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    Day 21: No Going Back

    What's up playboys? So I've been reverting back a little bit. The problem is I am not going hard enough. I am not pushing myself to the point where I am completely uncomfortable.

    Today I did speak to women in my proximity. In one instance commented on this girl relaxing in a chair studying which was well received. The thing is I don't follow up that much and push for more conversation.

    It's now or never. I have to apply everything I've learned throughout this process. "Knowledge without application is meaningless" -Edison

    With that being said I bring you,

    My Oath

    There are 9 days left in this challenge. Each day I will push myself to do something socially uncomfortable. Through this challenge I have gained confidence in my socializing ability but I haven't expanded my comfort zone as far as I have wanted to.

    Each day I will put my cajones on the line and make myself do something I always wanted to do but have been to socially afraid to do. I will overcome the remnants of social anxiety I have.

    I was reading the forums today and Meteora said something that got me thinking. He said, "the only way to fight aa is to put your balls out on the chopping block and make approaches till your more comfortable doing it."

    I don't have the AA as much now but I don't have the comfort factor. I'm simply not taking enough risks. My last few days I am going to be as ballsy as possible. I plan on making it a "Hell Week". I'm taking all the Mindset and things I've learned so far and applying it full throttle.

    "Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results" - Albert Einstein

    To get the results I want I have to switch it up. I'm so close to where I need to be, yet so far away.

    This last few days shall be quite interesting. I refuse to end up like all the other chumps in this world. Stay tuned

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    Day 22: No Biggie

    How are all of you playas out there doing?

    Through this challenge and self reflection I have found that I had always (and still do at times) build situations up to be much bigger than the need to be. I was extremely nervous about talking to a GIRL. Not LeBron James (save the comments), but a female. A female I knew NOTHING about. I would build women up to be the greatest creatures in creation and me a little old boy could not possibly talk to a random one.

    I see the shyness in girls once I say something to them, I see them trying to be interesting or putting in effort to keep the conversation going. Most importantly though, I see that it is no big deal. Anytime I get aa as soon as I talk to a female I'm like, "Wow, you built that up to be so humungous and it turned out to be the most basic/casual thing ever."

    Today I walk into my lecture hall class with a buddy of mind. I was kind of upset I met up with him because I wanted to sit next to a random girl. Luckily a girl was sitting in my usual area. Keep in mind there are hundreds of other seats available and in the past I would have moved and just sat next to my friend somewhere else, but NO I see the opportunity!

    The Open

    The girl is a blonde. She was average looking. Not my cup of tea but I'm open minded, regardless it is a chance to work on my people skills.

    As soon as I sit down I shift my body and stare directly at the girl. She looks up and I say, "You are in my seat" with the straightest face possible. She takes out one headphone responds with, "Oh I picked the wrong row. Do you want this seat?" I crack a smile and tell her no it's fine. At one point I also told her if it happens again we will have to fight.

    I turn back to my friend who sits behind me in another row and I talk to him about something and I have a fun conversation idea in my head for the blonde girl.

    The Transition

    I have this picture on my phone. It's a Family Guy screenshot in which it has a color spectrum put up against Peter Griffin in which the whiter or skin completions say "Okay" and as it gets to darker skin complexions it says "Not Okay". Look it up it is better to see it.

    Anyways, I tell her I have a completely random question. I show her the picture and I go, "Which skin color is too dark for you, where do you draw the line?" She's caught off guard but plays along. She doesn't initially answer and asks me why I am asking to which I respond personal knowledge. She then shifts and tries to get me to answer first.

    Her and I banter a bit and I tell her I am pretty dark myself and anything past that is just too much for me. She laughs at this comment and asks to see the picture again. I show her and tell her to choose to which she says she has no preferences. I point to the darkest skin complexion (it is straight black!) and I tease her about okaying that.

    She responds with saying that nobody is that dark and points to the complexion on the opposite end which is straight white, points to her complexion and says even she's not that pale (she was pretty pale lol but not too bad).

