts they take more pride in. Being self sufficient so buying things all the time now days only works on gold diggers. The main selling point now to use instead of gifts is showing you value them as an equal and not as a prise. Just don't show this in a way that decreases your value fid a way to dhv yourself to her level and show her you respect the level the two of you are on.
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    Default Re: Marina

    Damn you're right, I try to do little tasks for her at work and she looks at me crazy sometimes and tells me she's perfectly capable of doing them herself. I think she maybe looking at it the wrong way but she definitely is self sufficient, my intention is only to help and not make her seem inferior though. I'll treat her as my equal and see where that gets me. Thanks for your advice you made a lot of good points.

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    Default Re: Marina

    Just here to help it is easier to see it in an un biased way when the situation isn't my own.
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    Default Re: Marina

    Damn!!! hometownextra..you are good bro!!!..Thanks for helping guys like us pick up our socks
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    Default Re: Marina

    Is there anyway to do the seemingly impossible and make a girl who says she isn't interested in you at all change her mind? I've seen it done before.

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    Default Re: Marina

    Short answer is yes,


    Long answer you have to find the toe hold before you can climb that mountain. Just takes time and finesse
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    Default Re: Marina - I am infatuated... how to make it work?

    obviously at that time you weren't building much attraction.yep interest may be generated.


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