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    Default Playing hard to get or........?

    Just a little field report, hoping for some tips on how to proceed.

    So I went out last night with a friend to a club I usually go to,

    Had an overall good night, spoke to a bunch of people, a lot of girls.


    This one girl in particular, HB 8.5, is the focus of this post.
    I passed by her a towards the end of the night, and without hesitation opened her (2set) with just a random spontaneous question. We began talking and joking around.

    I disqualified myself with things like "little sister" , and "we'll never be together we're too much alike"..
    DHVd .. all that stuff.

    She was giving me crazy IOIs,
    This other girl I had spoken too earlier that night walked in and saw me and I said to the HB8.5 "we should move from here this girl keeps following me" and instantly as I said that she began making out with me.

    so we chilled, talked, made out,
    I was cocky-funny, my usual style.
    she said she couldn't believe she was making out with me cause its not like her to do that (mmmmhmmmm... ok honey)
    and she asked me to buy her a drink to which I said "sure...sometime this week", we ended up exchanging numbers.

    today I texted her later at night, spoke very little I didn't want to send a bunch of pointless fluffy texts,
    so I just made a little joke and asked her
    "I partially recall that you owe me a drink this week"
    and she replied "noo! you owe me one!"
    (I thought this was going well)

    then she added, "but I don't give second chances"

    I replied with some cocky funny joke , completely ignoring her no second chance comment.
    and said, "sunday we're partying" (I didn't want to ask her permission but instead tell her whats going on)

    she said she cannot because its her friends going away party, so I replied with another smirk comment, and said "its ok you'll buy me a drink another time "

    to which she didn't reply........



    Any thoughts on how I should proceed?
    what do you think about the no second chance thing?

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    Default Re: Playing hard to get or........?

    Awesome game man. Flawless and on point. It's very tight attraction game. However, there didn't seem to be too much comfort building.

    When you are running attraction game it's usually temporary. It lasts just for the moment. Once she's sober and back in her comfortable day to day life then she is no longer in that state.

    The process of qualification and comfort building is to solidify that attraction you've built up. So she doesn't get buyers remorse and feels good about her decision to make out with you.

    I feel there's a high chance that she has buyers remorse. If she does then I feel that showing her you get it will ease her Tension. When you show a woman you understand her world it builds rapport and you begin to have a connection.

    Simply tell her "Ya know, the other night was really crazy for me. I think we should get to know each other first before we meet again. Don't need you getting your paws all over me. I'm a person too and not a 'walking sausage with feet'." (I didn't come up with sausage with feet.)

    There's always a chance she does not have buyers remorse and it may be something else. So use your best judgment.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Playing hard to get or........?

    Thanks for the insight batman,

    Ill definitely give it a shot,
    I love that paws all over me thing haha

    I woke up this morning to a reply from her saying
    "youll keep waiting long if your expecting me to get u a drink, btw sorry I passed out last night"

    Im going to try to build some comfort with her now before my next ask out attempt.
    Im just afraid going too hard with the texting because I don't want to do all my gaming/talking via text rather than in person.

    Ill give an update as to what happens next for field and learning purposes no matter what happens.

    Thanks for the advice again, much appreciated hearing from the Pros

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    Default Re: Playing hard to get or........?

    Cool info. I'll definitely consider some of these tactics posted...

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    Default Re: Playing hard to get or........?

    Don't stick on the who's buying the drink thing. Just get her out again and keep up momentum. It's good you are trying to control the frame and being cocky but you don't have to control her completely and you need to balance it with some genuine feelings. You have to let her in too so she is encouraged to invest. If you build more comfort just do it enough to balance your cockiness or when organising the date specifics. Make it easy for her with a time constraint like 'let's meet for a quick drink'. If she brings up the buying drink thing again it's now on her shoulders. You can joke 'Don't worry I bought some cheap wine in a brown paper bag' or encourage anticipation 'I've got a suprise in mind' (your lips) or neg her 'still going on about the drink thing huh? See you here at this time'. Move beyond it to meeting, talking and kissing again.

    One thing I often find girls like me saying is simply 'I like talking to you'. If a girl is interested they will usually always answer something positive like 'me too'. It's a very easy way to re-inforce a connection or trust.

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    Default Re: Playing hard to get or........?

    Ok time for an update...

    we texted a little Saturday. I was at a concert so I was to busy to be talking and I didn't reply to her last text which was not an open ended text: "ya I could see that"

    I didn't text for the next 2 days (bad move?) - I wanted to see if she would text first (she didn't).

    so Tuesday I text her some random opener text that I got from T-Mal's post. (the window pirate costume one)
    she didn't reply.. for exactly 12 hours ... which drove me crazy
    but at the same time it made me give up and not give a shiit about her.. which is a good thing.
    because when she replied it was a bonus.

    we continued talking a little, she thinks im a little crazy because of the texts I send (unorthodox stuff I picked up on this forum: im not confident in my text game so I feel like I need to read a lot of what to do to develop my own text game)

    I randomly told her one of my friends recently became single and that she should set him up with a friend of hers.
    she replied so im guessing you want a double date? (I actually didn't even think of that lol)
    I replied " well I was just helping a friend out but sure ill go out with you"

    HER: "im sure im not asking you out"

    ME: "fine fine... Friday I might be free .. 9:33"

    Her: "9:33 really? ...."

    Me: " Yeah, I got places to be at 9:30 haha"

    Her: "omg your not normal lol"

    Me: "ok well anytime around that time should be fine"

    Her: "ok ill let you know, I should be free around 7:00"

    Me: "not bad, I might be able to move things around.. and chill for 7:30.. or 7:34 rather"

    Her: "I swear you have issues ! loll .. but ok sounds good I guess?"

    Me: "cool. "


    Im kind of confused by what she is saying... she said sounds good I GUESS???
    I just ignored the I guess and said cool.

    I don't know what her motive is or what shes thinking. I hate text game so much. Im not even sure if I have a legit date Friday...

    I usually don't give a shit about texting girls, but since this one is really hot I often find myself chasing, which I hate. and when I try to flip the tables, and get her chasing me, I feel she tries to play hard to get....
    ahhhhh I love the game....


    What do you guys think?

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    Default Re: Playing hard to get or........?

    I think you're doing good. To me it sounds like she's more open to being wowed with a surprised kiss rather than asking for it... You could interpet this as 'it just happened' instead of 'wanna go on a date' what i mean is go for the informal--in direct approach with her. I wouldn't exactly say she's got walls up but she's probably more into being swept off her feet with a surprise. She's probably the emotional type looking for her badazz... Know what i mean?
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Playing hard to get or........?

    Yeah I get what your saying... will most definitely take that into consideration. especially when I see her...

    im just a little confused by the "I guess" thing..
    like "Sounds good ....I guess" ...
    its a positive followed by a negative.
    not sure if she's not really down to go out and shes just going to flake out last minute or if shes just doing it on purpose to be indirect because that's how she likes it.

    either way I wont lose sleep over it. but I get what your saying completely and will give it a shot. thanks man.

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    Default Re: Playing hard to get or........?

    She's saying your behaviour is erratic, which it is. Just be chilled and don't try too hard or from too many different obtuse angles. Just be yourself - maintain perfect geometry.

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    Default Re: Playing hard to get or........?

    Makes sure your intent is clear if youre trying to see if shes interested. Thats the most important thing.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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