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    Default She Doesn't Tease Well

    Hey, so I'm talking to this kindergarten teacher and the attraction's pretty obvious. She's kind of weird so its always interesting watching her and we laugh and smile when we're together. The only thing is that she doesn't like to be teased. I'm not like reading her emotions and guessing (she always blushes or laughs when I do it). She actively told me that she doesn't like it when I tease her. So I shrugged it off thee first time. Girls don't know what they want.

    But then she kept mentioning it. Its actually halting my game. She personally told me she doesn't want to be with me because I make fun of her. So I thought about what I was doing wrong. Every girl has a ratio of push to pull, maybe I should compliment her more. But I usually keep a pretty even ratio and I feel like if I raise my pull, I'll come off as needy and my attraction won't build.

    So the second thing I thought of is replacing my teasing with another push. What are some other pushes that you guys effectively use besides teases/negs?

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    Default Re: She Doesn't Tease Well

    negging is for the weak. I don't neg unless a woman disrespects me. All you can do is experiment. Lighten up the strength of your teases or lighten up on teasing all together. Throw in some more compliments and see how that goes. Once you're past a certain point, neediness is not so off and on like it was in the beginning of getting to know someone. "Game" is all about having the skills to adapt. If one thing is not working out, try something else. That new thing you try could possibly elevate your game ever higher.

    So in summary experiment and see what happens. If she is consistently telling you that she doesn't like being teased then well ugh...... lighten up on the teasing lol

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    Default Re: She Doesn't Tease Well

    Its possible that the ones you're using are too direct or strong. Different girls have different thresholds for how strongly you can tease them, and she might have a lower one than average.

    Give us a couple specific examples of teases you've said.

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    Default Re: She Doesn't Tease Well

    Could be your pushing too hard. After attraction stage is done, turn up the comfort . U can still tease but don't be harsh. Amp up the Kino and ease her into seduction. Also, you must not give in to her saying she doesn't like it. She probably keeps saying it to get reassurance. Don't get all beta. Point out to her how u Actually treat her instead of what u say (actions vs words)
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    Default Re: She Doesn't Tease Well

    There's a difference between a neg and teasing. I don't normally neg a girl unless I just meet her and she's being really b**chy. Women respond to teasing very well as long as it's harmless. Here's a few examples for you:

    I know this girl who doesn't drink and ALWAYS drives barefoot (which is illegal). So I tease her relentlessly about how she's "living on the edge" or if we go somewhere and she orders a lemonade I tell her "You better drink that slowly...You have to drive!" or if she does something funny I tell her that she's "All hopped up on lemonade".

    Another girl I dated was like 4' 11". Sometimes when she got into my car I would ask her if she needed a phone book. Stuff like that. The biggest thing is the delivery. You can actually get really bold once you've established comfort if you deliver it correctly. This same girl when she would get spunky I would call a b*tch in public, and people would give me the "I can't believe that guy just said that to his girlfriend" look and she would just laugh hysterically.

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    Default Re: She Doesn't Tease Well

    Kindergarten teachers are trained to look for teasing and address the issue with negative sanctions to prevent bullying in schools.

    Calibrate to use that stuff minimally that's my two cents on this one
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    Default Re: She Doesn't Tease Well

    Thanks yall.

    @carter21 I usually mock her country accent a lot. Also, sometimes she dresses up pretty extreme for me sometimes so I teased her about that since I use to treat her like one of the guys when she never dressed up. That was probably too harsh. But I thought it was clearly working. Maybe not.

    @lockdown I completely forgot about that aspect while doing extended game. I'll build more comfort and it'll make things more laid back and it may even make her more understanding with the teasing.

    @directisbest thanks for the examples. That really helps. Were my examples above harmless enough?

    @hometownextra that's actually a great theory. I've never thought of it that way.

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    Default Re: She Doesn't Tease Well

    They seem pretty harmless to me, but some women are more sensitive than others. Like I said, the delivery is key. Next time she dresses up really nice give her a big smile, walk up to her and grab her hand, then twirl her around and say "Damn (her name)! You look ABSOLUTELY stunning!" See how she reacts to that. Since you've been teasing her allot she will probably be stunned and it will be totally unexpected. Trust me she will appreciate it. I don't care what anyone says, even women who are beautiful and get allot of compliments appreciate it.

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    Default Re: She Doesn't Tease Well

    I think DIB has a good idea with the stunning comment... BUT my spin on it is to point out something specifically about her and how it's making u look at her differently.

    Like girl u look stunning... Maybe it's the heels hair whatever (pick one)... Man am I surprised but I'm kinda really into you right now.

    And after that... Kino Kino for GODS SAKE KINO!!! LOL
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    Default Re: She Doesn't Tease Well

    What I would do in this situation is say something like "wow, did you really think I was being 100 percent serious?" Then if she said something like "no but I just don't like being teased" I would say something like "well, I don't know what to tell you." Then I would just wait for a second then continue with "if you can't handle my personality(my teasing, take things too seriously etc) then we probably shouldn't hang out." Then you just pause again and see what she says. Never apologize for something like this. In other words never apologize for who you are unless you really, really offend her(bring her to tears or make her very angry). In that case you went too far and need to tone down a bit. However, in this particular case you need to calibrate. With this particular girl though it just seems like she's too sensitive and can't handle a little joking around. You didn't say how harsh your teasing was but I'm guessing she's just really sensitive. Either way, you have to decide if you want to game her without the teasing(if that's even possible)or move on to someone else.

    Here's my opinion. Instead of teasing her, say things like this "well, you probably couldn't handle me anyway" or "I'm probably way too high maintenance for you anyway." Just put up barriers that she would need to jump over. That way, she is investing more by proving herself to you(and not the other way around).


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