    I'm completely relaxed the whole time, this girl and I were having a pretty good conversation and the funny thing is that she sat behind me almost the whole semester in class without us saying one word. I don't have any stuttering or slurred words in my speech. I don't try to impress her I am just being social.

    The Close

    One of her friends come in and the blonde girl points out the fact that she accidentally chose the wrong seat. Her friend sits down beside her and I just respond, "Yeah she's making things awkward" which get a smile from her friend. Her friends pretty smokin' I might add it's unfortunate she wasn't there first but it's whatever I will add entertainment to any girls life regardless of appeal.

    Class is almost starting, I just let the conversation die and to let the girl go to talking to her friend. In hindsight I should have joked around with the friend and ask the same question (she was mixed) but it is whatever.
    Before the teacher arrives I show her a picture of Akon (his melanin count is at an all time high) to play off our earlier convo. Class starts and that's the end of our engagement. It was fun, I went in the conversation with the goal of just being myself and I accomplished that.

    Her friend leans over and glances at me once during class and the blonde chick gave a few peeks. They were subtle so I'm not going to stroke my own ego any further than that.

    The After Effects

    I felt that FIRE again. The rest of class all I was thinking about was talking to new people and having fun. I was back into a great mindset.

    About 40 minutes later in the dining hall I see a guy that he and I sort of know each other but haven't talked and I stop him, pretend like I have a problem with him and just tell him to hug in it out. It was spontaneous and the guy enjoyed my embrace (I'm comfortable with my sexuality) and laughs it off. I get his name and continue on.

    I joke around with a few more people I see around and I noticed one thing that DirectIsBest pointed out. Girls start to give me, "The Look" Sometimes I can't buy eye contact but when I'm joking and smiling with people I can just see the women undressing me with their eyes .

    What I Learned

    Nothing is a big deal. Treat every situation like you've been there before and do it with a smile. It is amazing how many interesting conversations and new people you can meet by just saying something. Anything.

    I really, really, really love meeting new people. I don't judge the success of my day by whether I get a girls number or not. I judge it based on whether or not I make a random girl smile or laugh. The pick up part will come, I don't see the need to hit on 10,000 girls. What I do see a need for is having fun conversation with 10,000 girls/people in general and holding on to the ones that I click with the most.

    The two hardest parts of pick up in my opinion is
    1). Approaching a girl
    2). Being yourself while talking to a girl (mindset/ not trying to "impress" them).

    Once these two things are corrected the rest starts to fall in place with practice.

    I can't promise that I will "attempt" to pick up a girl or Number Close a girl each day, but I can promise that I will be myself and have as much fun/social moments with as many people as I can.

    I'm not rushing the cold approaches to try and get empty numbers with no responses. Been there, done that I am not a fan. All that stuff will come if I continue to be my fun and social self. As Nick Sparks but it "Dropping Hooks" as often as possible.

    The possibilities are endless, all it takes is saying something. A number, date, or even F close doesn't define accomplishment for me. If I'm smiling then it was a successful day. See you guys tomorrow.

    - Othello
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    Day 23: My Krytonite

    How is it going? Over here it's like Seattle. Rain on rain on rain but that's besides the point. I have a fatal flaw in my game that keeps me from achieving complete personal success.

    My Flaw

    So there's this girl...(it's not Oneitis, just read it all before you judge me!). My friends and I call her Olive Girl. I didn't see her at all first semester but now I see her all the time. By all the time I mean, ALL THE TIME! I saw here the first week of this Spring semester and ever since pointing her out to my friends we see her everywhere. It becomes instant Tension when she is in proximity for all of us. I feel like such a chump every time she comes around.

    We've seen Olive Girl at the dining hall, basketball courts, tennis courts, across the street on a grass field, walking into a store at 12 am, among countless other places. She seems like a sweet girl and the thing is she's not even super attractive. I don't normally rate women but she's only like a 7.5-8 depending on the day and personal preferences.

    My strong attraction to her has dwindled quite a bit since the beginning of the semester but she is the thorn in my side. My friends tell me about every time they see her (which is often) and I instantly feel like a chump. I've had COUNTLESS opportunities to approach her and I just can't.

