Re: IOI's from a bartender - Can't tell if they're genuine
Aww the good old fashioned "bartender" thread lol. I have extensive experience in this area so here goes...
No you cannot game them simply put don't do it and here's why.
HB9 Bartender "Snow White"
I got instant Oneitis for this one. Was in love with her for 8 months. Gamed her hard with dhv's, Jealousy Plotlines, and so forth. 2-4 months in she breaks out the BF card, likely because I acted needy and asked "are you seeing anyone?" I know totally low value but I was just starting out on Year 1 of Pick Up. So she goes "yes he's the DJ and I approached him." They are still together to this day. She friend zoned me though. I lost feelings for her however we still are on good terms. She gets me in free, gets me free drinks, and is a good warm up/social proof. I still talk to her for those reasons. She gets my night going as she will likely see my game sky rocket this year. She flirts, calls me baby and throws me the sexy eyes still so I know now it means nothing. Me and her BF are good friends. I call her Snow White cuz she acted cold like she had no BF then breaks it to me way later.
HB9 Bartender "Pochantes"
I used my social proof with Snow White as I never had the courage to N-close her and just lost interest so never N-closed her. So as soon as the new girl showed up I used my social proof to game her. "Hey" I told her "I know you are new cuz I know all the Bartenders here" that was my opener and she flirted hardcore. Pinched my nipples, said she would get me in free, then gave up her number the second time I saw her. Saw her giving her number out and flirting with guys a lot. BF stole her phone and started going psycho on me. So she played me hard. I never talk to her anymore, just ignore her cuz her BF is a farking needy AFC and will beat me up if I ever talk to her again. I call her Pochantes cuz she ratted me out to her BF, said not to text till next morning (said her phone was stolen which was a fabrication) to set me up when her BF was at her house so she could tell him I was creeping her out though she showed heavy IOI's. So she ran for the hills and played me like a hunter trying to steal the bride to be.
HB9 Cocktail Waitress "Sleeping Beauty"
The other two were not involved with this one since she is a VIP bottle service girl. This was kind of a shock. When I first saw her I thought dang I would bang that in a heartbeat. Started slowly gaming her like any Hired Gun. First talked her and asked for her number she said "maybe we'll run into each other". I was like no way in hell thinking it was lost. Then started talking to her outside in the smoking area as she had a "spot". Go over one night (not gaming her) and thought "fark yeah!" This energy translated so well she started vibing with me. Opened her with a kino side hug and a lowball opener (how's your night ) as I said not gaming her so no need for a classy opener. She started getting personal with me. Again I was not trying. Has a fake rack too man I blew it big time.
So we are sitting there shooting the breeze and she breaks out the hookup card. She says to me "hey what are you doing later?" I farked it up and said going to the bar not realizing she was hitting on me for a hookup. Then she goes "will I see you next weekend love?" I flirted for the first time and made a face to which she giggled and starts calling me love, love. Further proving she wanted me in that moment. I drunk FB messaged her that night I was ready to meet and she admitted her guilt the next morning denying anything ever happened. I know the signs of the proof of her guilt since she said she would be there next week and wasn't and instead went on vacation with her BF. She wanted me but I screwed it up so she ran back to the BF after her failed f-close on me.
So in the end there is no way to game them but I will try again with Sleeping Beauty this year. They all work in the same spot and as you can see some of the flirting was real and some fake. So you use the Hired Guns to have Social Proof, DHV by getting in free to Clubs/free drinks, but in the end you cannot really game them as they mostly always have BF's and lie about it or hide it. Screw up and out comes the savior BF. But be the cool guy and they might just try to hookup with you. More to be discovered this year if I can bag the Cocktail Waitress. These are Club Hired Guns as the Bartenders at the Bars don't appeal to me since they flirt with the staff which turns me off. So yes you can game them but as you can see it's very hard to pull off as they are mostly unavailable. But it can be done through becoming a regular, gaming other women for DHV and no Oneitis, jealousy Plotlines, good engagement, slowly but surely it should work on a few but don't hold your breath as I have better luck on the local talent in the Clubs and Bars than the staff that serves them.
When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.