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    Default HB way too hot and cold?

    After having a great convo with an HB I'm into.. She always goes cold the next day where it'll be very short replies and then she just doesn't reply.. She does this a lot where she engages but then falls off a cliff for the next convo and I'm not sure why... Same HB from my other post. Very hot and cold not sure how to deal with girls flaking in convos, whether it be email, Facebook, or text.

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    Default Re: HB way too hot and cold?

    Lmao she's basically showing that she's the prize and letting you on a chase instead of the situation being even. She's basically in charge and you're just going with it. Seems like she's playing around with you.( that's why it's important to have Ulrike women you're talking to so you don't put all your eggs in one basket)
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    Really? Makes sense as to why she never messages first. She's the most confusing HB I've come across yet. She's very flirty yet has emphasized and said she's only interested in talking and nothing more twice. Yet she's debating coming to a party I'm throwing and engages in convos with me when she's not pulling this LOL should I freeze her out or what?

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    Default Re: HB way too hot and cold?

    You should freeze her out and see how she responds. If she is into you she will initiate contact. Let her put some work in the conversation. If she's not willing to do that, then she is not that interested.

    After you start acting normal again, she might start acting cold again. When she does freeze her out again. Then she will learn that she shouldn't threat you that way.

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    Default Re: HB way too hot and cold?

    I believe she is either 1).busy when u text (you can rule this out if you sorta know her schedule). If she is busy but still gives you responses, then it a ok. It is what it is. 2) she could have a BF. Still not a problem but he will take alot of her attention off you. (Sometimes they may say they don't have one but they kinda do. You could point blank ask if she is single. Better to do it in person if at all possible).

    So you should def keep pursuing in either case. Be hot and cold. Leave her for days and then send a funny text out of nowhere. Try and ascertain a day when she is not too preoccupied. Sunday afternoon is usually good for most women. If you still get short responses, tease her about it. Like make her out to be some kinda robot... Emotionaless, no feelings. Then say you don't need to be friends with someone who has the personality of a toaster. It's a way to call her out on her behavior.

    And also, it goes without saying... Game other girls asap in the meantime!!!
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    Default Re: HB way too hot and cold?

    No I don't know if anything will work with this one. She's so flirty but won't hang out at all, she always says no in a flirty way. It's definitely because she's friends with my ex girlfriend. Not sure how to get through this but I kind of think the best thing to do is give up. They aren't best friends but friends nonetheless that hang out every now and then.

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    Default Re: HB way too hot and cold?

    Do you see her in person at all? Where do you see her. I can probably help you if you give me more SPECIFIC details.

    I need to know everything.

    And do you just want to hook-up with her one time? or are you trying to actually date her?

    Big questions you need to ask yourself, then tell me before we proceed.

    I like Lockdowns advice on the texting, but maybe she's just not into texting. Stop texting her. See what happens.

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    Default Re: HB way too hot and cold?

    Okay, so basically I met this girl when I was in an LTR at my ex and I's mutual friend's birthday party. We talked and stuff and became friends on FB and stuff. My Ex and I split up the following week or so, then I started talking to this girl shortly after. The problem arises here.. My ex is best friends with the girl who's birthday it was and this HB that I'm into is best friends with the girl who's birthday it was. So these two became friends.

    She told me it would be weird if we got to know each other better by hanging out and stuff because of them becoming friends.

    She told me she was into talking and stuff but wasn't interested in anything else. She's really flirty when she talks to me and stuff and she never initiates the conversation or anything. She's never openly complimenting and stuff, but I've gone through some of the conversations as have some girl friends that I have and they agree she flirts with me a lot (playing games such as 21 questions, lots of emoticons etc. etc. )

    Anyways, I invited her to a party but she couldn't make it she said and I told her we would be throwing one coming up soon and she should come. She said she'd let me know but for some reason she flakes quite a bit. I just think she isn't interested to be honest.

    To answer your question, I would like to date this girl but if hooking up is all I can get, I'll take it. She's attractive, but she's the kind of girl I would date not just hook up with.

    Basically the other day she was saying I couldn't assume she was a boring person because we only ever text and I never see her in person, I told her I had tried to invite her out but she's always busy and to maybe make herself more available and we can find out if she's actually boring or not. She played it off quite flirty by saying I already knew we couldnt do that and she said something like "now you know the answer to that one already, its no"

    I basically didn't really understand her complaining and then declining to hang out but she said she meant she just hates it when people assume things about her. The conversation ended not too long after with her saying she had to go because she was spending time with her brother. I haven't bothered talking to her since.

    Basically, I've gone as long as maybe a week without texting her and sometimes I'll get the occasional snapchat from her but not lately and again it's usually me starting the conversations so I'm not too sure what to do about this one. Very flirty, but at the same time impossible to see.

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    Default Re: HB way too hot and cold?

    If a woman isn't making time to hang out she just isn't interested. You're in the friend zone my brother. She's an emotional playgirl. She loves flirting (as most woman do). Forget about her and find another beauty to court. That's the best way to get her to come around to you if there is any possibility of it happening.

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    Default Re: HB way too hot and cold?

    Yeah I was beginning to think the same thing, I don't really want to be her friend anyways I have plenty of those. I told her I don't really have friends I don't hang out with and she tried to joke around and say what about all the people you have on FB you're friends but don't hang out with all of them. I laughed it off and just let the convo die lol

    Definitely don't think this ones going to pan out well so I figure it could be easier to find someone else. It's a shame I like her though!


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