    This flaw gets into my game with other women. When I am genuinely interested in a girl I can't seem to open them despite seeing them often. I can open other attractive girls I don't really see past just a pretty face easily but for some reason I can't get past this hump.

    Why I Need To Open Her

    I don't need to open her because I find her attractive but for past me. For the past Othello who was so scared to approach her. For the current Othello who knows he has the potential to have success with women and feel free but is being held back.

    Success or fail if I open her in essentially any way I will feel so much more liberated. I've wasted 3 months of my life just looking at this girl and having my actions be paralyzed.

    This is my biggest test. I know PUAs are suppose to make things seem like there is no big deal but to me this is. This is something I must do for me. I have about one month left of the college year and if I don't open her I will feel like a failure because I never conquered my fear for past me.

    This post is probably scrambled and confusing but I need to lay how I feel. Approaching her success or fail will be the spark that changes my life. Not because I want to do dirty things with her, but because the old me could never do it. Even with the newly acquired knowledge and social Mindset I still can't do it.

    By approaching the girl I've put on a pedestal for 3 months I will conquer my fear. No matter how many girls I approach if I end this semester without saying anything to her I will have made no progress because then I would know at any point I can revert to my old ways and let girls intimidate me. Once I do I will realize it was no big deal after all. I know it is no big deal but I can't act on me, I am reverting.

    I must man up and say something to her, anything! I hope to look back at this post very soon and laugh at past me for being such a scrub. This is the test for me, to see if I'm willing to put it all on the line. All of my reservation, all of my past chump behavior, all of my Approach Anxiety and get this whole looking from afar ordeal over with.

    I know what must be done, the only question is will I do it?

    - Othello


    P.S To future Othello, It was no big deal after all was it? Now go out there and have fun. Leave old you in the past.
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    Day 24: Barbie Girl!


    Que Pasa?! I just read my end goal and I realized it was to become more social with everyone not just girls. I was putting unnecessary pressure on myself when my goal is not even to pick up but to talk to new people.

    Looking back this challenge is extremely easy when it's not over complicated. I guess I like to make things more difficult for myself.

    Anyways, today was a good day socially. I have two little stories today that I would like to detail. I really had fun today and I seized the moments given to me.

    Story 1

    This is a follow up with (New Friend) NF from Day 17. I haven't had the chance to speak to her in class until today and I conquered the problem that usually plagues me. That problem being I will open someone, things will go well and then I won't say anything to them again. My follow up game was lacking, today wasn't the case

    So I go to class today, NF sits next to me and I initially say nothing. Some situational thing comes up and NF says something to me about it. I respond and that's it. Then 30 seconds later I say, "Oh I forgot to tell you.." and proceed to tell her about how when she snuck out last week 2 minutes later the teacher lets us leave. She laughs surprising hard and I deliver it pretty coldly. Good sign I'd say, she's warmed up to me quite well.

    Class starts and about 45 minutes into it the professor tells us to break up into groups of four to discuss paper topics. I fistbump NF ( I tell her to make it explode after we bumped fist for dramatic effect) and tell her to be in my group along with OF and another guy and girl.

    I'll speed this up a bit. So I Fluff talk with the guy, joke around with the girls in my group and at one point even made the professor laugh with my sarcastic ways! That was probably one of my prouder moments. I was so loose and comfortable and in the past would revert to the shy kid when teachers are around.

    With NF, she keeps giving me looks. Not like, "TAKE ME NOW!" looks but looks of interest and that she finds me interesting and wants to engage in conversation with me.

    She's still a feisty one so I tease her a bit. She says something smart to me so I take her phone and roll it across the floor. She drops her phone again and I proceed to kick it across the floor. She says one more slick thing and I take her water bottle and roll it across the ground to which someone else picks it up and doesn't give it back. I got other people engaged which made it funny. I'm not going to keep at that because of the rule of three. After the third time it starts to get annoying/overused.

