Asking for the time can actually be a deceptively useful opener - you can pretty much use it anywhere without appearing strange or threatening.
Simply asking for the time then leaving is great for warming up, or for dealing with Approach Anxiety.
Of course, turning it into a conversation starter needs a little extra effort. So here's an option I've been working on. I reverently dub this new opener "The Time-Fun Continuum":
PUA: Hey - have you got the time?
Woman: [tells you the time]
PUA: REALLY!? That time already - my god... why do you think time always flies so fast in a place like this? [Pause to show it's not a rhetorical question. (But it is a leading question.)]
Woman: Um... I don't know. Maybe because you're having fun...?
PUA: You know what - I *AM* having fun... how did you know!? [Pause in case she wants to answer. See below*] Are you having fun?
Woman: Yeah, I guess...
PUA: Ace! You're having fun too - High Five! [High five her. Maybe spin her.] - We're like, the Fun Brigade or something. You know what's also fun...
[At this point you could switch topic, tell a story, ask her to dance, play a game, or whatever you like, really. (But do something fun)]
So here's some details and further thoughts...
- High energy club/bar/party environment, close by standing sets (or individuals) - queuing for the bar perhaps? Even better if you've warmed up the room.
- With a cheeky smile, high energy and none-too-serious tone.
Different ways the opener might go:
- In the unlikely event that she says she's not having fun, you could ask her why not? (What is she missing out on? Maybe she needs to come dancing to cheer her up. Maybe she needs a hug? etc. Interaction is now well underway and you've the opportunity to be sympathetic as well as be the bringer of fun.)
- If (very unlikely) she says she stopped having fun the moment you walked up... *Time to leave*. You may want to check your non-verbal communication (tone of voice, body language, eye contact etc.) and try again on someone else. Or you might have just interrupted an important conversation.
- If you get any obstacles looking at you skeptically during or after the opener, you can just say "Aha - so you must be the Fun Police. A pleasure to meet you! ...My partner in crime and I [refer to target] are the Fun Brigade and we're going to teach you to lighten up, aren't we?"
*If she answers the "How did you know I'm having fun?" bit, usually she'll have to tell you something about you:
- "Because you've been all over the bar talking to loads of people and I've seen you rocking it on the dance floor etc."
[Big ioi!] PUA: "Yes, I have indeed - and they're all having fun too! Aw... you're feeling jealous aren't you? Well, maybe if you're well behaved I'll introduce you to them later. But for now, let's..."
- Something obvious and dull like "Because you're talking loudly"
[Eye rolling time] "Ah, but maybe I always talk like this. [Tease] You're very perceptive aren't you ...what else do you think you can guess about me?"
- "Call it women's intuition"
[Great topic] PUA: "Tell me more about this 'women's intuition' malarky - what else are you intuiting about me?"
Her telling you something about you (at least, your first impression anyway) is usually a good thing because:
a) It could give you a clear indicator to get out of the set
b) It could tell you what you're doing wrong
c) It gives you a chance to say "Nope, wrong! I guess your intuition isn't that good after all!" and force her to re-evaluate you.
d) It gets her thinking about whether she likes you, checking out your outfit, wondering why you're having so much fun etc.
e) It could provoke an IOI
Thoughts on this opener?
Got any good tweaks or responses to be prepared for?