Guys need to realize that there's no reason to be nervous about "asking a girl out".
It's not like girls don't want to be swept off their feet, or flirted with, or asked out... they DO!
What drives them crazy & makes them defensive, is when a guy beats around the bush & is too timid to just be himself & be up front with her.
The biggest key to experiencing less rejection & more success is, NEVER ask a girl out before you build attraction.
And when you DO go for the date, be confident, have a plan & express a fun vibe. (I'll explain why that's important in just a moment)
Women hate that timid indecisiveness that most guys have.
And here's a little secret....
THIS is what it sounds like in her head when you're not confident; regardless of what you're actually saying:
"Hey, do you maybe want to go out sometime or something? If you don't that's cool too, I was just kinda wondering, you know, if you're not too busy..."
No, you don't have to be cocky, you don't have to be an arrogant d!ck.... Just be fun & confident.
But FLIRT FIRST!! ALWAYS!!
Before you ask her out, flirt with her!
Flirting will make her more intrigued & curious about you.
Curiosity = attraction. FUN is the ultimate attraction switch.
Flirting = fun!
When a girl is having fun, she's more likely to be agreeable with you, so you're more likely to be "successful".
I realize I'm over-emphasizing this, but I've noticed a LOT of questions lately about how /when to ask a girl out.
OK, now that we've gotten that part down, & you've "asked her out", what's next?
Try this: Be the guy who "takes charge of the situation". Make a decision & state it... call the shots. Women LOVE that!
If you're gonna meet her somewhere, tell her where to be, what time to be there, & directions to get there.
"Let's meet at Wild Wing cafe. It's right next to xxxx on xxxx street, right behind the plaza... you can't miss it. I'll be there at 6:33"
Trust me, that's gonna score major points with her!
If you say it like this you're gonna turn her off before you even finish attempting to set something up:
"Umm, OK what do YOU wanna do? Where do you like to go? What sort of stuff do you like?"
The thing is, if you flirt & spend a little time chatting, teasing & bantering with her, you can find out the answers to those questions before you "ask her out". Then you'll already know she likes buffalo wings, or the club sandwich, or the margaritas at a certain place.
But the truth is, women really don't care where you go, or what you do. If you've done your flirting duties properly, she's just gonna be excited to be going out with you!
Here are a few things I've done on "first dates" that were big hits & the girls thought were awesome...
Skee ball, laser tag, a picnic in the park on a blanket (not a picnic table... very important!), karaoke, skinny dipping, (Yes I said skinny dipping) the zoo, a museum, bowling, and even making munchie snacks & drinks at HER place with a make-out session planned in the mix.
It's all about flirting first!
You CAN escalate to the point of getting a girl to go skinny dipping with you for the first date. It just requires a little patience, expressing a non-needy demeanor, & giving off a fun, confident, exciting vibe.
(And NO... not every girl is gonna go skinny sipping... so you have to reach a point where you know how to bring up certain topics, as well as WHEN to bring them up; in order to find out if she's the adventurous type.)
But all in all, getting a "yes" when you ask a girl out is easy. You just have to separate yourself from every other douchebag who's hitting on her, all using the same lame approach or stupid pickup lines, or are just too scared to be bold enough & different in some way.
So, to sum it all up.... LEARN TO FLIRT!