    Now when I roll the water bottle on the floor something happens. She reaches for the bottle and as she does this places her hand on my knee. It was there for a few seconds. Prior to that the only physical contact we had was the same class in which I fist bumped her twice and put my arm against her arm to joke about tanning/skin complexions. Idk if she was warming up to me because of my minor Kino or she's just a touchy girl. Either way I didn't object to it. She's intrigued by me I can tell. I mean why wouldn't she? Lol

    That's enough of that story, it's beginning to turn into a play-by-play if I continue anymore.

    Moral of the story : I have her pretty warmed up to me. She kept rolling her chair back then closer to me. We were in pretty close proximity, I'm still not sure what I want to be the end goal with this one. Just havin' fun with it.

    Short Story 2

    I'm downstairs in the study lounge doing work like the last minute slacker/overachiever I am and a girl I've exchanged pleasantries with but nothing too major walks in. She had always been friendlier to me than I was to her in the past and we make eye contact but I don't say anything.

    So I do my work and she's at another table behind me, just us two, and a BRILLIANT idea pops up in my mind! I was on Spotify and I looked up embarrassing songs to play out loud and "Barbie Girl" pops up. I get the song ready but it takes me FOREVER to play it...

    I made such a big deal in my head about how lame it would be if she didn't laugh or whatever but after 15 minutes of surfing the web deciding whether or not to do it I secretly unplug my headphones and blast it!

    As I had anticipated in the beginning she laughs at it and I pretend like it was an accident. I then say, "On that note I'm going to leave" and start packing up. As I'm packing up I just turn back and casually asks what she's working on. She says something uber complicated so I tell her I am just going to be President instead so I don't have to work on it.

    We fluff for a few more seconds and I wish her good luck in her studies to which she replies with a farewell of her own. The whole situation was super casual. It was only a big deal in my head.

    What I Learned

    Story 1:

    Continue the energy from the last conversation and everything goes fine. Don't be scared to make physical contact and to be the natural sarcastic jerk I am.

    Professors are people too. Talk to them the same I talk to my fellow peers and things go well. Had a blast and had a good laugh with my professor and people in my group. Definitely earned myself some brownie points!

    Story 2:

    Go with my instincts. Once I started second guessing whether or not I should do it was when I was anxious. I wasted so much time debating whether or not to play the song.

    It ended up fine now next time I see her around the dorms we have a common little funny moment that happened which builds a little connection. I will be sure to chat her up the next time we come in contact.

    To sum things up...

    When I don't think I do fantastic. I am enjoying the conversations I am having with people. I am having better conversations with people I kind of know but haven't really said much too because I am just being social.

    Being social gets you a long way. I'm still not trying to impress people I am just saying and doing the things that come to mind. After the second story happened I will be sure not to second guess myself again.

    Idk where I want to go with NF. At this point I don't really want to push for a meet up I'm just having fun playful banter. Sometimes going in with no goals or expectations are best.

    People generally love me, I just have to give them the chance to.

    - Othello
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    Day 25-28 : Blur

    These four days were really a blur. I wasn't progressing much but I wasn't going back either. I was more nonchalant/too lazy to post so I don't really want to detail what happened on these days.

    Day 29: The Eyes!

    "The eyes are the window to the soul"

    Hello there Gentlemen,

    So as you active readers of this forum may know, I have been getting close with a girl in my English class. Prior to today I had always been whatever and going with the flow of things but today she pretty much was making the non verbal moves on me. Let's detail what happened shall we?

    The Open?

    The girl (we'll designate her NF) comes in class a little late today. Here's my first ioi of sorts, before she sits down she looks me in the eyes and just starts laughing! (DirectIsBest, I love you). I flash a smile to her and a chuckle.Now I'll spare the details of our conversation out of laziness purposes and detail the IOIs.

    IOIs from Her

    - The initial laugh as soon as I make eye contact with her. She was making eye contact with me way before I even looked up at her. We can't make eye contact at this point without one or both of us smiling.

    - Repeated looks, she would glance at me a lot. I can see it out of my peripherals and every few times I would glance back.

    - She was EXTREMELY close to me all class. Her desk was a few centimeters away from probing mine. And she didn't move it either.

