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    Default How to ask new girl at work to the movies?

    So there is this good looking girl that just started working with me (it's a large grocery store) that caught my eye. I met her that one day and I'm not sure if I'm going to see her today when I go to work or not but if I do I want to get something going. So I started talking to her using small talk stuff like where are you from and such and asked if we knew people that we knew from each others schools and I threw a couple corny jokes that she giggled at and a couple times I caught her looking at me out of the corner of my eye. The problem is I haven't done the dating thing for awhile since I just broke up with my ex after being together 10 months like 2 months ago, so I completely forgot how to talk to girls and what to do in between meeting them and going on a date and what to do in order to lead to the first kiss. I forgot because when I first did all this with my ex I just went for all of it but I knew she really had the hots for me and I wouldn't have had to see her again if she turned me down. But with this girl, I just met her and I work with her so if I just shot the question I'd look stupid. So how would I go from small talk into complimenting her looks and using Kino in order to ask her for her number and take her to the movies? For the kino I was going to do something corny like get her to say something about my strength or physique and ask her if she wants to touch my muscle and then ask her if I could feel hers. Any thoughts?

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    Default Re: How to ask new girl at work to the movies?

    What's your job? If it's a serious job, I'd hold off. As annoying as it is. Too much drama can happen with workplace drama and it could result in serious shit for you career wise
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    Default Re: How to ask new girl at work to the movies?

    Quote Originally Posted by Trickstar View Post
    The problem is I haven't done the dating thing for awhile since I just broke up with my ex after being together 10 months like 2 months ago, so I completely forgot how to talk to girls and what to do in between meeting them and going on a date and what to do in order to lead to the first kiss.
    And this, gentlemen, is why I am still participating actively on the forums, despite the fact that I have a girlfriend. You NEVER want to lose touch with how society operates. And being out of the game for even a month can have devastating effects on you.

    If you talk to her outside of the workplace, then you should be fine. When I did spit fire down at the lake, I always did it off hours. When you do talk to her, you should start out with light banter. Just begin with simple, little, light rapport conversations. After a while, then you can try and escalate things with trying to get her number or going to the movies (I would aim for the movies first).

    One last thing, I would avoid the muscles comment. That's just show-offish. If you want some good ideas, check out the threads on Kino here on the forums.
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    Default Re: How to ask new girl at work to the movies?

    Swagman got everything down to the teeth, OK one thing is remember your in a grocery store it will be hard unless you two take breaks together. Also this brings up another question for me. And will probably help trickstar too, how much is too much Kino while working.
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    Default Re: How to ask new girl at work to the movies?

    Try not to take her to a movie. It's a bad first date location:

    1/ You can't talk to her to run game

    2/ You will look beta sitting next to her compared to a rich, famous male actor on the movie screen whether it's an action movie or a chick flick. After watching a movie it takes a girl about two hours before the reality of life hits her. Unfortunately you will be there for those two hours after the movie when she is still in fantasy land.

    Pick something else to do the first date.

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    Default Re: How to ask new girl at work to the movies?

    don't do movie first dates man. just think to yourself, every "average" guy thinks that the movies is a great first date. You don't want to be considered average do ya? heck no, you wanna stand out. and those dates just suck period.
    Pick an action date. I cant remember where I read it but I believe it gets some chemical called endorphins pumping? idk I don't have time to look it up but you want that.
    So, ice skating, roller blading, a walk in the park, have her "help" you with some errands. idk do something along those lines man. somewhere where your comfortable and you can really get to know her in a fun way
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    Default Re: How to ask new girl at work to the movies?

    Well considering I don't have a car and it's winter (most likely she will be driving), what do you suggest I do? Would inviting them to do something that friends would seem "friendly" to do like basketball or sledding be good to do? I've had this idea with a girl before because of the intense Kino required (in basketball, for example, you can get playfully rough with the girl while guarding her or vice versa) but later thought it wasn't a good idea because it would put the image in the girls mind that we were just friends.

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    Default Re: How to ask new girl at work to the movies?

    Movies are a great for Kino...just depends on how comfortabe she is with you. Here's what I would do and hopefully it'll be comfortable for you to do:

    Get to know her better. This is crucial to making a first date at the movies work. You want her comfortable enough to be receptive to your touch during the movie. Give this about a few more days.

    While you're getting to know her, give her friendly touches. Hug when you see her, high five when you walk past (be natural about it and don't overdo it), the occasional poke to let her know you're around will work wonders.

    As for the conversation, mention you're good at massages; see where I'm going with this? Give her a small hand massage if the opportunity presents itself. Don't give her too much attention, either - after you know get to know enough about her, talk much less, touch more.

    Ask her to the movies like you would anyone else. She's receptive to your touching? Perfect - assume she's interested and so is her cat.

    During the movie, get your arm around her. Do NOTHING with it until it feels natural for both of you. Shortly after, tickle her a bit and don't overdo it. When the movie has it's lower moments, ask her if she'd like a massage (now you know where I was going) and begin! Do what you would do during foreplay, but SLOWLY (and with her consent) move to other parts. Ask her what's good, bad, how she likes it, etc. You do this right and kissing shouldn't be hard at all - just turn her head and effin go for it!
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    Default Re: How to ask new girl at work to the movies?

    That was actually extremely helpful. Every other time I went, all I'd do was put my arm around her walking up to the theater (which always surprised them, because when I've taken girls to the movies before they thought I was joking when I said they were my date playfully) and always turns out well. However from there its always variable, I typically get too nervous to push anything else unless the girl shows obvious approval (like my ex put my hands around her waist as we walked to our seats on our first date) and they do something like lean on me or take a piece of my clothing and wear it. With her, I also just dove in for the kiss AFTER the movie and turned it into a make out session, which I don't think I'd be able to do with every girl so your way of setting it up is great advice. However I do have a question as to how I should ask her to the movies, like in wording. I typically shift the conversation to a date or a movie and then just say "want to go to a movie at [time]?" or "lets go to a movie". I mean, I've mostly had yes's with this but I feel like if I say it differently I can make them more into the idea. Can I get some ideas as to the preceding conversation before I pop the question and how to word the question in the most effective way?

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    Default Re: How to ask new girl at work to the movies?

    Statements work better than questions, in my opinion. As for the preceding conversation, it can be about anything. Seriously, the important thing is to keep everything looking natural. Just segue into a topic related to the movie and say you have an idea (be enthusiastic). Then tell her to come with you to watch a movie. Make the movie seem important to you rather than her company. If she declines, tease her a bit and say if you never see, it's her fault. Don't worry about the gap in logic here; just do it
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