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    Default Nice guys

    Nice guys are not really nice guys, they are just heavily socially brainwashed guys. They treat women nicely, but the way they treat women is not actually nice. They follow the golden-rule which is you treat people as you would like them to treat you. This is wrong and even idiotic. To treat people nicely should be "treat them as they want to be treated." Nice guys are heavily socialized guys, they are:

    1. Unconfident in front of women, especially in front of very attractive women. They are convinced by the society that they are unworthy of a beautiful woman before they prove that they are worthy to the society, they are brainwashed by the society to be unconfident before they have contributed to the society and get the society's approval.

    2. They are socialized to believe that sex is bad, thus feel shame on their sexual desire. They think,after receiving many years of socialization, that sex is something bad and is something that a decent and graceful person won't do.

    3. They think that women are not interested in sex or don't like sex or don't want sex. But the truth is, women like sex as much as men do, if not more than. But women are also heavily socialized, and they have learned to hide/cover their sexuality and learned "play hard to get". They face much more social pressure than men do.

    4. They feel shame on their attempt to pursue women, although their natural instinct drives them to pursue women, their social brain/mind makes them feel that what they do is something wrong therefore they feel uncomfortable/uneasy with their own behaviors/attempts. This is a derivative of 2 and 3.

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    Default Re: Nice guys

    A man should be: 1. Confident 2: Unaffected by socialization 3. Understand that socialization affects your woman, so she plays hard to get, she is indirect, she cares her sexual reputation and don't want to be seen as a slut, she doesn't want to voluntarily take the moves, she expects you to make the moves.

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    Default Re: Nice guys

    Getting to the point where you can say okay "approach, approach, approach." When you get to that you will worry less about being a nice guy. Granted we don't approach many women we should since we are trying to be nice. But we can't always rely so heavily on the Bar cuz one day we will be 50 and the Bar won't be an option.

    I see more MILF's anyway but many times I don't approach because I am trying to be a nice guy because she is with a friend, with kids, with elderly people, looks busy, etc.

    The other thing about being a nice guy is we approach too soft often times to be accepted and most women don't like this. They usually always appreciate the high risk high reward approach when done confidently. Not saying to be mean but to do what you really want regardless of what people think.

    We are all so focused on getting the girl when we should be more worried about being ourselves since after the interaction we will regret not saying what we truly feel. I always kick myself when I open wrong so going to try opening right. Nice guys try too hard to be accepted and often times just do what is formal and social norms. But getting to the point where you are still being nice but super confident (not super aggressive) will get you the results I think you are looking for.

    That being said even when approaching could look weird to others but doing it in a smooth way would not be like the nice guy but still be polite about it at the same time. Since most Nice Guys will only approach out of convenience (ie natural game) the bad boy Mindset is to approach even when not convenient but you can still calibrate after the fact it to be awesome and not super douche like a Nice Guy trying to get validation.
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