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    Default stuck in a holding pattern, what to do next.

    Hey guys.

    Right I've met this HB 8. I played a bit of push and pull etc she lapped it up. Before I could go for a Number Close she offered it to me, saying it's so I could get hold of her when she was at her *college (a little joke I ribbed her for a while on, it seemed to work)

    Anyway she started messaging me with hints to go to hers, she was getting pretty saucy with the texts. I ended up stuck on the other side of the country, I tried to buy some time till I got back saying that the weekend would work best for me due to my current geographical location. She agreed and we continued to chat a bit most days general chit chat blah blah blah.

    Right now down to it, I get back about a week later and tried to get out of this holding pattern but she seems quite comfortable there now,(she does occasionally make refract to me getting to hers sooner rather than later, but then it's straight back into the holding pattern)
    I feel like I'm right on the edge of getting back on track for the f close. Just not sure how to get back to where I want this to be. I'm pretty much out of ideas. Anyone got any tips to get this flat line jumping again?

    Many thanks

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    Default Re: stuck in a holding pattern, what to do next.

    Have you tried to get her to meet up on a day? Do it. Plan ahead if you want her badly enough. Get her to commit to meeting you. It doesnt sound like you both have locked this part down-- if you did there'd be less stigma.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: stuck in a holding pattern, what to do next.

    I don't do sexting with a girl until I have sex with her. She may think that all you want is sex, even if she was horny and meant it when she sent it, she can very easily lose that emotional state later. It's better to just keep things light and playful and set up an activity ASAP and start running game and escalate.
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    Default Re: stuck in a holding pattern, what to do next.

    ^^^

    Its a good rule of thumb to not sect until you've had sex or at least k-close and have her begging for the d. You put too much expectation out there by doing so. And it gives them the power to freeze you out. Which you do mot want. Leave the doors open in your text game.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: stuck in a holding pattern, what to do next.

    Hey guys.

    Firstly thanks for the advice much appreciated, just to clear some things up if I may. If she instigates sexting should I change the topic of conversation or just a little ribbing for having a dirty mind?

    We spoke on the phone earlier lots of flirtatious banter back and forth then she started a bit of dirty talk, which thinking about the sexting I told her that it would only really work in person, she suggested a meet. I think it's mine to blow now.

    My game is by no means perfect, but I am world class at putting my foot in it. What would be the best way to keep her on, let's say a mild simmer until next week?

    Many thanks

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    Default Re: stuck in a holding pattern, what to do next.

    Quote Originally Posted by flynndog88 View Post
    Hey guys.

    Firstly thanks for the advice much appreciated, just to clear some things up if I may. If she instigates sexting should I change the topic of conversation or just a little ribbing for having a dirty mind?

    We spoke on the phone earlier lots of flirtatious banter back and forth then she started a bit of dirty talk, which thinking about the sexting I told her that it would only really work in person, she suggested a meet. I think it's mine to blow now.

    My game is by no means perfect, but I am world class at putting my foot in it. What would be the best way to keep her on, let's say a mild simmer until next week?

    Many thanks
    DO NOT SEXT HER! Like the other replies said, make her want your D, not your texts. I'm not perfect at this and I would need to read the situation myself to know exactly how I would respond but lets say the convo is something like this:

    her: what do you want to do to me?

    you: I'll tell you when i see you ... but, trust me, you'll love it.

    When she is trying to sext, i would avoid it while at the same time encouraging a meet. This includes pics ... don't ask for pics ... don't send pics ... not until you have f closed with her already.

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    Default Re: stuck in a holding pattern, what to do next.

    Tell her "you know usually girls buy me dinner first"

    Its a playful neg. give her a chance to respond and then try to refocus the conversation to meeting up or leave her hanging
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: stuck in a holding pattern, what to do next.

    Hey.

    I've not sext her since the first time. In our last conversation went like this:
    (On the phone)
    Chatted for a while.
    her: soo......
    Me: soo what???? (I mimicked her voice as best I could)
    Her: I'm sat on my bed.
    Me: your not going to fall of it this time?
    Her: (laughs) I'm in my pj's.
    Me: just your pj's? Bet your looking good.
    (Quick chat about her pj's blah blah blah.)
    Her: should I take them off? We could have a naked party.
    Me: a birthday suit party sounds like a grand idea.we should do that some time soon.
    Her: I would loooooove to see that.
    (Nip outside where it was incredibly noisy due to where I was working)
    Her: what is that noise it's so loud.
    conversation changed. Finished call about 10 minutes later.

    Unless I read it wrong and she was shit testing me. Having looked at what was said I'm questioning myself I think I've caught a case of the oneits but I'm currently working on a cure for that.

    What would you guys do in that situation? I've not tried to f close someone who turns hot and cold so systematically before this may be the toughest one for me so far, given where I live a wkd would get you laid around here it bugs me.
    Many thanks

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    Default Re: stuck in a holding pattern, what to do next.

    Quote Originally Posted by flynndog88 View Post
    Hey.
    What would you guys do in that situation? I've not tried to f close someone who turns hot and cold so systematically before this may be the toughest one for me so far, given where I live a wkd would get you laid around here it bugs me.
    Many thanks
    I would set up a date as soon as possible and f-close that girl! lol.

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    Default Re: stuck in a holding pattern, what to do next.

    Hey guys, I'm working on that so far I've got an open invitation, as soon as I'm back from work I'm there will let you know how this works out thanks for the advice guys it's been very helpful will post a full dialog once all is said and done

    Many thanks


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