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    Default Game over man, changing the name of the game

    Another girl just ditched me. I had left her on a freeze for a week while chatting her up at work. She said yes, yes, yes to hanging out and never once rejected me but then a total flake today on our $250 date. Oh well maybe she felt bad about me spending that much money. Anyway I will retry inviting her to come with me to my tatt maybe. Just wanted to put out a reminder since this felt like a sure thing since we already had a first date. Girls will flake, bone out and then ignore the crap out of you the day of. I think now I will set up dates and pre-emptive flake on them to try to get them to text me for forgetting about our date. This way they will be chasing me. But I will vaguely set up dates and go MIA in hopes they come after me. I am tired of chasing, it's over. They can hit me up but I am done wasting time.

    I hate how it's easy. It's probably game over for me on this one so I guess I'll just be friends with her instead. If she wants to hang out in her car everyday and then ignore me so be it but I'll just hang out in her car everyday and not say anything to her about it and just stop asking her out to begin with. Then I'll invite her to my tatt but not give any instructions or times or anything. Maybe a simple reminder text but again no instructions. I'll just be like "going to get my tatt wish me luck" and ask her to come with beforehand. But on the day of I won't go to her place or anything just do my own dang thing. Let them come to me. Just saying I am going to pursue less and let them decide cuz I am done waiting around. I would rather be single than stood up so I'll be single so be it. The world is so confused. Go get another one! Next her! No because ALL girls pull this flaking and ignore you crap. Getting "another one" doesn't resolve the problem. That's stupid logic. But pursuing smarter not harder is the way I am going to go. I texted her once and called her twice today with no response so now she gets a two week freeze. No one can tell me different since I am tired of following bad advice. I rage quit on her today so I was a bit pissed off but what was really smart of me is I didn't leave a VM due to the negative emotions and decided I will stop showing my emotions to them in these situations. Since she is still investing and I never stop pursuing until I am rejected or done wasting time. Some chicks take longer than one week I guess. Going to go pursue other girls I guess as soon as I get my new tatt. She is testing me I am sure but maybe she fell off the planet who knows? I mean who would skip a $250 date right? Like I care now I can go get new brakes and put into my Summer fund. She will be back to flirting at work I promise you "And I hate how it was easy and if only I could make it right again. I think about every single thing that I did and every single regret won't leave me alone." -If only Deorro-
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    Default Re: Game over man, changing the name of the game

    Sorry bro, that plain sucks. I hate it when that happens, especially when you go the extra mile. I think you have the right idea, taking the attention away from her, and giving her the cold shoulder. She will eventually notice the attention deficit, and sense something is wrong. Send her the message that you are not there to serve at her pleasure, and you require a certain level of respect.

    I advise first dates not to be something expensive, but something cheaper like meeting for coffee/drink.

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    Default Re: Game over man, changing the name of the game

    no clue why you're Freezing Her Out... she doesn't seem to be 100% into you--freezing out is only useful for LMR... stop thinking you can change her by freezing her. you have to walk away from the moments you know she's just going to waste your time. make it seem like you have more important things to do instead of twiddling your thumbs all day... stop blaming her and start focusing on other parts of your life. you need to look at yourself here and see whats going on instead of thinking its her fault.

    i'm curious why you ended up spending $250 on your date... what was it even for? a tattoo? thats not a date... thats a tattoo... a date should be a dinner maybe a movie--nothing more... but you also have to remember that you need to factor in your worth before you commit to a date. is she worth even taking out to dinner and spending a dime? what did she do to deserve your attention? because shes attractive? re-examine your situation... never apologize for being yourself but you have to take responsibility for your actions and expectations.

    if you decide to hang out with her--keep her jumping through small hoops until you can trust her... but remember you can't trust her until you can trust yourself. to me it sounds like you still need to learn about how you're breaking down a situation--especially when you spent $250 on a date..............
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Game over man, changing the name of the game

    I've NEVER spent 250.00 on a date. EVER.
    It's totally unnecessary.

    My "first & second dates" usually ended up costing me 20.00 or less & they were awesome. (sushi, cocktails, laser tag, picnic, bowling, etc)

    When you spend that much money, it can totally make the girl feel pressured, & feel like you might think she owes you something.

    Don't spend a lot of money unless you're already in a real relationship. Then it doesn't matter how much or how little you spend, because you're "together". (make sense?)

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    I'm with artandale...
    I'm not sure why you froze her out for a week. The "Freeze Out" is usually meant for girls who are behaving unacceptably, or after a breakup.

