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Thread: gender roles, touch, and other stuff

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    Default gender roles, touch, and other stuff

    so something I struggle with is the concept of gender roles. I've always been uncomfortable with the idea of leading escalation. I've always thought to myself "it's not fair! girls have it so easy! this is bullshit! women should learn how to lead too!" but then I thought, "why not me?" I turned the tables and asked myself "why does it have to be them?" I also get pissed off whenever I hear people talk about how women want a "provider". it sounds like superconservative 50's bullshit to me. There may be some truth in it, and every woman is different, so I'm trying to figure out the most realistic way of thinking about it.

    I also wrestle with the idea of touching people who I'm not *really really* interested in as a friend or sex partner. I think I need to expand my personal bubble a little bit. I don't flirt with anyone unless I really want to be with them. I don't just flirt for fun. trying to figure out how to change my Mindset on that as well.

    those are my thoughts as I read the forums and read PUA podcasts. feel free to send feedback/comments/whatever.

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    We lead because we are men. Whether it's fair or not doesn't change that truth. Girls have it easy, why? Surely both sides have their ups and downs. It may seem like it's easier for them because you are not secure in your man hood. There's nothing difficult about it to begin with.

    Define "provider". Women want security. How you provide that varies greatly. Why do we provide security? Because we are men. Why aren't babies the leader of their house holds? Because they are babies. We are the leaders because we are men, nothing more, nothing less.

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    Like it or hate it, it exists. You need to have more fun. Then, you will care more about relationships. Let go of the outcome and you will be much happier.

    It's awesome getting to choose when you get to escalate on the girl. Wouldn't it suck to have to wait and hope she escalated on you or have people escalate on you that disgusted you. Embrace being a man.
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    Default Re: gender roles, touch, and other stuff

    cdharders hit it right on the head. I love the fact that I can see a girls into me and I decide if I want to do anything about it. It gives me the power and control!

    In the girls case it would suck to always be waiting to see if anything happens. I know allot of guys who should make a move and don't even when they want too. How disappointing for the girl. They also have to deal with all their male "friends" trying to hook up with them. I've had drunk girls make a move on me that were very unattractive. It's not fun! As a women this happens often. Embrace it my man. We have it easy!


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