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Thread: Guidelines/'mantra' to remember when sarging?

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    Default Guidelines/'mantra' to remember when sarging?

    I researched all about PUA, I did one and only one direct approach in the 2 weeks I first started training. It worked! But 1/20 sucessful pickups is better than 1/1 as you gain more strength from your failures

    I need like rules or like 3 tips to always memorize when I start getting anxious when about to approach. I tried today at this campus, to JUST EVEN say 'Hi hello' and I couldn't bring myself to do it

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    Default Re: Guidelines/'mantra' to remember when sarging?

    Check out my "Assume Familiarity" thread.
    I used that technique when I was trying to eliminate Approach Anxiety.

    The key to remember is: Have fun! Just be sociable, instead of depending on an outcome. Girls aren't going to be put off by a guy approaching her if he is FUN.
    They just get tired of the lame guys or douchebags who always seem to want to talk to them.

    Also- My "Shopping Game" is great for eliminating the "approach" altogether!





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    Default Re: Guidelines/'mantra' to remember when sarging?

    A big thing to emphasize about what T-Mal said is to just be a sociable guy with no expectations of number closing etc. if you find that you're getting aa, do some quick approaches and just try complimenting people to get you more in state...then get back to gaming and number closing.

    A key rule of thumb to follow is: Always leave your target in a better mood than how you found them.

    Hope this helps (sorry, on my phone)

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    Default Re: Guidelines/'mantra' to remember when sarging?

    You know I was JUST thinking that, pretending like you already know her/or approach her as if she was your best friend.

    I was thinking that, and having a smile

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    Default Re: Guidelines/'mantra' to remember when sarging?

    Quote Originally Posted by GetBent View Post
    I researched all about PUA, I did one and only one direct approach in the 2 weeks I first started training. It worked! But 1/20 sucessful pickups is better than 1/1 as you gain more strength from your failures

    I need like rules or like 3 tips to always memorize when I start getting anxious when about to approach. I tried today at this campus, to JUST EVEN say 'Hi hello' and I couldn't bring myself to do it
    GetBent,

    How old are you? What is the most difficult/frustrating aspect of meeting girls? What type of girls do you want to meet? I could give you several mantra's to live and sarge by but It's difficult to offer useful advice without an idea of where your key sticking point are.

    My own personal mantra for my life in general goes by an acronym: G.E.D. or, the "Innate G.E.D." It's the social-educational diploma virtually none of us guys studied for in life. Ready?

    Go hard!
    Everything on sound principle.
    Don't be scared!

    I can go into quite a bit of detail on these three principles, but I encourage most guys to figure out what they mean to themselves personally.

    So more specifically on game & approaching girls... Well in my coaching experience I've always suggested the following very basic guidelines:

    • Most girls are more than happy to chat with any well intentioned guy, even if he's nervous.
    • Be happy with "hello", even if that's as far as you get with her.
    • Do not approach girls with the hope of a phone number. Approach because you simply and genuinely want to find out more about her.


    Internalize these things and figure out how you can apply it to your body language and inner game. If you have any more questions give me a shout.

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    Default Re: Guidelines/'mantra' to remember when sarging?

    I'm 20, I'm not taking any classes and don't have a job. I'm bored a lot, so a female counterpart, ie Girlfriend' would really make me happy right now

    Type of girl? Idk umm I wanna find like College girls my age or slightly younger. Smart, maybe sporty and active, not one of those loner types either. The girl I dated once was kinda that loner type: Very clingy, only had 'guy friends' and I let my guard down too much trusting her with them...though I can't really stop a girl from cheating if she's a cheater lol

    I think I just have Social Anxiety. Not just girls, I have a hard time starting conversation with random people, like if I say 'Say hi to this girl', I'll be heading toward her on the sidewalk, look up and catch eye contact than be like and I drop the routine, can't even smile. Might be because I'm scared of what will happen, I'm a cautious and calculating person, though this trait sucks for things like this lol...alcohol helps, and cigarettes work...but obviously that's not a solution

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    Default Re: Guidelines/'mantra' to remember when sarging?

    Quote Originally Posted by GetBent View Post
    I'm 20, I'm not taking any classes and don't have a job. I'm bored a lot, so a female counterpart, ie Girlfriend' would really make me happy right now

    Type of girl? Idk umm I wanna find like College girls my age or slightly younger. Smart, maybe sporty and active, not one of those loner types either. The girl I dated once was kinda that loner type: Very clingy, only had 'guy friends' and I let my guard down too much trusting her with them...though I can't really stop a girl from cheating if she's a cheater lol

    I think I just have Social Anxiety. Not just girls, I have a hard time starting conversation with random people, like if I say 'Say hi to this girl', I'll be heading toward her on the sidewalk, look up and catch eye contact than be like and I drop the routine, can't even smile. Might be because I'm scared of what will happen, I'm a cautious and calculating person, though this trait sucks for things like this lol...alcohol helps, and cigarettes work...but obviously that's not a solution
    You know where and what to work on Dude. Start within and work your way out. Authenticity is key. Exercise, play sports, commit to dance lessons...Choose high energy activities and start creating a solid social network outside of your usual group of friends. Build from there.

    I was 20 when I started down the path. Take your time and practice.


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