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    Default Uninterested in Talking to Guys

    I noticed this a while a go when I was at the pub just having a pint... I'm 6'8" so naturally the tall questions and remarks come out of people quite easily and over the years I've grown to be quite uninterested in people, particularly men, who come up and obnoxiously remark how tall I am. If a man asks me how tall I am during the day then I'm almost telling myself not to hurt him. But if I'm out at a pub or whatever then I'm more open about it and really friendly. It's obviously not that bad when an HB notices because I don't have to worry about opening her. And if they(guys) politely exclaim and a conversation begins it's fine, but otherwise I get this feeling that they're beneath me and not worth my time.

    Any other freakishly tall guys have the same problem?

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    Default Re: Uninterested in Talking to Guys

    Are you just trying to brag about shit on the internet? You have two new threads in three posts. One is whining about diving with sharks for a job and the other is whining about guys talking to you because you're 6'8".

    Cool story bro?
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    Default Re: Uninterested in Talking to Guys

    It's okay to have those feelings Duke. If it's the sharks that you're mad about then PM me and maybe I can take you diving sometime. If not, then don't reply to my thread telling me that I am whining and trying to brag about sh1t to a bunch of usernames.

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    Seriously, you're on a PUA forum looking for validation from a bunch of usernames, not me.

    And if they(guys) politely exclaim and a conversation begins it's fine, but otherwise I get this feeling that they're beneath me and not worth my time.

    I mean, seriously? The Am I Too Short? thread is one of the most popular threads on this site and you're throwing up shit complaining about being 6'8" and diving with sharks. Then people ask if any of this is causing you problems and your response is, "No it is working for me. I just wanted to get some more input on what others might say about it. Thanks for the contriboot though, I'll be sure to try it out next time."

    You're just looking for people to tell you how awesome you are. Well, diving with sharks is pretty fucking cool and you're blessed with good genetics. But seriously, what's the point in posting this shit for anything other than validation?
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    Default Re: Uninterested in Talking to Guys

    I'm not posting for any validation whatsoever. I'm honestly just asking for people's thoughts on it. Yes, it works and I know that. But I wanted to see if someone might be able to swing it differently. As far as what I said-"I just wanted to get some more input on what others might say about it." I was purely asking for how they might say it.

    I wanted to know if any other guys have an issue with people constantly bothering them about their height because it's something I'd like to change.

    I don't how else to explain it. I'm not seeking validation, I'm only asking for people's thoughts.

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    Ok, well, if you're looking for help or opinions on something, it's best not to do so in an inflammatory way. Trust me, I'm not short, I have a ballin job, and I could careless what you do or how tall you are. My point is, that stating shit like "I get this feeling that they're beneath me," is likely going to get a rise out of people. The way you say shit and the way you frame it matters.

    As for your problem with height, the issue isn't the other people, it's the way you're framing it. It's not a negative thing that people are talking to you about it. I've dealt with being a bigger guy my whole life. Went through school with smaller guys wanting to fight me on a daily basis because they wanted to take down the big guy. But if you move past it and stop focusing on it yourself then it becomes a non-issue. If someone approaches you about your height just give them a quick, "Yep, good genetics," and then change the subject.

    If the conversations you're having aren't going in the direction you want them to go then it's your fault for not leading them in the direction you want. If you start taking responsibility for that and understanding that you have control over your own social interactions, then you're not going to feel superiority towards these people because you'll understand that this is happening through a failing of your own. Moreover, give the guy who approaches you about your height props. He was probably just looking to strike up a conversation with you and your height was the most readily apparent thing to talk about. It's the same as going up to a girl and commenting on what she's wearing or her hair/eye color/any generic physical aspect. Not necessarily inventive, but it shows that they took a chance and opened up to you in a small way. You could do them the common courtesy of returning the favor and not judging them over that small talk.

    As a side note, I don't really understand why it would irritate you that guys do this unless you're insecure about your height in some regard. So why does this even bother you in the first place?
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    Default Re: Uninterested in Talking to Guys

    Thanks for understanding man. The reason the height thing bothers me is because so many people that talk to me about it do so in an obnoxious way and I end up getting annoyed. Yeah, I give them short answers and move on but I'm just an easily irritable person. I've always go "It's no big deal" in the back of my head but there's always that one person. I totally get what you're saying though and thanks for helpin out.

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    Default Re: Uninterested in Talking to Guys

    Then I believe the points you should read up on is not letting things get to you. You need to control emotion because if guys find a soft spot, they can AMOG the hell out of you.

    Don't get so bent out of shape about it. Maybe some of those guys were targeting you because you're good looking lol. Maybe they were trying to throw you off your game.

    Look up inner game and why you should not take things too seriously. Oh and if you deal with the height questions differently with men as opposed to women, women will pick up on that. They can sense that you are only nice to them because they are hot or whatever. Not good imho
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    Default Re: Uninterested in Talking to Guys

    I completely agree with LockDown on this. Not only are you open to being AMOGed, but you're passing up huge opportunities where other guys are involved. Take a look at this guide I wrote which will explain how other guys can exploit this and how you'll miss opportunities because of your own frame.
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    Hmm that link you gave is giving me a 404


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