Re: I suck at club game
First things first I just wrote a post in this same section check that out. Second we are complete opposites and I am really good at Night Game but have to work on my day game this year. So my previous post was just a warm up here's the real deal.
Checking you out you say? Focus on the moment. First flirt with the hot bartenders. Become a regular (during the Summer when hot chicks are out in droves), then buy new clothes, work out and stuff. Lastly have good openers. I have made out with VIP table girls, pulled VIP girls from their friends, caught girls following me around, had the Cocktail Waitress try to pick me up, got the Bartender's number, got bartender's to get me in free, get me free drinks, gotten to know the DJ's, Bartenders, other regulars. Then once all that is done I sometimes find my own wing (while out) then go to town. As you can see getting to know people helps your value in Clubs. Here's how it goes down but believe it or not I like the Bar I go to better.
10PM- Get a couple drinks in me, check the area, hit up the bartenders, Dj's, regulars, scout for HB's.
11PM-Approach first Set (usually a 7)
12:30AM-Done about 10 Sets by now open with "Hey I didn't want to lose you, how drunk are you, are you having fun, where are your friends, hey I noticed you, etc"
By using these simple tactics I come up with big openers "Bring It, Test Me, You took my breath away" which when calibrated knock it out the park and get me instant validation.
Let's say a girl is checking me out, even before 11PM I will instantly open the Set. The reason you are failing is cuz you are validation seeking and needy. When I am out to have fun and screw with chicks I get farther. I make things hard to understand on purpose. When she says she can't hear me I tell her she likes hearing me talk and purposely make it funny. When she pushes me away I tell her she wants me more and I re-approach later.
For instance the target says she "won't give her number" and " is a lesbian" on my 3rd approach I do a low ball move and move into proximity without approaching the target for the target to see me. Target makes eye contact and say with my lips "Come On!?" and throw up my hands to end up with a sad panda face. Target approaches grabs me for makeout.
Target says to "go away" and pushes me away after my 2nd failed approach as I tell her I forgot her number. Target immediately isolates herself. Follow target and say "But you won't be here next weekend?" With a fun playful vibe. Target is in my arms and begging to go up stairs where we kissed.
Target is a hardcase. Every approach ends haphazard and quickly usually with the cold shoulder. On my 4th approach finally finally I say "I know now you are not with anyone, have you been waiting for me?" Target "I'm with a guy." but she doesn't say with conviction so I broke through the iceshield by just standing there with conviction and target waits for my next move with conviction.
Girls checking me out just make easy approaches but you sound like you are approval seeking. When you are approval seeking doing kino, doing the approach, doing the N-close or K-close you are putting tons of pressure on yourself and due to the law of state transfer women can feel this pressure and usually look at you wrong and say "No" because they feel you are not congruent. Also girls are notorious for this and why not a simple friendly hello? They automatically assume romatic intent that's why going direct can help Disarm them sometimes.
101 Sets, 30 #'s, 4 K-closes, 1 Date, 1 Bar Pull. My next adventure starts Summer 2014 at the Brewfest, Water Park, Bars, Clubs, etc. Getting Hotels now to prevent driving drunk so really only 2-3 times a month doing Night Game June-Oct. Lots of Day Game.