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    Default Improve my opener

    Hey! I'm new here (and new to the game for that part). I don't know how active this forum is but I'll give it a try
    I've been coming up with an idea of an opener and would love to get some feedback and opinions.

    See girl walking in the street towards me.
    Me: hey excuse me. Aren't you Sara (random name)
    Her: no
    Me: you remind me of someone, what's your name?
    Her: Linda
    Me: your face seems very familiar, where have I seen you before?
    Her: [answer]
    Continue conversation...
    .....
    ....


    Feedback? Opinions? Would it work?
    Also, how could I continue the convo in the best way?

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    Default Re: Improve my opener

    It's not a new idea. I personally don't like it, that's just me though

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    Default Re: Improve my opener

    So 1970's haha. Why not just say 'what's a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?'. Sorry just teasing ya. Either way you eventually have to get into a proper conversation and close the deal. Openers are kinda irrelevent in some ways. It's your consistent confidence, looks and conversational skills that count.

    It's better to be either completely direct and say 'Hi, I'm ____ nice to meet you, I had to come up and say hi to you, what's your name? Are you working today? Where are you going? Oh I studied there too! Where's a good place to get coffee? Join me blah blah blah' and continue from there or do a cold approach where you open a girl talking about something spontaneous or unrelated to picking up so she is less defensive 'Wow did you see that performer up the street? So good! Oh you should check it out...it's this 5 year old kid playing harmonica like a champ, blah blah blah' or 'Excuse me do you know if there is a (insert whatever: ATM, post office, clothes shop I need to buy my mother something elegant and I can see by your fashion sense you understand elegance etc). She will likely, if she is a good citizen, help you and then you can chat further from there 'you are originally from here? Oh what's your name? Well nice to meet you. By the way I just noticed your bracelet, that's really cute, maybe too cute - its not something you are still wearing from high school is it?. Although it matches my wrist band actually. You're studying around here? Where are you walking to? Oh there's that great old bookstore near there right? Dancing lessons huh? What kind of dancing do you do? How does that make you feel when you're peforming? Maybe you can be a gogo dancer next time my band performs . Have a quick coffee with me, I need waking up and I enjoy chatting to you. No time? Your lunch break ends in 5 minutes? Ok well Kate (start entering her name into your phone) so your number is? I'll text you later' etc.

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    Default Re: Improve my opener

    You forgot to ask her "what's your sign??"

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    Default Re: Improve my opener

    Best way to find out if this opener works is to test in the field and let us know how it went

    But to be honest, this seems to me something that might arouse suspicion. It starts with too many one answer questions. Also this isn't how'd you greet someone if you had met her before.

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    Default Re: Improve my opener

    See girl walking in the street towards me.
    Me: hey Sara (random name)
    Girl: No, I am not Sara.
    Me:Oh I know , because you didn't tell me your name so I just guess. I am Napoleon (your name) by the way.
    Extend your hand for her to hold..
    Girl: I am ...


    Try this one, it works fine for me. But nowadays I prefer a direct opener.

    Hope this help
    Naughty Napoleon

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    Default Re: Improve my opener

    Quote Originally Posted by Naughty Napoleon View Post
    See girl walking in the street towards me.
    Me: hey Sara (random name)
    Girl: No, I am not Sara.
    Me:Oh I know , because you didn't tell me your name so I just guess. I am Napoleon (your name) by the way.
    Extend your hand for her to hold..
    Girl: I am ...


    Try this one, it works fine for me. But nowadays I prefer a direct opener.

    Hope this help
    Naughty Napoleon
    I also prefer completely direct or completely cold approach. If you approach with anything other than wanting to get to know another person in its raw form it's hiding something or showing insecurity. If you do cold approach you already have those skills and are only using it based on situation or difficult complexities. You still have to be able to continue a normal confident conversation. There are many variables about the target you don't know. Saying hi is enough to open but you must be able to play the whole song afterwards and nail the chorus, solo and ending to get the accolade you are after. And you must know your audience and venue.


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