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    Default Asking out a girl gone wrong!

    So I started messaging this girl on Okcupid and she seemed pretty interested so I got her number and started texting for a bit. At first, our conversation flowed smoothly:

    Me: It's xxxx, I'm looking for this goofy girl that likes to stalk charming Asian guys, where can I find her?

    Her: Hi xxxx! If you're looking for a girl that stalks Asian guys, I know a bunch of weaboos in my Japanese art class, want me to hook you up?

    Me: Wea-boos sounds hot. Yeah I'll make sure to bring my nerdy glasses and Hello Kitty lunchbox to woo tem all. Don't get too jealous.

    Her: I'm jealous of anyone who has a hello kitty lunch box!

    Me: Ah that reminds me of 1st day of grade school: carrying my Animaniacs lunch box and trade Pokemon cards at recess. Ya remember your first day?

    Her: I'm amazed that you can remember yours, I can scarcely remember high school!

    Me: I have selective memory ha. I bet you were a devious troublemaker...

    Her: Haha I totally was! I tried to glue a kid to his seat one year...which didn't work because I used stick glue...

    (Continuous banter)

    The next day, I add her on Facebook and ask her how her schedule looks this week.

    Me: How's your schedule this week?

    Her: Fairly free. How's yours?

    Me: I got a big boy job but off earlier on Thurs/Fri. I've been craving some bubble tea, roll with me Thursday!

    Her: Thursdays are a no go for me I'm at school all day.

    Me: Ew gross. How's Friday for you?

    Her: I should be free, will that work for you?

    Me: I'm off @ 2 pm so yup. What area do you reside in?

    Her: Cool beans. I live in NKU's campus, so downtown, basically.

    Me: Ah okay I'm in BA. I know this place by campus, it's pretty delicious.

    Her: Sounds good to me!

    I should of just ended things here but I usually like to keep texting even a few days before the date. But here's the weird part.

    (The next day)

    Me: Oh and don't forget to bring your sense of humor and adventure. You'll need it

    Her: What's in the bubble tea? How adventurous is this gonna be?

    Me: Tapioca balls. squishy and chewy. I know the anticipation is killing you...

    Her: I actually don't like the boba, soooooooo

    Me: Ugh geez this will never work out between us.

    Her: Oh, okay. So no date then. Good luck to you!

    Me: Haha I was teasing ya. It's still on. Let's meet up @ 3:18.

    Her: To be honest, your confrontational vibes are making me uncomfortable so I'm no longer interested. Good luck to you.

    Then she removes me as a friend on FB. Well that escalated quickly! Did I really come off as confrontational? I think I may have flirted a bit too much. Has this happened to any of you guys? This has never happened to me before so I'm curious to know what I did wrong.

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    Default Re: Asking out a girl gone wrong!

    Did I really come off as confrontational? I think I may have flirted a bit too much. Has this happened to any of you guys? This has never happened to me before so I'm curious to know what I did wrong
    no you weren't very confrontational. girls you meet online are almost always flakey.

    I have found that from the time you start messaging a girl you have about two days to get a meet up. after that, you are just a lowly "texting buddy".


    Ugh geez this will never work out between us.
    there is only one problem with this message, you should have put a "lol" or a "jk" at the end so she would know for sure that you were joking.
    on the odd chance that she thought you were serious, this could have sabotaged you.

    the best thing you can do is forget about her and talk to other chicks.


    oh and also, since you said you were Asian, have you heard of "abc's of attraction"? they're a pua company that specializes in helping Asian men defy racial stereotypes. (I took a bootcamp with them and it is well worth it)(even though I'm not Asian lol)

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    Default Re: Asking out a girl gone wrong!

    I have to say I was very intrigued by this post because you were doing so well and she had a good sense of humor. I loved “I'm jealous of anyone who has a hello kitty lunch box!”
    And the joke with the glue stick was great ….. but then suddenly it all went south , I think you spooked her and it was with one line

    "Tapioca balls. squishy and chewy. I know the anticipation is killing you... " ...... That is overtly sexual and over the top considering you hardly know this girl. Maybe that’s not how you meant it , but, that’s how it comes off and it sure as hell what scared her and made her bail on you

    And it’s too bad because it looked like there was potential there …. But you’ll get them next time




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    Default Re: Asking out a girl gone wrong!

