Since being introduced to the pickup community, I've become more confident in my ability to talk to girls (and people) in general. I can honestly say that I am no longer shy in the sense that I do not get anxious when being introduced to new people.
The next step is to do more than just converse, but to build a connection. However, when thinking of exactly how to do this, I draw blank. Humor obviously helps, but I know there's more to it than that.
I know what it sounds like when a connection isn't made. I'll overhear coworkers talking. They'll gossip about other people, recent news stories, and maybe even talk about some events going on in their lives, and these talks might even last a while. But usually I get The Vibe that this is just chatter - small talk.
What is present in a conversation where two people will think about it happily after its over? The kind where, afterwards, the other person will be excited at the idea of talking to them again? What do you do to connect with the girl on a personal level? All advice is appreciated.