    You should never intentionally disappear & go dead-air on a girl, just for the sake of doing so. ALWAYS keep the iron hot so to speak.
    If she's reciprocating communication & invested in the interaction, then go with it; build momentum... don't kill it.

    Making a girl chase you doesn't require a freeze out. It just requires a mix of positive & negative body language, and not overdoing it with texting/talking etc. (Basically, don't appear to be over-eager.)

    It also involves "rewarding her" with positive attention when she behaves with class & respect. It's all about balance.



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    Default Re: Game over man, changing the name of the game

    The reason for the high expense is a Hotel, Drinks, Cab, Club Entry, and a Amusement Park the next day. So it was really a lot of activities. Thanks that was actually good advice. But no if she comes to my tattoo appointment that would be a free date obviously. I just texted her now and really glad I didn't leave a pissed off VM last night though I wanted to.

    But I felt better this morning after I woke up. Plus I have a lot more money and I had to get a lot of work just done to my car so it was nice. I'll try getting her to go to a more inexpensive date then I guess.
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    Default Re: Game over man, changing the name of the game

    ...so she ditched you at what point of all these activities? or did the cancel before the hotel, drinks, cab, club? or are you saying that you didn't get to f-close after you spent money on all this?

    regardless of the answer you need to re-evaluate man. just because you're spending money doesn't mean she's going to feel bad about it. if you keep going this route you'll probably fall into financial domination--its something men do where they spend money on a woman and get nothing out of it other than the pain and suffering of the loss of that money and how you're neglected as a person. you don't have her to blame for this situation unless she down right manipulated you and coaxed you all the way through getting club entry (most clubs--girls get in free if you know the right spots), drinks.. HB's know how to get free drinks from other guys who want to talk to them and often are willing to take advantage of that FREE drink, the cab... its misleading in our society to think that men have to be paying for everything but sometimes the cab ride should be paid if it's within reason, and lastly the hotel--getting a hotel can mean a lot of things and most girls have a feeling they already know where its going... a hotel signifies i don't want to take you back to my place or goto yours, this is closer and we can just get to business... and she might not be ready for it. your expectations sound way too high with this whole date thing.

    in the future i'd suggest you keep your goals for a date to be simple--only 1 event planned and the rest will follow based upon how it was received--have back up plans but don't count on her wanting to do it or know about it. half of the women like the idea of a story that naturally happens without much preplanning. please put more value and investment into yourself as a person before you value and invest in other people--especially women and women who are used to being handed everything... women want more challenges in their life so they feel like they've earned it and can invest in their part in relationships. if there's no sense of something being earned then it doesn't feel worth it. think about it...
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Game over man, changing the name of the game

    Good call on NOT leaving a voicemail when you're upset.
    We as men, need to ALWAYS be in control of our emotions... ALWAYS.
    So, that was definitely smart.

    I don't care how upset I get, I never let my emotions control my actions. That would be about THE MOST beta thing I could do.
    Yeah, I get ticked off every now & then, but I know better than to spout off on a tangent.

    Women will get turned off big time, buy a guy who is unable to keep himself in check.

    So props to you bro!

    BTW, the date/activities DO sound pretty awesome. But I would save that idea for a later time. Like when you've established that the two of you are actually a "couple"... and not during the "courting" phase.


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    Default Re: Game over man, changing the name of the game

    Oh boy. She is playing me dirty. She texted some other guy at work and won't stop flirting with him. I guess my chances are shot since she won't even text me back and texting this other guy while they are at work arghh! This is the Big Kahuna of sh!t tests since she doesn't even like him and doing it just to make me jealous. Well fine but I won't acknowledge this behavior or even bring it up. It will just demonstrate weakness if I act unworthy. So I am just ignoring her like she is ignoring me. Looks like it is back to the drawing board with a new girl. But serious WTF moment today. Said it once but I'll say it again, I didn't see that one coming. And to make matters worse one of her friends is calling her "my GF" and saying she would kill me if she found nail polish on me. WTF?!
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    Default Re: Game over man, changing the name of the game

    you sound like you're overreacting and making the problems bigger than they are. personally i think you should just move on and work on your inner game before you try to approach more women at this pace.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Game over man, changing the name of the game

    Actually things are usually a lot worse than they seem. Granted I think I got Oneitis again. Maybe that's why I lost. Either way my wingman is ready, I am almost ready. This Beer Festival is going to rock. I am just going to let it go. I can get lays anywhere. There is a million chicks out there. Maybe this was the push I needed to get me ready for Summer.
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