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    Default Re: Othello's 30 Day Challenge: College Edition

    Bro. Here's something I want you to try for college game. I feel like it'll really help you.

    Instead of going into sets with a goal, why don't you just go in and genuinely try to be friends.

    Walk up to a random girl, and instead of getting Approach Anxiety, just say...

    "Hey! You looked lonely. Care for some company?"
    She'll either smile and say yes, or no.

    Then just genuinely talk to her, and tell her that you think she's really cool, and that you'd love to make her your new best friend.

    No more approach anxiety. No more over-thinking. No "goals" just you being social and fun.

    I guess what i'm getting at is, when you set yourself up with all this pressure to complete this challenge, and get numbers, and stuff like that when you're just beginning or not super experienced/comfortable yet, you're just setting yourself up for failure.

    Try walking up to 3 random people tomorrow, and just try to be there friend. Guy or girl. No other goals. Let me know how it goes and whether or not you're "game" improves. I promise your social skills will after like 3 days of doing it.

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    Day 7 : Excuses are like Buttholes...

    Kyl3, definitely going to heed your advice.

    I analyzed my "game" today and why I am having problems. The problem is I am treating it like "game" as oppose to blessing strangers with my silver tongue and having fun being social and meeting new people.

    Most importantly, I lost touch of my natural funny narcissistic Mindset that has done me wonders. I wasn't being my natural self anymore.

    I can continually type to you guys and myself about how I am going to go hard from this point on, other BS excuses, and blow hot air OR I can show you (and myself)...

    To quote Lewis Cass, "People may doubt what you say, but they will believe what you do. "

    Done lying to myself. See you fellas tomorrow...


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    Day 8: Letting Loose

    I have came to the blatantly obvious realization that all it takes to make friends and to build connections with people is to say something to them. It is something easy to realize but made unnecessary complicated by many (including myself).

    To anyone struggling to meet new people reading this all it takes is literally OPENING YOUR MOUTH. It doesn't matter what you say as long as you deliver it with confidence and a positive vibe. Don't think about the transition or conversation topics, if the person wants to talk to you it'll flow naturally.

    Today I wasn't thinking, "game" or "approaches" but I was going out with the Mindset of just being loose and taking opportunities when given to me to be social and have fun. Granted this isn't full fledged enlightenment for me (I could have talked to more people)however it is a step in the right direction.

    The Open & Transitions

    Here I am going to detail me opening a guy and a girl using the situations presented to me. Keeping it simple
    I started my day off in the dining hall with two friends of mine. As we sat down I noticed a guy sitting by himself at the end of the table. I contemplated talking to him for a few minutes. Once both of my friends left the table to get more food I thought, "WHY NOT?!" and invited him to come sit with us.

    I asked if he was alone and to join me. He said he was about to leave but I said, "Come over for 5 minutes. I like to meet new people." He, my friends, and I ended up talking for 10 minutes having engaging conversations which was good. I always get tongued tied from thinking too fast when talking to new people so I had a chance to slow down and get myself comfortable and not trying to impress people. He was a cool guy who I've seen with a few attractive girls in the past. Definitely going to take advantage of that.

    The next situational opener was a girl in my English class. We had monsoon type weather today ( not really, just rain) and as I was walking back to my dorms I see the girl with no umbrella walking the same direction. I comment on the weather and joke about her only having a hat on to keep her dry. We then transition to talking about big research papers and her opinion of the teacher but I make sure to not dwell on it for more than a minute or two. I shift the conversation to something non school related and we share a few laughs and common viewpoints. All in all it was good practice. I'll be sure to befriend her.

    What I Learned

    - People come alive so quickly when you are social to them. All I had to do was say a few words to them.

    - It is low pressure when I go in with no expectations. I just go in being myself. All I'm doing is entertaining myself and seeing if the person is someone I would like to see again.

    - After talking to the English girl I was so energized and pumped to meet new people. The rush from building something out of nothing is so addictive! It's the whole mystery aspect of not knowing what's going to happen.

    What to Work On

    - I forgot to hit the English girl with the "bestfriend" line but I'll see her again it's no big deal.

    - Remembering the feeling I got from talking to someone new.

    - Being more social in one time situations. It's impossible to have the exact same moment, at the exact same time with the exact same person. Take advantages of the one time shots I am given.

    - Continuing the energy. Next time I see the guy and girl I conversed with today I have to keep up the energy. I will open people and then not talk to them again which is stupid on my part. I will genuinely try to pursue friendships and build connections to their friends and etc.

    - Verbally express that I want to become friends with someone and then do it!

    -
    Being more comfortable with socializing.

    Overview

    I like how today played out. All it takes is to keep being myself and opening my mouth. Such a simple action when I sit back and think about it.

    I want to try the, "I see you everywhere" opener tomorrow. Not going to script my actions though, we'll see what happens...

    Going with the flow,

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    Default Re: Othello's 30 Day Challenge: College Edition

    Quote Originally Posted by Kyl3 View Post
    Bro. Here's something I want you to try for college game. I feel like it'll really help you.

