There's a progression many men make in their evolution with women. Allot of men realize at some point that being the "nice guy" isn't working for them. They immediately start being the opposite. They become the a$$hole.
I've been through this progression. Honestly, when I became the a$$hole, I started getting allot of women. It worked! There was only one problem. I would get allot of women, but many of them weren't GF material and the ones that WERE didn't stay around long.
I lived with my father and he met allot of these women and saw how I treated them. One day he goes "You know what Direct. Your an asshole to the women you date. You will get way farther if your like Elwood P. Dowd. Be like Elwood."
Elwood is a movie character from an old movie called "Harvey" played by Jimmy Stewart. His best friend is a 6 foot tall rabbit that only he can see. Everyone thinks he's crazy and tries to institutionalize him. There's only one problem; he's so damn charming and pleasant that everyone loves the guy!
I took that advice to heart (and honestly the only good advice my father ever gave me about life). I started to be like Elwood. Everything changed. Besides the fact that the women I dated REALLY liked me and felt special, I started making WAY more friends both male and female. Even when a relationship ended the woman respected me (one even tried to set me up with their friends)! I wasn't hated by my ex lovers anymore.
I didn't revert back to the "nice guy". I still stood up for myself and my beliefs and I did what I wanted to do. That doesn't mean you should be an a$$hole either. Bring everyones value around you up and you will be amazed at the results you get. It makes you feel really damn good too! Here's a link to a short clip of Elwood's life moto. Be like Elwood P. Dowd.
James Stewart - Harvey (2/2) - YouTube