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    Default Indirect Approach-Building Connections

    I have been doing this in-field for over 6 months now with a certain lack of consistency due to work commitments. Now, I also espouse certain specific characteristic idiosyncrasies that is detrimental to my approach towards the game. First and foremost, is my inability to emote or show emotions through facial expressions. It is a bit of a handicap but I do get great results at times in-field since I am somewhat better than average looking and especially on days that I have a strong vibe.

    I prefer in-direct since it gives me more room to maneuver and in a country like India going direct might be construed as being eve-teasing (which is a legal offence). I have had a few number closes and even a few f-closes and yet my overall approach remains sloppy. I have trouble introducing Kino during a cold approach since I am not sure as to when it would be deemed as being appropriate.

    Also, I would like to deviate from a tendency to use routines but I am unable to build connections and do not know how exactly can I keep the conversation going?....

    Yesterday, I approached a hot chica and used my standard approach doctrine. However she refused to give me her contact details. Her exact words were "I don't know if you are telling me the truth or not(perhaps my approach lacked conviction).Also, we hardly know each other and I am not the kind of person who is an extrovert or makes friends easily".....

    In hindsight, I could have pushed this further but I just let it go. I might have said things like "Does anyone truly know anyone?"...life is short and blah blah blah....Any tips on how I can get over this barrier of not being able to speak with relative ease?...I have worked on my voice tonality etc.

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    Default Re: |Indirect Approach-Building Connections

    Hey thats awesome keep up the good work!

    Not showing emotions is a going to kill a set fast - how often do you smile? The more you smile in set the better reactions you will get. Girls can spot a routine a mile away - not saying it doesn't work they simply ignore it. In short words be genuine with her.
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    Default Re: Indirect Approach-Building Connections

    When I use an opener, even if it is something entirely generic then I also root my openers by telling her why I am asking her the question. Women, respond well to games in general. They are somewhat intrigued by it.

    Also, in India the PUA community isn't that well known by people and thus it is rare to find a girl who is familiar with the game. Conversely, women aren't used to being approached either.

    I rarely smile in sets, it comes naturally when I am having fun but I can't seem to force it on. It is an area that has been affecting me in-field for certain. I maintain strong eye contact though.

    Would you have any pointers for keeping the conversation going and maintaining rapport in general?

    I think it has do with.

    1)Being amicable and smiling
    2) Good eye contact
    3)Mirroring

    Anything that I am missing out on?

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    Default Re: Indirect Approach-Building Connections

    Smiling is a habit you can improve with time. It is just flexing a muscle you haven't flexed a lot, so start smiling whenever it pops in your head. The weirder and more awkward the situation, the bigger you should smile.

    Sounds like you are very analytical which is great.

    Don't worry about actually emoting at first. It's valuable, but I've gotten laid dozens of times before learning how to build a connection.

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    Default Re: Indirect Approach-Building Connections

    First off, excellent vocabulary bro, I am enthralled by your concise terminology. Probably helps with those pickups... which it sounds like your doing well with.

    Try adding a little charm. When the girl said she isn't extroverted and doesn't makes friends easily, you could have responded "You just made a friend of me, I think your a little more extroverted than you know." Plus, it's a decent way to flirt.

    As for the conversation gaps, those are going to be natural in any conversation. In fact a good, but not commonly spoke of, compliance test is if the conversation stops for a second she sticks around instead of seeing an opportunity for an exit. Even better, if she picks it up, she's interested...

    This is where most of the routines come in to play, for the dead spots. the cube, palm reading, handwriting analysis; etc, all ways to keep her attention. Personally haven't used any of that, I don't find a need for it. Its not as bad as is posted on here to ask a question, if all things are going well it simply shows your interest in talking, why would you have stopped her anyway? Ask her where she was headed, or what shes up to. When she answers, compare, don't steal the thread but relate, the same you would do with a friend. This should build rapport. Two questions in succession, max. Anymore, your doing damage to your set.


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