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    Default Lots of numbers...no action

    Hey guys, recently I've had the problem of getting the number of a good looking girl (HB 7+), then texting later and getting:

    1. No response
    2. Crappy response / low interest

    My initial text is usually something like - "Hey Mary, great meeting you last night" or "Did you close out the bar last night? "

    Any feedback on what the problem could be here?

    Appreciate the help!!

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    Default Re: Lots of numbers...no action

    You're sending her the exact same kind of texts that every other guy is sending her.

    You need to stand out & be different, so that you get her attention & cause her to WANT to respond.

    Check out this thread for more detailed info.


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    Default Re: Lots of numbers...no action

    You aren't building up enough initial attraction or your text game is weak. Girls will give out their number but flake afterwards because it's easier to reject a guy when you aren't face to face.

    Let's say that you have built up a good amount of attraction then it's your text game that's letting you down. Then again it could be a combination of both.

    Work on your weakness. Be honest with yourself... that's the only way we improve.

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    Default Re: Lots of numbers...no action

    Great feedback guys - thanks! I definitely need to work on BOTH areas. Dave_XXX, what would you say are some of the best ways to build attraction / excitement? Thanks for the link T_Mal!

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    Default Re: Lots of numbers...no action

    Have her text you first when you are still by her side. That's how I always know the number isn't fake and it gets her chasing me from the start
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    Default Re: Lots of numbers...no action

    A lot of guys think they should wait 3 days to text a girl. (What's with all this "3 day rule" crap?)

    I text immediately. Just to start being flirty over text, in addition to in person; (or through messages, if I got her number through online game.)
    There's simply NO good reason to wait to text her.

    So what kind of text do I send?
    It's usually like: "Hey, I heard you just just got a really cute guy's number... lucky girl! "

    or

    "OK, yes this is my number, now get back here so I can kiss you!"

    or

    "Hey, don't tell anyone... but I just got this super cute girl's number. Do you think I should make-out with her now, or wait till later?"

    or

    "Hey you, stop looking at your phone & come hug me already!"

    That way you avoid having to do the whole "It was nice meeting you... blah blah blah... this is so & so... blah blah...." etc.

    You immediately know the number is hers & you establish a fun texting frame.

    Sometimes I'll even go into RFD (Rapid Fire Reply) with her for a couple minutes right there & text back & forth... pretending we're not with each other. (Almost like role playing).

    That's definitely fun too. Because, it adds a new element to the interaction... kinda like moving her to a new location & having the same effect as "bouncing" her does.

    So again, as soon as you get the number, TEXT HER RIGHT AWAY.


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    Default Re: Lots of numbers...no action

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    A lot of guys think they should wait 3 days to text a girl. (What's with all this "3 day rule" crap?)

    I text immediately. Just to start being flirty over text, in addition to in person; (or through messages, if I got her number through online game.)
    There's simply NO good reason to wait to text her.

    So what kind of text do I send?
    It's usually like: "Hey, I heard you just just got a really cute guy's number... lucky girl! "

    or

    "OK, yes this is my number, now get back here so I can kiss you!"

    or

    "Hey, don't tell anyone... but I just got this super cute girl's number. Do you think I should make-out with her now, or wait till later?"

    or

    "Hey you, stop looking at your phone & come hug me already!"

    That way you avoid having to do the whole "It was nice meeting you... blah blah blah... this is so & so... blah blah...." etc.

    You immediately know the number is hers & you establish a fun texting frame.

    Sometimes I'll even go into RFD (Rapid Fire Reply) with her for a couple minutes right there & text back & forth... pretending we're not with each other. (Almost like role playing).

    That's definitely fun too. Because, it adds a new element to the interaction... kinda like moving her to a new location & having the same effect as "bouncing" her does.

    So again, as soon as you get the number, TEXT HER RIGHT AWAY.


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    These opening messages after you Number Close are golden. Thanks so much. Definitely stands out and is super playful!

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    Default Re: Lots of numbers...no action

    I agree with Dave. If you don't build enough attraction initially you will get flakes. Even if your text game sucks, if you do your job correctly when you meet her, she will want to see you. My success rate for night game is about 3-4 dates for every ten numbers I get. It happens. My text game isn't the greatest so I usually call and set up a meet. The ones that follow through are ALWAYS the ones I built allot of attraction with initially.

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    Default Re: Lots of numbers...no action

    You have to appreciate the beauty of game. You try hundreds of texts which in your head seem like they will work like a charm, and nothing, the girls dont even blink. Then you research and try something different, and bam! A few more chicks start responding. Even though you are feeling like the situation sucks, you must take pride in the fact that you are learning something, and one day... you will get it.

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    Default Re: Lots of numbers...no action

    I like what T-Mal has to say as per usual. Not going to lie definitely will give those text templates he gave a go. Also my own stuff too but still. Yeah following the same path I usually text right away unless it is really late and I am super tired then obviously I am going to wait.

    On that note as far as your overall question yes there is a lot of flaking that goes on and flaky women that you come across. That's why the dating method is a huge trigger and my lethal weapon to hooking a girl in.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
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