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    Default Asking work colleague out

    There's a girl at work I'm interested in who joined in September, while I've been there for 2 years. At this point, just wanting to hook up, but I see potential for more. I swore I'd never get with someone at work, but for her, i've decided to make an exception.
    I've been trying to keep our convos flirty and light to avoid the friend zone, but at the same time, I haven't been too direct and I don't Kino at work because it's a professional environment. I also have her number, but don't really text her that much, as I think we talk enough at work, ranging from once every couple days to many times a day.

    We haven't really hung out outside work, besides some sober movie nights with other colleagues. But this Saturday she's invited me out for drinks with one of her girlfriends. I noted she also asked another male colleague, who's in a relationship, so I didn't see it as me getting a special invitation, but also saw it as a sign of comfort, as we're the only two people at work she's invited and the only two she really talks to on a regular basis. Anyways, he's not coming, so it'll just be me, her and her girlfriend.

    A couple people in our office have commented to me that we'd make a cute couple, without me having told them of my intentions, so maybe people sense chemistry. Don't know if they've told her that as well. I was going to be direct and basically jokingly tell her what other people are saying and then say something like "I think we should try it out. Come over next week and I'll make you dinner."

    Thoughts guys? And how can I salvage it in case she friend zones me? I don't want things to be awkward at work if I get turned down, though we don't see each other at work much, as my job involves lots of travel. I'll live if she turns me down, as I know my worth and have a couple other girls I'm seeing at the same time, so no oneitis here.

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    Default Re: Asking work colleague out

    So after inviting me out on Monday, I made sure I kept Saturday free. Even had to turn down a girl that wanted to drive 4 hours just so she could spend the weekend with me.

    Saturday arrives and around 6pm she messages me and says her friend is tired and they may just have dinner and not go out for drinks. I tease her and tell her to ditch her lame friend and she promises to work on her friend and try and get her to come out. I never get a followup message confirming if they are, or aren't coming out. It's a bit late to make other plans, so I end up sitting at home all night feeling like an idiot.

    I'm anticipating a lame apology from her, but am wondering what to do with it. I'm really mad at her for wasting my night, but I know ranting to her won't do me any favors even though she fully deserves it. Plus I work with her, so I dont want to create any animosity.

    I was planning on asking her out last night like I said above, so was thinking of doing something like "I'll be straight with you. I want to take you out. On a date. But due to last night's events, I think it should be you that takes me out. So let me know when thats happening."

    Thoughts? Hopefully some timely replies this time.

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    Default Re: Asking work colleague out

    I don't recommend this at all. Work and relationships should be kept far from each other. That being said, I'm still going to advise you.

    I swore I'd never get with someone at work, but for her, i've decided to make an exception.
    Don't put her on a pedestal.

    I also have her number, but don't really text her that much, as I think we talk enough at work
    Text her and build a relationship with her OUTSIDE of work. Don't even talk about work! It doesn't exist! Act like she's a hot friend that you've known for years but just now noticed.

    "I think we should try it out. Come over next week and I'll make you dinner."
    I obviously don't know you're complete background with her, but I don't suggest this... at least not the "I think we should try it out." part. Being direct with her could work, but going over to your house could be weird if you guys don't really talk. Again, text her.

    "I'll be straight with you. I want to take you out. On a date. But due to last night's events, I think it should be you that takes me out. So let me know when thats happening."
    You're putting down your guard completely and putting her into control... UNTIL you tell her that she should take you out.... but then you give her back the power when you said "so let me know when that's happening". You're basically saying, "Hey I want to go out with you, so let me know when you have time for me!"

    As far as your Saturday being terrible, I probably wouldn't have turned down the 4 hour drive girl. The work HB is going to be around for a while and blowing her off because you ALREADY had plans would have shown that you have a life.

    Best part about this is that she is interested in hanging out with you outside of work! So my advise is to establish a text relationship with her (not really important, but it breaks from the work chatter). Then tell her to come to some dope restaurant or whatever with you.
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    Default Re: Asking work colleague out

    Thanks for the reply. She sent me a text this morning complaining about how boring her friend was and asked what I was up to today. I responded and told her to take me out next week, but she blew me off with a "i'm traveling a lot next week" excuse, which is true, but she could obviously find time to take me out if she wanted. Oh well, I'm quite happy to just leave it with her, as she seems really flaky and I don't want to invest much more of my time into her. I'll keep it light and flirty and start talking to her outside work more and see if she comes around.

    If she friendzones me, I have no interest in being friends with someone that flakes on me last minute, so I'll just treat her like I do every other of our 50+ colleagues. We work for the same company, but don't actually work "together" so interaction can be minimal if I want it to be. At work, we only talk about work half the time. The rest of the time, it's normal stuff like food, working out, movies, etc. We've also grabbed lunch and coffee on different occasions, so she's comfortable being alone with me, though those were only quick trips.

    As far as the 4 hour HB, I can get her down here any weekend I want. It was her I had to blow off because I ALREADY had plans with the work HB.


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