I'm relatively new to these forums, and my track record with women can barely be called mediocre. I'm looking for some advice here on to proceed as a PUA. I know this post may be a bit long but please read it through carefully before you respond. In the past I've asked questions on forums where every single response raised points that were blatantly addressed in the original post. Not to sound like a jerk but I don't want anyone to waste their time or mine. Thanks in advance.
To begin, I'd like to say I've read quite a few guides on talking to women, building attraction, and seduction in the past. Most of what I've read tends to agree with what I read on these forums. My problem is that as I continually try to follow the advice I've read time and again, the vast majority of it firmly conflicts with my personality. I'd like to know if there are any effective alternative PUA techniques a guy like me can use.
I initially spent some time reflecting; trying to figure out why all the advice I've read wasn't working for me and the conflict of personality traits became obvious very quickly. Flat out, I am not a very playful person . . . with anyone, not really even guy friends. At least not in any sort of casual way. I may have obscure and complex banters with people I know very well, certainly never with any girl I was ever interested in. I'm not one to tease a girl either. Naturally, this makes any kind of flirting or attraction building (with traditional techniques) difficult, if not impossible. Indirect approaches lead nowhere and direct approaches come across as creepy 99% of the time (at least with any decently hot girl).
Now I want to be absolutely clear here: this is not because I lack confidence, have anxiety, or am anti-social; I have a more serious outlook in my core personality that doesn't motivate me interact with people in the more playful ways guys typically use to build attraction with girls. I also want to point out that I don't appear serious in social situations. I am not uptight, I display what I've learned to be alpha-male body language, and I look sociable. Without going into too much detail, what I've called my 'seriousness' is actually a very integral part of my personality and it benefits me greatly in other areas of my life. In other words, it's not a side of myself I'll part with. If anything, my seriousness is my confidence, ambition, and intensity. Consequently, it is the fuel for any and all alpha-male traits I would embody. Looking at the traits listed by Virgil on the Great Alpha-Male Thread:
Without my internal seriousness, almost all of these traits would be compromised in my personality. Yes, even being happy - I really do enjoy having my serious outlook.confident, happy, dominant, secure of yourself, sexual, non-apologetic, relaxed, comfortable, interesting, exciting, listen to people, create confident and open body language
Moreover I am not willing to be insincere about myself in my game. Of course I'll hide things until the time is right but that's not the same as being outright insincere. So I'm not willing to fake playfulness for the sake of attracting girls, if I even could.
I do have some attractive female friends, all 7+'s who know slightly more about PUA and attraction than most girls would. I know they still aren't the best sources for advice, but they do know me well and can offer feedback on my potential attractiveness. They've all told me basically the same thing about myself, essentially what I've come to realize but with a bit more. To paraphrase and combine their words to me:
"Most of the things girls like that guys do I can't imagine you doing - it's just not you. If you tried it'd be fake and really hard to hide it, especially as she spends more time with you. You're good looking and you can be sexy, but you're like 'dark and mysterious' sexy, not charming or flirty."
So how can one game as a 'dark and mysterious' guy? The whole not-playful and not-witty thing really seems to put a damper on any and all techniques I've seen thus far and anything that can be done by a guy like me would be a godsend. Or do my female friends not know what they're talking about in terms of that appeal? (meaning it doesn't exist outside of fiction - which is my looming suspicion)