    Instead of going into sets with a goal, why don't you just go in and genuinely try to be friends.

    Walk up to a random girl, and instead of getting Approach Anxiety, just say...

    "Hey! You looked lonely. Care for some company?"
    She'll either smile and say yes, or no.

    Then just genuinely talk to her, and tell her that you think she's really cool, and that you'd love to make her your new best friend.

    No more approach anxiety. No more over-thinking. No "goals" just you being social and fun.

    I guess what i'm getting at is, when you set yourself up with all this pressure to complete this challenge, and get numbers, and stuff like that when you're just beginning or not super experienced/comfortable yet, you're just setting yourself up for failure.

    Try walking up to 3 random people tomorrow, and just try to be there friend. Guy or girl. No other goals. Let me know how it goes and whether or not you're "game" improves. I promise your social skills will after like 3 days of doing it.
    Kyl3. I think you nailed it brother. Just be genuine. I've gotten way better results just going up to girls sitting by themselves and just saying "Hey, I'm Axl. Mind if I sit here?" You're so much more fluid when you just be yourself. Not to mention you can prequalify her to see if you would even like to put in any effort to get to know her more. After a bit of conversation you can just say goodbye. If you like her then most likely through the conversation you've become comfortable enough with her to ask her for her number.

    When I ask girls (that I know) what is the best pickup line they have heard. I've had many of them say that the simple pickup lines are highly underestimated. Because they don't hear them anymore. Just a "Hi, What's your name?" And just start conversation. A bunch of them said a asking a girl out to dinner has died. They say that guys always ask for phone numbers instead of asking a girl out to dinner. I've had pretty good experiences just asking a girl out to dinner.

    - Axl Hunter

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    Default Re: Othello's 30 Day Challenge: College Edition

    Quote Originally Posted by axlhunter View Post
    A bunch of them said a asking a girl out to dinner has died. They say that guys always ask for phone numbers instead of asking a girl out to dinner. I've had pretty good experiences just asking a girl out to dinner.

    - Axl Hunter
    I feel like going out on dinner is highly overrated? Everytime I go for dinner with a girl, I find the "eating-part" pretty annoying. Do you use it as a first date?

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    Day 9 : Knock Knock

    Feeling less anxiety each day, I'm still not treating this as pick up but just trying to socialize when opportunities present itself.

    I had a MAJOR paralysis by analysis (aka choke job) early in the morning. I was got out of class early and was too early to go into my next class so I decided ask a girl at table if I could sit there. She responds yes and says she is about to leave soon anyways. 4 minutes go by and I look down at my phone and say NOTHING! She then packs up and leaves and as she leaves she says, "Have a nice day!" I couldn't help but smile and laugh at the fact that I missed out on talking to a seemingly sweet girl.

    Anyways, I wouldn't let that ruin my day as I still made some progress.

    The Open

    There was this huge line in the dining hall for food, I'm talking Allegheny River long and I debated whether to wait for it to shorten or to sit down. I think and as I turn a girl gets in line and I'm think : Oh yeah, it's showtime! I get behind the girl in line but I don't immediately open. A few minutes go by in this line of eternity and I think, "Don't be a BEEP and talk to her!"

    I say, "Ugh this line is so long! Tell me a joke to entertain me. " or something along those lines. She responds well so I'm full in conversation mode fellas...


    Transition


    We banter back and forth as I throw out witty comments. I tell her to tell me a knock knock joke. She says she doesn't know any jokes so I improv tease her with a knock knock joke of my own. She was a little reserved but I could tell she was enjoying the conversation as much as I was.

    After letting the conversation shift and die for a minute or so I then tell her she can tell me a black joke instead (keep in mind I'm black). This went over well as she is now cracking up in line! We fluffed talked for a bit and I feel positive vibes and energy.

    We are now near the front of the line so I ask for her name and extend my hand and thank her for putting up with me. She smiles/giggles. Very easygoing girl, I don't wan to pursue her romantically but I will definitely befriend her. I had fun with her which is all I really care about.

    What I Learned

    - It really is only awkward if you make it awkward! How many people tell a stranger in line to tell them a Knock Knock joke then a Black Joke?! When I did this she wasn't weirded out or anything she was enjoying it, why? Because I was being my natural ridiculous self.

    - Once I get any signs of interest from a girl (Not IOIs but interest in talking) I turn it on pretty quickly. Soon as a girl flashes a smile or giggles at a remark I make I know two things will happen : She is about to fall in love with me or become my best friend.

    - Opening is the hardest part for me. I have no fear once I am in conversation which is good. I get this fire in my veins after the first open where I want to talk to everyone. After opening this girl in line, I went back to my table of friends and my energy completely shifted the table conversation. At first it was quiet and no one was really saying much but I can back energetic and social and the rest of the time was filled with great laughs.

    What To Work On

    - Opening sooner/ With less hesitation

    - Expressing verbally that I would like to meet up/talk to a girl again

    - Getting the girls to lead the conversation more. Takes pressure off of me.

    - Getting in the social Mindset early.

