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    Default Met a girl at work via mutual friend, NEED ADVICE!!!

    First of all sorry for my bad english, I will try my best to explain this situation.

    Warning long post

    Few days ago I was on a coffee break with my work friends (colleagues), they are all older than me (I am in mid 20s, probably the youngest in company and they are in early 40s). That coffee shop is usualy visited by the employees from my and one other sister company. The place was packed and so we shared a table with one cute girl (also in mid 20s) who works for sister company and my friends knew her well. I didnt know her cause I am still relatively new in the company.

    This girl has something special, appealing to me, I dont know what but I think we clicked. She was interested in me from start, wanted to know more about me, indirectly offered to move over to my gym etc. In one moment I caught her staring at me and I stared back, didnt back off but neither didnt smile or something like that.
    I tried to act cool as ice cause I felt very uncomfortable, I really liked her but I felt that our mutual friend intentionally set up this situation. They were sitting with us, chatting but I knew they were matchmaking and observing my behaviour, I didnt want to hit on girl in front of them, my older colleagues.

    One thing confused me even more, she said that she was/is in 2 years long relationship with one of her colleague. I wasnt sure what tense she used, past or present. Coffee break ended, I didnt do anything to establish contact with her.

    Today I looked at some company party photos and there she was, with one guy, a little older than her, and he was some sort of manager (higher position than me for sure). I thought thats it, game over. Only one thing brought satisfaction to me, I know that I am way better looking than him .

    So today on a coffee break I was with my colleague, she was with hers at different table,we made only one brief eye contact but we didnt greet each other. And then later I saw that guy (possible bf) passing by, I noticed he didnt contacted her. I sensed that they are no longer in relationship.

    HERE WE COME TO THE CRUCIAL POINT

    Later I texted my colleague who tried matchmaking and who is well known for gossiping (but she is good person), I asked her, in a joking manner, if that girl is single or married, divorced etc. She replied "single".Of course I was happy to hear that . I know that by asking that friend that question I probably broadcasted my interest in that girl across half of company but I needed to do something cause I felt I screwed up in the beginning with this girl. She needs to know the I am interested in her also and this was indirect way of letting her know.

    The question is what to do next?!
    I know I am the one who needs to take the action, I never had problem with taking initiative but I am uncomfortable cause I feel I dont have privacy, always surrounded with bunch of older colleagues and she is rarely alone too (we can see each other only during the break). I want to ask her out but I dont know the right way right now.

    Your opinions

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    Default Re: Met a girl at work via mutual friend, NEED ADVICE!!!

    For future note, whenever you're interested in a girl, never ask her if she's single. Assume that she is.
    That being said, if you really want to know if she's single or not, when the 2 of you are talking, you casually say something like (if you're bordering a sexual topic) "oh you're such a nasty girl, I bet your boyfriend goes every day to work with bruises made by you", or anything like that, anything that conveys her confirmation of her relationship status, indirectly though.

    Anyway, concerning your question, it's pretty simple. Tease her, my friend. You're working and you see her walking. Say something like "oh boy, and there she goes again, you're always walking in the park! ". Or, if she gets embarrassed quickly "This girl is on fiiiireeee, wow wow wow wow (like the song)".

    Tease her. It's pretty simple. Oh, yeah, and touch her too. It's very important also, since you want to have sex with her.

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    Default Re: Met a girl at work via mutual friend, NEED ADVICE!!!

    The above said it all. I did just want to add that you builfing attraction with her is not hitting on her. You can totally be yourself and flirt with her as you can flirt with even your good friends. The more that they feel welcomed to be around you the more they want your company around them. Flirt, tease and be interesting.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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