The Quick And Dirty Guide To Manufacturing Confidence
Hey guys I have some good news for you regarding confidence.
It may be shocking to you, or perhaps it's obvious.
CONFIDENCE DOESN'T REALLY EXIST.
Well...not as most people understand it anyway.It is nothing but a feeling that you have the right focus, and the perceptions that others will have of you when they see you behaving with that focus.
In fact, I believe that telling a man ' just be confident' is absurd. Confidence itself is an illusion! Telling someone to be confident presupposes that they are not confident, and the words alone have a weakening effect on their state.
In addition, telling someone to "be confident" is interpreted as "instantly change your beliefs", which is nearly impossible.
Our beliefs change over time as a result as a result of Our Actions And Social Feedback.
New beliefs aren't even that crucial in the short term. You don't have to have perfect beliefs to make a few changes in your focus or behavior and start and start getting better feedback (results) from women.
I'd like to propose a new definition of confidence. I'd like you to stop thinking of confidence as being certain of success; think of it as the ACTION OF GIVING WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING THE ENTIRETY OF YOUR EFFORT.
When we see what we believe is confidence, we aren't actually seeing a person's thoughts of the future, or of success. We are seeing the outer result of their focus.
Think about a recent post-game interview with a star athlete. when he or she was asked, "Did you know you will make that shot? what were your thoughts going into the game? were you worried? Did you get upset after you made that mistake? How confident were you going into this crucial game?"
WHAT DOES EVERY SINGLE ATHLETE SAY?
"I wasn't really thinking about the other team, or how many points I got. I just knew that if I worked hard, and did what I had to do, we'd come out with the win. I wasn't concerned with the final result at that point-I just focused on my game, and in the back of my mind, hoped for the best"
I just focused on my game.
THAT IS THE REAL CONFIDENCE.
Now with this in mind, knowing that confidence does not really exist, Imagine what we can do on task that require confidence. WE WILL BE UNSTOPPABLE IN THE FIELD!!!so gentlemen, lets apply this to our game and never again fear the unknown
I hope this helps a lot of people that has confidence as their sticking point when approaching girls...Cheers fellas
Whether you think you can or you can't either way, you are right-To believe in the heroic makes heroes