    Overview

    All in all, good day. I rebounded from a missed opportunity quite well. Each time I talk with someone new I gain confidence in my conversational abilities. I consciously try to kill Communication Accommodation Theory (Thanks to Cody for introducing me to that) and be myself around anyone and everyone.

    I'm not going to wake up one day and just become a social butterfly, I know it's something I and going to have to work at each day until it comes naturally.

    Step by step, Day by day.

    - Othello
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    Default Re: Othello's 30 Day Challenge: College Edition

    Day 10-12: Nothing

    I unfortunately froze on a Number Close with a girl I'm close with in my English class on Day 10.

    I've been slacking/my college has been a ghost town this weekend due to Easter.

    I'm a lazy bastard. I need to fall in love with this process.

    On the bright side I'm beginning to care less about others judgments and becoming a little more outspoken.

    It's a weird feeling of knowing what to do and actually doing it. I like that I know what to do but I don't utilize it enough.

    No more hiatuses...hopefully . These college girls aren't going to pick up themselves...yet!

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    Day 13: Stagnate


    So my college was a ghost town this Easter weekend. I made a little comment to some girls I see in the study lounge a lot but that was it for today.

    Oh yeah, I also bantered with a few girls on my dorm floor I rarely talk to. I am starting to practice how I play meaning I take no interaction with a girl for granted and utilize every opportunity to hone my skills.

    Everyone's back from Easter break now so this thread will get less boring. I am itching to meet new people right now, this whole living a marginally social lifestyle is not cutting it.

    I find it scary how comfortable so many people are with following the norm and doing the same routine over and over again. The thing I love about this community is that it makes you so much more socially aware of situations around you. I've really been wasting my life, but I guess it's better now than never that I am more conscious of this.

    Catch you playas tomorrow,

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    Day 14: I Don't Care (I Love It!)

    (My apologies, I ramble a bit).
    What's up guys? Today I feel absolutely amazing!

    No I didn't Number Close a HB10 nor did I feel someone up. I didn't get complimented by someone nor find the "secret" to picking up any girl.

    So why am I so happy? Because I don't care. Today I've been saying and doing anything and everything I wanted to. I have been goofy, sarcastic, narcissistic, among other things and I love it! I literally just army crawled and rolled across my dorm lounge just because I had the urge too! And what do you know, people enjoyed the show!

    So much of my problems with women is that I was not internally strong. I was not confident in myself so even if I could approach more women then the average AFC, I would not achieve true success because I wasn't being authentic to myself. I was trying too hard to impress a person who I don't even know if I get along with.

    The Realization

    I got out of class early so I had time to sit outside and people watch. I was watching people walk by and I actually got sick!

    I wasn't sick at the people but I was sick that I don't know any of the masses of people walking by. I was blending in with the population and I didn't like it. I saw so many people walk pass so shy and reserved and realized I didn't want to be that person, that I could be different.

    I knew none of these people walking by, they didn't know me so I decided to change that. I'd rather have people meet me and not like me then they not know me at all. My bestfriend, future wife/mistress, sports buddy, slampiece, you name it could be out there and I was missing it.

    The Mental Shift

    Instantly I became like 80% more social.

    But here's the key, I wasn't trying to impress anyone. I was not saying things that will make others laugh but things that I find funny.

    I didn't care what other people thunk about me because at the end of the nights it is just me and my own thoughts. These random people are too busy worried about their own lives to care about what I do.

    I have been saying whatever is own my mind today. No social pressure at all it's just me saying what I feel.

    Opening whoever, whenever.

    Anyone within a few feet of me I would say something to. I would deliver whatever line I had to say with a huge smile on my face.

    I didn't care if they found it funny or thought I was a creep. To my surprise people were receptive. I got smiles and laughs all around.
    I made so many women smile and laugh today without me even remotely trying.

    In the past I was always so worried about being entertaining or saying something to make someone laugh when really all I have to do is be true to Me. I even had a funny moment with an Asian guy whose English skills were limited.

    Today, I realized I can be the man I want to be. It all starts with myself
    though.

    Application

    Internally before this point I don't feel as though I was ready for pick up. Sure I can do it quite well at this point and I can hold a conversation I never felt fully ready.

    I treated pick up as this daunting task of going out and approaching at least 1 girl a day when really it is simple. The only thing that makes the pick up process difficult is the internal struggles. I wasn't sure of myself and it showed in my mindset.

    In Closing

    I'm going to hold onto this rejuvenated feeling overtaking me. I'm doing things that make me laugh and happy because by doing so I attract people similar to me.

    I suggest meditation and self reflection to anyone just beginning. Once you find yourself then life becomes fun. I no longer want to snag the hottest babe I can find, but I want to make as many connections as possible and see who sticks.

    I still have to refine my game and dive deeper into building connections with women but I now finally feel after 18+ years a strong internal core inside of me.

    In order to be comfortable with women, one must first be comfortable with themselves.

    Stay sexy,

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    Default Re: Othello's 30 Day Challenge: College Edition

    I told you man! Just be comfortable.

    Once you are comfortable with yourself, everything else will fall into place.
    Just being social will get your far as fuck.


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