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Thread: Next-Morning Awkwardness... what do I say?!

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    Default Next-Morning Awkwardness... what do I say?!

    Hi everyone, Been a while since I posted anything here… but I’ve always gotten amazing advice from you guys. here goes.

    So I’m a little at a loss here, because this has been happening quite often. Let me explain:

    The other night, my co-workers and I decided to throw a little party at one of our places. So we bought wine, beer, chips, and just had a very chill evening the four of us. (I’m the youngest one: 20. they’re all 25,26) I had to take the bus back home quite early because it was the last one. The co-worker who’s place we were at suggested that I could sleep on her couch. Sure whatever. So I stayed, and as the two other guys left, it was just me and her. We went out to buy cigarettes, and as we came back, she suggested I could sleep in her bed because it was more comfy.

    I really wasn’t expecting this. Hell she’s 6 years older, and she always call me ‘kid’ ‘shorty’ etc… but she’s way cute and why the hell not. It was pretty instant once we went to bed. Best make-out sesh I’d had in a while. I refused to have sex, because… well… I was drunk. I think if I hadn’t said anything, we would’ve.

    My question is this: the next morning was the most awkward shit ever. I was hungover, didn’t know what the hell to say. I woke up way early and couldn’t go back to sleep. So I kinda just sat there. When she woke up and made coffee, we were just sitting there in awkward silence. Apparently, I’d gone overboard with what I’d said to her when we were in bed (you know… not far from the ‘L word’ and such ) and it kind of freaked her out… I reassured her that I say that when I’ve had a few, but really I want nothing serious. She says she doesn’t want anything serious either. It’s been two days and she hasn’t showed up to work…

    Is this save-able?

    Thanks so much guys!
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    Default Re: Next-Morning Awkwardness... what do I say?!

    May show up @ her place or call her.looks like she liked you sort of..PEACE

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    Default Re: Next-Morning Awkwardness... what do I say?!

    First of all, don't ever apologize. Girls don't care what you say, they care how you act. So skip apologizing and trying to convince her it was the alcohol, and get right to proving it through action. If you would have gotten out of bed when you woke up... even though it was early, made the coffee yourself, and proceeded to act like nothing ever happened she probably would have forgot about whatever mortifying things you said to her in bed.

    Now, is it fixable? You have to find out. Call/text her with something harmless and fun. Do not bring up what happened. The purpose is to gauge how she is acting towards you. Is she receptive? You should be able to figure it out from there.

    Lastly, work on inner-game. It's all about action, not words.

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    Default Re: Next-Morning Awkwardness... what do I say?!

    Quote Originally Posted by HardRock View Post
    May show up @ her place or call her.looks like she liked you sort of..PEACE
    Please don't "show up at her place." That is bordering on stalker territory and will light up all the wrong signals in her head. Calling her or texting her would be fine.

    Sounds like you went overboard and this isn't going anywhere, but no real harm in testing the waters. Just make sure it's not a huge display of interest or anything.
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    Default Re: Next-Morning Awkwardness... what do I say?!

    Even though general and duke may be right on some level i disagree with brushing it off.attraction is in levels somewhat one action may change dynamic.yur at a bridge.frame is am looking out for you = Massive loads of attraction when done right.eithers may engage.

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    Default Re: Next-Morning Awkwardness... what do I say?!

    Hey guys thanks so much for the responses!

    So here's how the situation stands as of now:

    I'd tried messaging her the next night with a small game we've been having (use emojis to make the other one guess a movie) she guessed it, and that was it. dead conversation. So I just let it be. yesterday night (so two days after the hookup) she messages me 4-5 messages. Replied this morning, and now we're just like it was before. Absolutely no awkwardness. I'm really not showing any weaknesses: confident, leading conversation, etc.

    I think if I can just act alpha like it was no biggie and even that I am unphased, it should get her attraction and intrigue going. When I get the chance again, I'll invite her for a drink (thing that we did a few times before this hookup, so it shouldn't come off as desperate) and play it by ear when the time comes.

    I'll keep you posted.

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    Default Re: Next-Morning Awkwardness... what do I say?!

    and that was it. dead conversation.
    Woah man..if she was really engaged she would have replied after that. rem its 'your' fun game.women who bottle things up may come back harder.if you dont properly manage this you may never have all of her..Period.

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    Default Re: Next-Morning Awkwardness... what do I say?!

    I'm still confused why you didn't have sex with her. She wasn't drunk. You were. That's how normal people have sex. Good work with everything.

    Also, the nicknames were teases she was making to you. Women only tease guys when they are trying to build attraxtion, as in she liked you.
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    Default Re: Next-Morning Awkwardness... what do I say?!

    Quote Originally Posted by cdharders View Post
    I'm still confused why you didn't have sex with her. She wasn't drunk. You were. That's how normal people have sex.
    It's just one of my rules. It's purely a principle: if you're not sure if she would have sex while sober, don't have sex drunk. You might think it's counter productive, but it's actually been a huge plus several times: the girl knows that she's not just some se object to you, that you see more to her than that, and she respects you more for it. I've had a lot of more meaningful relationships with women after a night like this for exactly that reason.

    It's all about thinking long run... you know?


    anyway thanks for the kind words
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    Default Re: Next-Morning Awkwardness... what do I say?!

    Dude i hope you are not thinking of pursuing her romantically becos you missed a huge shot maybe headed to the friendzone or greyzone at the moment.her not coming to work after that was a way in which you could have showed intent.dont go telling feelings as of yet.if you feel like letting it out hold it and may blog here.


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