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  1. #1
    Nubbi Guest

    Default Befriending Girls You're Not Attracted To

    This takes off from Risque's advice to me to treat gay guys like I would a girl am not attracted to or some UFF.

    But what if some girls are attracted to you and you want their friend instead, or are hoping they'd open more doors to more FB accounts at least instead? I have enough female friends, mostly classmates and orgmates, but what do you do when a girl is looking to flirt and you're not interested but don't wanna burn that particular bridge because it may just lead to a campus hottie?

    How do you not offend girls you reject?

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    sh3pherdd Guest

    Default Re: Befriending Girls You're Not Attracted To

    what i usually do is say something terminal to the conversation but nice, then smile, and divert your attention elsewhere. they'll catch on to your lack of interest but not see you as an asshole. for example:

    friend: are you originally from around here?
    you: yes i am, born and raised. (do a quick smile move your body language to everyone and say something to the whole group)

    if anyone has better ideas feel free to chime in, that's just what i usually do.

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    SpringBreak Guest

    Default Re: Befriending Girls You're Not Attracted To

    Do share tips guys as i've found myself burned in similar situations. Plus, girl friends are great wingmen if you can get them to help you.

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    Typhoon Guest

    Default Re: Befriending Girls You're Not Attracted To

    I stay nice, I don't bring up sex and dating. I ask them instead downer, generic questions like "how's school, how's work, how was your day" if we're talking one on one. And if need be, I drop them off first.

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    Kheaven Guest

    Default Re: Befriending Girls You're Not Attracted To

    Quote Originally Posted by sh3pherdd View Post
    what i usually do is say something terminal to the conversation but nice, then smile, and divert your attention elsewhere. they'll catch on to your lack of interest but not see you as an asshole. for example:

    friend: are you originally from around here?
    you: yes i am, born and raised. (do a quick smile move your body language to everyone and say something to the whole group)

    if anyone has better ideas feel free to chime in, that's just what i usually do.
    Very good advice.
    I do much of the same.

    If it is in the scenario of being in a group, they usually work as someone to give your body language towards while the HB sees your interaction, and depending on how good of friends the HB and let's call her HBF (HotBabeFriend) she will notice this interaction to her obviously less attractive friend.
    -The response that I've gotten usually leads to having a convo with just the HBF and the HB since my interaction is with the HBF attracts the HB into coming and building curiosity on what she is doing to get my attention rather than her.

    -Of course everything is situational and this is just from my experience.

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    TheGuyYouWishUWere Guest

    Default Re: Befriending Girls You're Not Attracted To

    I usually don't flake the girls right away that are interested in me but i'm not interested in. It might be kind of unethical to keep them in the dark, but when you DON'T give them any direct ioi's but on the other hand don't flake them either and just be nice to them i usually find them to become of high social value.

    Except when the one you want is a very close friend of theirs, i would tell her that you like her alot but as a friend (lol). I'd stay a nice guy for them not to cockblock you from her GF but make sure that she doesn't get the wrong idea and tell her GF she likes you and visa versa.. that makes things kinda tricky..

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    Kheaven Guest

    Default Re: Befriending Girls You're Not Attracted To

    Quote Originally Posted by TheGuyYouWishUWere View Post
    I usually don't flake the girls right away that are interested in me but i'm not interested in. It might be kind of unethical to keep them in the dark, but when you DON'T give them any direct IOI's but on the other hand don't flake them either and just be nice to them i usually find them to become of high social value.

    Except when the one you want is a very close friend of theirs, i would tell her that you like her alot but as a friend (lol). I'd stay a nice guy for them not to cockblock you from her GF but make sure that she doesn't get the wrong idea and tell her GF she likes you and visa versa.. that makes things kinda tricky..
    What I usually do is use them to my AMOG advantage.
    At the parties I go to, everyone usually goes outside to smoke a bowl.
    Carrying a lighter around and standing next to the HBF work great.
    -Characteristic of AMOG is getting more credit minor acts of kindness in which the HB will see that you're doing something for the HBF who is obviously less attractive, but you somehow have your attention toward the HBF which the HB isn't used to.

    *There is no real need to actually befriend the HBF, just to have your body language towards and to ask her questions which is the HB will notice as getting less attention (at the least, noticing the HBF is getting more attention than her).

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    Default Re: Befriending Girls You're Not Attracted To

    1) I stop the Kino, or start making it brotherly.
    2) I stop being sexual
    3) I mention future things we will be doing together that are very friend oriented.
    4) I become more of a clown (Remember, women love clowns as friends and to invite out, but they don't want to date them.)

    You can ask generic questions, but often they will lose interest, and leave you which isn't what you want.

    If the girl doesn't pick up soon, I just straight up tell her, that I enjoy hanging out with her, but I'm just not interest in dating. Most women take it well, and afterwards, just be very friendly so that they know that you truly do want to hang out. It is important that you stay very friendly with them, otherwise they will assume that by "let's just be friends" you are really politely telling them to get lost.

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    SpringBreak Guest

    Default Re: Befriending Girls You're Not Attracted To

    Hahahaha.... yeah I guess instead of lightly touching them, you'd friendly punch them on the shoulders as you would your buds...

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    Default Re: Befriending Girls You're Not Attracted To

    Yes. Things like putting an arm around her shoulder and giving her a quick hug, ruffling her hair (if it isn't really done up), pulling her pig tails, light punching, high fiveing, fist bumps. Some of this could be considered normal Kino, but the context, and the fact that you don't escalate quickly makes it apparent that you are "just friends".


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