    - She takes a few snapchat pictures and in the background is pointing the camera so I am in the background (To which I pose, gotta give the people what they want ).

    - She smiles or laughs at almost everything I say, even at subpar jokes.

    - We meet at the crosswalk after class, I initiate conversation then she starts asking me about where I'm going. She asks about my next class, what I think about it etc. I ask her the same and she says she's going to my class.
    -

    AND THE BIGGEST THING


    - Her EYES! She has a different look about her. The way she looked at me was so different than before.

    I can't fully explain it, those of you who experienced it know what I mean. When I called to her attention to tell her about my brilliant informative essay idea she gives me the puppy dog eyes. Everything I said I could tell she was listening and was genuinely interested in hearing what I had to say.

    Her eyes were so wide, it was cool to see actually.

    - Another IOI was after I told her my informative idea (It's guys vs. girl perception of the perfect girl). She says, "Oh I can be your model for that"(It piggy backs off another conversation). I don't say anything, it was a good response on her part. I just look at her (somewhat condescendingly) and let the tension build non verbally.

    My New Goal (With Her)

    I am definitely going to Number Close next class. She made the decision for me. I was content having fun being social but if she wants to get all googley-eyed over me I'll amp up attraction now. I am so certain she is into me that I have nothing to lose, if I miscalculated then who cares?

    I'm not thinking ahead about relationships and all that jazz, for now I am just trying to have fun. I have to hurry up and escalate things, I can't have her thinking I am a scrub who can't pick up or act on signs of interest. She's a cool girl to talk to, I'd be a fool not to.

    Why This Is Relevant

    As I detailed in the past I was so sure this girl hated me. I couldn't get her to even crack a smile back in the day. Every since I've been loose ans saying whatever I feel the dynamic of our relationship has changed.

    The differences in her body language is so cool to see. All is took was me saying something! No routines or expectations, just me being my natural self. Not caring about judgement or what's the right thing to say. I trust my abilities and social skills at this point.

    All it takes is saying something. All the other girls I constantly see around I could be connecting with as well. It puts things in perspective and it feels good to hit it off with someone of the opposite sex.

    We'll see what happens, Still keeping my options open. My work is far from finished.

    - Othello
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    Default Re: Othello's 30 Day Challenge: College Edition

    Awesome dude!! Yes this girl is CLEARLY into you. The only way she can be more clear is to slap you in the face. Whenever a girl makes any physical contact, like putting her hand on your knee or even hitting you its a big ioi.

    You already know this but you need to Number Close asap.

    I've been in college for almost 7 years and there's some IOI's that have never failed me.
    -Looking at you as soon as she enters the room. (eye contact)
    -Giving you eye contact as soon as YOU enter the room.
    - If she sits in front of you, turning around all the time to look at you, then when you notice she "looks at the clock".
    -Laughing and smiling at everything you say. Women say they like "funny" guys but what they don't realize is that they find guys who they are attracted to "funny".
    - Dressing up super nice the next class period after you first "connect" with them and have a good conversation. You know the drill, girls get all dressed up the first couple weeks then they relax and come in sweats etc. Then when you first connect with them BAM, the next class period they are dressed to the nines, makeup and all.

    Of course like you did, whenever a girl makes eye contact with you when you/her enter the room I like to give them a big ole smile and they ALWAYS smile back/giggle.

    Here's a post I wrote when I first joined that talks about classroom game. It REALLY reminds me of what your doing. http://www.puaforums.com/picking-up-...room-game.html Cheers!

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    Day 30: Fin

    It has come to an end.

    These last 30 days have led me to four words in which I strive each day to live my life by :


    Stop Thinking, Start Living.




    I'm not going to go all in depth (partly because my previous post deleted accidentally before I finished) . I'm just trying to live my life. I don't need validation from a woman, friends, family, or society. As long as I go to sleep with no regrets I am doing something right. It is a simple as that. Each day I am striving to better myself. I'll never be where I want to be because I will never be satisfied. There's always room for improvement. There's no going back...

    Thank you all for following my journey, more to come in the future.

    Peace out playboys,

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