I have a story to tell you guys to illustrate how honesty is your best friend. I have been BRUTALLY honest with women recently, and if you are too, it will save you trouble down the road.
There's this girl I go to school with that recently got out of a LTR and I was picking up mad vibes from her. I will call her "Beth". She is mutual friends with a friend of mine (who's a women). Our mutual friend approached me and try'd to set us up.
I started to text Beth and we would converse occasionally for about 4 days. I was starting to get freaked out by some of her texts. I don't want a girlfriend right now and I was getting the vibe from Beth that she wanted something more than FWB. I discussed this with our mutual friend who told me "Don't worry! She already knows you dont want a gf! She is fine with that!" I wasn't totally convinced, but I haven't got laid in over a month so I continued instead of listening to my screaming intuition and ignoring her.
Last Thursday I took her out to a bar and we had a burger and drinks. She was super nervous but we had a good time. I didn't pay for her (thank god)! I made out with her then dropped her off. I knew I could have taken her home but I wanted to take things slow and get a better vibe from her. My intuition was still screaming "she's wants a bf and is needy". After I made out with her I told her "I don't want a gf. lets just be friends." Beth said she already knew that and was fine with it. I didn't fully believe her based on her voice tone and body language.
Last Saturday there was a festival near our town that a big group of my friends went to. Beth was there along with our mutual friend. As soon as I got to the bar our mutual friend and I went and smoked a cig. She says I need to tell you something, I hooked Beth up with my friend last night. I was totally fine with it and a little relieved.
The guy was at the bar with the same group I was with. After awhile every time I wasn't smiling Beth would come over and say "Go find a girl. Don't be sad. You're awesome blah blah blah" then would go back and hang on the guy she hooked up with. I REALLY didn't care but her coming up and acting like I was jealous was super annoying.
I knew the game she was playing and I wanted nothing to do with it. Whenever I would Kino her she would try and hold my hand but I pulled away.
Finally after the third time she approached me I told her "Listen, I would give you the best sex of your life, but it would NEVER be anything more than that. I will NEVER be your boyfriend. There is no possibility that will happen". To which she responded "I don't want a bf right now (lie) but I want the possibility of that in the future". She then started telling me I'm a player, how terrible I am, and that I should see other women.
I was totally calm and collected when talking to her. I agreed with everything she said. I told her "Yea you're right. I am a player. I am a terrible guy, and I'm already talking to multiple other women."
Boy I tell you, she DID NOT LIKE THAT. Later in the night I started dancing with her friend and within ten seconds Beth was pushing me away yelling at me. "Don't you dare hurt her. You're a player!" I couldn't believe it! We were just dancing! I then got a sly smirk on my face and told her friend "apparently we aren't allowed to talk".
I had to actually leave the group I went to the festival with because Beth was being the fun police and causing so much drama. It's a good thing I knew ALLOT of people at the festival, so I went and hung out with them. My friends were actually teasing me because everywhere we went I would bump into people I knew and hold up the group.
I see Beth everyday at school and since this episode she will barely make eye contact, give a slight wave, and say nothing to me. She has this "I hate you look" on her face. I can't help but give a big grin and I think she hates me even more for it.
If this was five years ago I would have hooked up with her repeatedly BEFORE I told her I didn't want a gf. She would have been hooked, found out I was seeing other women eventually, and the drama would have been 20 times worse!
So the moral of the story is this: I just weeded out a very needy, clingy women by being honest right off the bat! Some women just cant handle brutal honesty. Sure, I didn't get laid, but that's not the point. Getting laid by this girl was way more trouble than it was worth! So be honest with your intentions and save yourself allot of trouble down the road!