Re: Nice guys
Getting to the point where you can say okay "approach, approach, approach." When you get to that you will worry less about being a nice guy. Granted we don't approach many women we should since we are trying to be nice. But we can't always rely so heavily on the Bar cuz one day we will be 50 and the Bar won't be an option.
I see more MILF's anyway but many times I don't approach because I am trying to be a nice guy because she is with a friend, with kids, with elderly people, looks busy, etc.
The other thing about being a nice guy is we approach too soft often times to be accepted and most women don't like this. They usually always appreciate the high risk high reward approach when done confidently. Not saying to be mean but to do what you really want regardless of what people think.
We are all so focused on getting the girl when we should be more worried about being ourselves since after the interaction we will regret not saying what we truly feel. I always kick myself when I open wrong so going to try opening right. Nice guys try too hard to be accepted and often times just do what is formal and social norms. But getting to the point where you are still being nice but super confident (not super aggressive) will get you the results I think you are looking for.
That being said even when approaching could look weird to others but doing it in a smooth way would not be like the nice guy but still be polite about it at the same time. Since most Nice Guys will only approach out of convenience (ie natural game) the bad boy Mindset is to approach even when not convenient but you can still calibrate after the fact it to be awesome and not super douche like a Nice Guy trying to get validation.
When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.