    This does happen sometimes. Some girls just like to play games, No need to worry too much about it.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Asking out a girl gone wrong!

    Thanks guys for all the feedback. From her pictures and Facebook, she seems like more of a conservative girl and pretty out-spoken so I probably went a little over the top with the flirting haha. No worries, it's her loss. You win some, you lose some. I think the major Takeaway I got from this is that you should start off with very light-hearted flirting, nothing too extreme. And from there throw in some spice once you build comfort and know her on a more deep level.

    Also, meteora. I've heard of ABC's of attraction. How was the bootcamp exactly? I have been thinking of doing a bootcamp in the future once I build up sufficient funds.

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    Default Re: Asking out a girl gone wrong!

    Also, meteora. I've heard of ABC's of attraction. How was the bootcamp exactly? I have been thinking of doing a bootcamp in the future once I build up sufficient funds.
    the bootcamp was epic. (especially considering that I did it at age 19 using a fake id) I approached more girls than any of the other students and I had lots of fun sarging new York city even though I blew most of my sets.

    the instructors were very friendly, and helped many of the students to get over their insecurities. they had great advice, and they continue to give you advice via their forum and face book group. (I still post field reports in the facebook page and they are happy to answer any questions I still have.)

    its been a little over a year since I took the boot camp, and I still keep reminding myself of the lessons they taught me.

    here is my field report from the boot camp:
    http://www.puaforums.com/pickup-arti...mp-review.html

    I highly recommend you get signed up for one. (and no I'm not getting paid to advertise for them, it really is a great experience)

    btw, the "homework" that they send you before the boot camp is worth doing. be sure to come up with all the types of stories it suggests and to make plenty of approaches before the boot camp. (it will help you to have a lot more success during the boot camp)


    oh, and be sure to tell them that scott from west Virginia recommended the boot camp to you (they like to know how you found out about the courses they offer)

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    Default Re: Asking out a girl gone wrong!

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    the bootcamp was epic. (especially considering that I did it at age 19 using a fake id) I approached more girls than any of the other students and I had lots of fun sarging new York city even though I blew most of my sets.

    the instructors were very friendly, and helped many of the students to get over their insecurities. they had great advice, and they continue to give you advice via their forum and face book group. (I still post field reports in the facebook page and they are happy to answer any questions I still have.)

    its been a little over a year since I took the boot camp, and I still keep reminding myself of the lessons they taught me.

    here is my field report from the boot camp:
    http://www.puaforums.com/pickup-arti...mp-review.html

    I highly recommend you get signed up for one. (and no I'm not getting paid to advertise for them, it really is a great experience)

    btw, the "homework" that they send you before the boot camp is worth doing. be sure to come up with all the types of stories it suggests and to make plenty of approaches before the boot camp. (it will help you to have a lot more success during the boot camp)


    oh, and be sure to tell them that scott from west Virginia recommended the boot camp to you (they like to know how you found out about the courses they offer)
    Man..I'd like to get my hands on some of that homework to do for myself.

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    Default Re: Asking out a girl gone wrong!

    Unlike some of the other guys, I don't really think you did anything wrong here. She just turned into a big C word. Hey we're all adults so I'll say it: Cukoohead. Lol but seriously, when girls get super cereal like that, I just tease them for it. If she can't take it then you don't want somebody with that large of a stick up their arse

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    Default Re: Asking out a girl gone wrong!

    Man..I'd like to get my hands on some of that homework to do for myself.
    unfortunately, I had to sign a "non-disclosure agreement" that pretty much says that I can't teach pua for money or discuss their material with anyone who hasn't paid them for a good 2 year period after my most recent boot camp. (I believe its to safeguard against potential "tyler durdens")

    not sure of how legally binding it is, but I certainly don't want any trouble with my favorite pua company especially since I plan on doing many more workshops with them in the future after I turn 21.

    so if you want to "get your hands on" that homework, get signed up for one of their boot camps

    If she can't take it then you don't want somebody with that large of a stick up their arse
    lol, anytime girls are hostile towards you, you're ahead to just walk away. if she can't take you for who you are, she isn't wrth your time.


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