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Thread: Need advice on woman who works in a store

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    Default Need advice on woman who works in a store

    Hey guys, despite the fact that I give advice on here and have lots of knowledge and have read a lot I haven't actually been out on a date in a while.

    Anyway, there's this one young woman who I am interested in and I get the feeling she is possibly interested in me. I know her because she works in a store(usually as a cashier or customer service) and I'm a customer. I don't even know her name. I'm too busy talking to her to check out her name badge I guess. She's a brunette with long hair(about an HB8).

    I told her I haven't seen her there(at the store much lately)and she revealed where she works most of the time(another store about 8 miles away). I told her I would stop by sometime which she seemed ok with. I am thinking about asking her out for lunch but am not certain as to how to go about it or what to say. I was thinking about something like this(after a minute or so of casual conversation). Hey, you and I should get lunch sometime. Sound good? Let's exchange emails and we'll set it up." If that doesn't sound good then I would like to know what would be a better approach and what would be a better way of putting it. Thanks.

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    Default Re: Need advice on woman who works in a store

    I figured out what day she works at store one(where I'm used to seeing her)so I'm not sure I will just show up at the other place. I think if I did she would know why I was there anyway. I just have to figure out what I'm going to say next time I see her and I have to do it in a way that doesn't seem weird. Still waiting hear from other members on here.

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    Default Re: Need advice on woman who works in a store

    You're outcome dependant, and that is hard to hide. I am also gonna guess that you don't really have any other girls on the go right now - not trying to be mean, that's just how it sounds.

    Do not go to her other work. It's fine that you said you might sometime, even more so if you never actually do.

    If you really like her, talk to some other girls first, get a couple phone numbers etc. Have some more options. Then, the next time you see her there (store 1), make some small talk again, and tell her you'd like to get a drink or dinner with her sometime.. Be firm and confident in the idea of it. If she agrees to it, exchange numbers.

    It's okay to be a little nervous, don't beat yourself up over it, that will only make it worse... You will feel better though if it doesn't feel like she is the only girl in your world.

    Don't rush it, there is no real time limit to your situation. It's okay if a few weeks pass.

    Just my opinion.

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    Default Re: Need advice on woman who works in a store

    I like what you put, just ask her out to lunch, worse case she moves on and you find someone else. The longer you wait and stress over it the more it will just bug you, if she is into you she will say yes.

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    Default Re: Need advice on woman who works in a store

    Being so specific on the activity could shoot you in the foot. There's a possibility lunch isn't a good time for her. Ideally, you'd talk to her, find an activity the two of you have in common and talk about doing that activity then number-close her on that. Get her number not her email. If you are dead set on lunch, first have her agree to hang out, then agree to lunch. It's a compliance ladder. Say, "You seem fun. I've gotta go, but we should hang out sometime." She agrees or doesn't. If she agrees, say, "Cool. What's your number?" Then, "Cool when are you free this week?" THen, "Cool. I've been wanting to check out [restaurant that is decent/trendy but not too expensive and elaborate] this week. How about we go [date and time she's free]?"
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    Default Re: Need advice on woman who works in a store

    Quote Originally Posted by twentynine View Post
    You're outcome dependant, and that is hard to hide. I am also gonna guess that you don't really have any other girls on the go right now - not trying to be mean, that's just how it sounds.

    Do not go to her other work. It's fine that you said you might sometime, even more so if you never actually do.

    If you really like her, talk to some other girls first, get a couple phone numbers etc. Have some more options. Then, the next time you see her there (store 1), make some small talk again, and tell her you'd like to get a drink or dinner with her sometime.. Be firm and confident in the idea of it. If she agrees to it, exchange numbers.

    It's okay to be a little nervous, don't beat yourself up over it, that will only make it worse... You will feel better though if it doesn't feel like she is the only girl in your world.

    Don't rush it, there is no real time limit to your situation. It's okay if a few weeks pass.

    Just my opinion.
    As far as not having any other girls in my queue you are right. There was another one who I was sort of friends with and we were texting eachother on and off for a while but she didn't respond to my last few texts. Too bad but I'm ok with moving on. I might be outcome dependent but I'm not dependent on one woman. In other words I don't feel I have oneitis. If one woman isn't interested that's her loss and I'm on to the next. I'm not really looking for anything super serious right now anyway but if I were to meet the right one(and I'm certainly not counting on that)then I would consider focusing on one woman.

    I'm actually not nervous(maybe that means I'm not so outcome dependent after all)because I don't care that much about the situation or what happens. She seems nice and like she might be fun. But if she doesn't want to get together I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. It's her loss not mine.

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    Default Re: Need advice on woman who works in a store

    [Say, "You seem fun. I've gotta go, but we should hang out sometime."]

    The only possible problem with this is she might think it means hang out for sex or that I just want an f buddy. I know guys don't see it that way but I'm pretty sure most women would be thinking that because it just sounds like you want to hang out and not go on an actual date. So I would maybe change it slightly to "You seem fun. I've got to go now but we should get together sometime(instead of hang out)like maybe for lunch or something." Or I could say "hangout" as long as I add the "maybe for lunch or something." If I say "or something" then I'm not limiting it to just lunch.


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