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    Default Once you get the number what to do?

    I have no problem when I go out to places whether it's a bsr or club or even the supermarket I have no problem getting girls numbers. My problem is once I get the number what do i do? Should i hit the girl up the next day or a couple of days after and do I call or text? Also when should i try to initiate a date? Any help would be appreciated.

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    Default Re: Once you get the number what to do?

    That can be tricky. In my experience getting numbers at a bar or club is hit and miss. My success rate is about 3-4 dates with every 10 numbers I get at a bar/club. Sometimes the girl doesn't remember you. Women can give their numbers out like candy at these places. If your getting a girls number at a supermarket/gas station/school the success rate should be WAY WAY higher. She gave you her number because she is interested. If you escalated at a bar/club and k-closed you should be golden. I find that allot of the women I Number Close at bars/clubs that don't end up in a date, is because I didn't create enough attraction initially.

    When you should call/text. I used to have a rule: wait three days. That worked fine but now that I've gotten older I don't do this. I text/call whenever I feel like it. If it's the next day it's the next day. I don't think it's that important. I always call. When I started getting good with women 8 years ago if you texted first you were labeled a p*ssy. You had no balls. Well things have changed and some younger women who very rarely/if ever talk on the phone can get creeped out if you call. On the other hand, I've had many younger women tell me how much they like it that I call them because no other guy EVER does. You can set yourself apart if you call. I personally don't like texting very much so I call. If she doesn't like it, it won't work. I don't really care.

    The reason why your contacting her is to set up a date. I don't beat around the bush. I set up a date the first time I contact her, that's why I got her number! I know some guys on here who have really strong text game and they can turn more numbers into dates than I can. Some women need to be coaxed if you didn't properly escalate attraction when you met them. If you can do this awesome. I have done this before but it's not my strong suit and I really don't give a fark. It can be done, but I can't give you solid advice on that.

    If you do your job properly, and create enough attraction when you meet her, all you really need to do is contact her and set up a date. She will show up.

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    Default Re: Once you get the number what to do?

    Dammit that's some great farking advice. You follow what Direct said and you'll be fine. The whole point of PUA is eventually learn how to do whatever it is you want to do with women properly, as contradictory as that may sound. It's a mental switch that occurs that allows you to do whatever it is you want to do.

    Example: When first getting into the game you might want to call a girl, but you don't do it because you hear it's better to text. After learning the game, and meshing it into your personality, all you end up doing is calling women and don't bother texting. What changed? Your Mindset changed and that's all it really takes to succeed at this.

    So what's my point? If you can follow David X's 2 rules from the jump, you'll be golden. It allows you to do WHATEVER it is you feel like doing. The 2 rules are who cares what she thinks, and you're the most important person in the relationship. If you can fully grasp these 2 concepts then you'll understand that you can call when you feel like, you can initiate a date when you feel like, you can text when you feel like it etc, etc, etc.

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    Default Re: Once you get the number what to do?

    Text immediately, so you never need to worry about whether or not she gets the text. Better, have her text you.

    Don't wait. Things move fast in teh 21st century.

    Text is easier because of convenience. Call when you are trying to solidify something that is getting confusing over text.

    Text is light and playful with purpose of setting up a time and place to meet.
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    Default Re: Once you get the number what to do?

    Quote Originally Posted by cdharders View Post
    Text immediately, so you never need to worry about whether or not she gets the text. Better, have her text you.

    Don't wait. Things move fast in teh 21st century.

    Text is easier because of convenience. Call when you are trying to solidify something that is getting confusing over text.

    Text is light and playful with purpose of setting up a time and place to meet.
    This is where i'm lost. I'll usually text something in reference to wherever I met the girl but after that idk what to text. i'll usually just ask how her days going and then more pointless texting. I don't know what my purpose is basically when i'm initially texting her.

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    Default Re: Once you get the number what to do?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    That can be tricky. In my experience getting numbers at a bar or club is hit and miss. My success rate is about 3-4 dates with every 10 numbers I get at a bar/club. Sometimes the girl doesn't remember you. Women can give their numbers out like candy at these places. If your getting a girls number at a supermarket/gas station/school the success rate should be WAY WAY higher. She gave you her number because she is interested. If you escalated at a bar/club and k-closed you should be golden. I find that allot of the women I Number Close at bars/clubs that don't end up in a date, is because I didn't create enough attraction initially.

    When you should call/text. I used to have a rule: wait three days. That worked fine but now that I've gotten older I don't do this. I text/call whenever I feel like it. If it's the next day it's the next day. I don't think it's that important. I always call. When I started getting good with women 8 years ago if you texted first you were labeled a p*ssy. You had no balls. Well things have changed and some younger women who very rarely/if ever talk on the phone can get creeped out if you call. On the other hand, I've had many younger women tell me how much they like it that I call them because no other guy EVER does. You can set yourself apart if you call. I personally don't like texting very much so I call. If she doesn't like it, it won't work. I don't really care.

    The reason why your contacting her is to set up a date. I don't beat around the bush. I set up a date the first time I contact her, that's why I got her number! I know some guys on here who have really strong text game and they can turn more numbers into dates than I can. Some women need to be coaxed if you didn't properly escalate attraction when you met them. If you can do this awesome. I have done this before but it's not my strong suit and I really don't give a fark. It can be done, but I can't give you solid advice on that.

    If you do your job properly, and create enough attraction when you meet her, all you really need to do is contact her and set up a date. She will show up.
    usually I know enough about the girl to plan out a decent date. My problem is on that initial call what do i say? Idk if I should just get straight to the point and ask her out on the date or ask her how her day is going or anything else?

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    Default Re: Once you get the number what to do?

    Quote Originally Posted by rcraig617 View Post
    This is where i'm lost. I'll usually text something in reference to wherever I met the girl but after that idk what to text. i'll usually just ask how her days going and then more pointless texting. I don't know what my purpose is basically when i'm initially texting her.

    I can't explain how much I liked that you brought pointless text up. You have to remember that you don't have to reply to every text a girl sends you. If the conversation is dying down and you knew the conversation is pointless then you shouldn't keep texting her. Tell her you'll talk to her later or just don't reply back at all. ( that's a sticking point I'm facing too). Also when you initiate a text the point is to build rapport, comfort, and if you want sexual escalation so the frame is already established when you meet up. It's a taste of yourself, but you also got to make her qualify to you too. Remember it takes 2 halves to make a whole.
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    Default Re: Once you get the number what to do?

    When I call I initiate a little small talk then get straight to the point. Example:

    Me: Hey Tina it's Carl. We met at xxx
    Her: Oh Hey! How are you?! (or something along those lines)
    Me: I'm good. How about you? Or I'm good. Tell me about your day etc.
    Her: Blah blah blah
    Me: That's good or that's cool. Tell me your schedule for the week.
    Her: I work blah blah and I have this going on this day. Blah blah blah. (this is when you pick a day/time that you are free and that she doesn't have plans)
    Me: Perfect I'm going to xxx at (insert time). You should join me. Or I'm going to xxx at (insert time), you're invited.
    Her: Ok that sounds like fun. (or something along those lines)

    If both of your schedules conflict for the week tell her "that's a bummer, I had a really good conversation with you when we met, but I'm really busy this week and our schedules don't mesh. I'll call you next week and maybe we can work something out". Then end the convo and call her next week. I also avoid making plans on a Friday or Saturday with a woman I don't know very well. It will increase the chance that she'll flake because she wants to do things with her friends.


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