I've been a PUA for many months now, however this is my first post as usually I can overcome obstacles. This is the first time I'm legitimately stumped and my discussions with my wings have lead to no clear conclusion.
A bit of backstory -
I graduated Highschool in 2010 with this girl (HB9) and she definitely gave me IOI's in school and even Kino escalating me (hugging me, sitting on my lap: forgive me brothers, I was an AFC, I didnt notice :C) and even asked me to our senior prom to which I declined as I did not plan to attend.
Fast forward a bit, I'm in the Navy now and stationed in Yokosuka, Japan (feel free to message me if any of you want to sarge out here). We made plans to hang out last time I was home but they fell through. (later said she called me but I never answered). Any ways, yesterday I got one of her "random messages" and I'm posting the highlights below so you have a bit of context.
She re-opened me yesterday-
her: u know i called u to hang out with u when u were here and u never called me back not much effort on both our parts tho
me: What phone did you call? I never got it
her: w.e number i have in my cell
but i reached out to u and u texted me actually from the number i used so def was working, but i never heard back so i was just like welppp he cant say i played him, i did try.
me: Its cool, you couldve messaged me on fb, i can get that wherever
her: but i used the number u texted me from when u were her in jersey
so i didnt think to even facebook u i felt like if did and u didnt reply once i wud just be annoying so i didnt bother
me: Did it bother you i didnt answer?
her: yeah and then i saw pix of u partying and passed out and im like really, i wont see him now till idk when
part 2 after some Fluff-
her: llol grrrrr so mad now, wth!!! wish u were home i cud use someone to talk to about so much i miss u!
me: oh yeah?
her:yeah, mad i didnt see u and now i have to wait again
me: whys that
her: do u miss me? if so then u have ur answer
me: well duh, at least a little
me: Thats my answer ...?
her: at least alittle was ur answer
me: "At least a little" means a little or more, Maybe im just shy
her: -_____- stop being shy lol u told me more than u miss me before in conversations (*when i was an AFC), than again u were always tipsy at those times, but still, stop being shy
me: Tell me why and ill tell you how much for real
her: cus i like u even though i havent seen u to really explore that feeling and those thoughts.
me: And what feelings would that be?
her: well if u like someone u have feelings for them. and i wud like to see if those feelings r legit or its just a thought or idk. so hanging out with u wud help me understand them more.
her: lol ur an idiot
me: No im not, youre attracted to me
her: i wonder why humans are attracted to other humans the way they are
me: Would you rather be attracted to something else?
her: like what
me: Idk you tell me
her: ur the one tht said it
me: Youre the one whos attracted to me
her: u kno what i appreciate is u make time for me regardless of ur busy life , ive dated people tht dont do tht and its annoying. girls like attention
regardless! (*I've concluded that by mentioning ex's to contrast my behavior she may well be pondering what a relationship with me would be like)
me: I give time to those who give me time relationships are a two way road
her: yeah exactly!
me: All i ask from others is understanding when im incapable of giving my time due to circumstances
her: well i understand tht because i needed tht from ppl wen i as in nursing school
part 4, this was this morning-
her: my sickness is going away I feell better thank god
me: I guess im just your good luck charm
her: Haha maybe I'm going out tonight can't wait
me: Gonna go talk to some cute boys?
her: Lol the promoter has a thing for me, But I been dating someone for a month and a half now
me: Ooh thats good, i bet he treats you great
her: Yeah he does just works alot
me: Thats good
her: No I hate it.
me: What!? Why??
her: Cus I dnt get to see him a lot
me: Yeah but if hes a great guy, which im sure he is, it shouldnt bother you that much
In conclusion, you can see I initially started running a BF Destroyer, however she hasnt seen my message yet, which Ive attributed to her night out. I've read many articles on BF Destroyers to study up in the time being. I got excited at the thought of running the Zebra Method because in the past three years our relationship has been very friendly and platonic so it would separate us from that and set the stage for me by clearly stating my intent and asserting myself. I feel very confident in my ability to pull it off although I'm uncertain in which method would be best. I've never encountered this. I'm getting clear IOI's, basically stated shes attracted to me (at least...she didnt deny it o_O) but then she dropped that "I have a boyfriend" bomb.
I'm considering abandoning the routine I'd begun in the convo and continuing the sarge as if she's never mentioned it since it isnt that serious yet. Sorry for the long post! thoughts???