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    Default Awkward Silence Tip

    Firstly, this happens to everyone, even experienced guys, where they run out of things to say. We all get in our head sometimes. We're human, and it happens to men and women. It's every guys' biggest fear. It's the one fear that stops us from going and having a conversation (that, and rejection). Here is my tip for anyone on how to move past it:

    If you really can't come up with ANY possible convo topic (cuz ur in your head probably), admit it, but be playful about it. It actually works because you're acknowledging something that happens to EVERYBODY! And it shows your human side. You neutralize the awkwardness by acknowledging it. Get it? An example is to be like "Yeah, I can't think of anything to say, so let's stand here and just gaze into each other's eyes"

    Another one I like is " *silence for a few seconds* ... Oh, I'm I gonna have to do all the talking? Geez"

    Again, these are done playfully. The key tho, is to be comfortable with the silence. If you're awkward, the nervous energy will make her nervous (law of state transfer [trust me, I'm an engineer]). If you're comfortable with it, like it's no big deal, and maintaining eye contact, you'll come off as confident

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    Default Re: Awkward Silence Tip

    Definitely useful techniques for that situation. I've done that a few times too.

    Another one I came up with was "Hmmm... is this our 'zen' moment? It's all quiet & serene." Then put my hands/fingers in the "meditation pose" & say "oooommmmm".

    Good for eliciting laughter!




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    Default Re: Awkward Silence Tip

    Start a conversation as an energetic animal be great and chatty then purposly fall into awkward silences. This is forcing her into talking and doing alot more interaction. She is seeking some kind mutual response, after a while ramp it up slowly and match her desperate attempts at conversation.

    you've successfully created artificial mutual attraction. Doesn't always work, when does anything always work? try it and have fun. You have to be prepared to loose it all to win it all.

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    Default Re: Awkward Silence Tip

    I just had a date with a girl I met on okcupid, and there were a few silence points, and I sat there and gazed into her eyes. Ended up making out with her in the taco bell parking lot lol. She got really horny!

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    Default Re: Awkward Silence Tip

    Quote Originally Posted by SCooper2031 View Post
    I just had a date with a girl I met on okcupid, and there were a few silence points, and I sat there and gazed into her eyes. Ended up making out with her in the taco bell parking lot lol. She got really horny!
    Nice dude! Yea that really works. I closed a girl by having an evening with her and just staring into her eyes 95% of the time. She kept saying "what" and I wouldn't respond but hold very strong eye contact. She got VERY turned on and after that all I had to do was give her the "gaze" and it elicited the same emotion in her.

    I like your responses to your original post. I've done something similar. When there's an "awkward" pause I say "Do you feel awkward when there's silence" and they ALMOST always say no. Then I say "good, me neither. I like silence sometimes. When two people are hanging out together its good to be comfortable in silence. You don't always have to talk."


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