My date today was cancelled. What happened this lunch is, she goes to our table. Pretty shy, can't talk to me, can't hold eye contact, too awkward. Me sitting in front of her, as AFC as it might be, I didn't care, and treat her like a friend, I'm trying to hide my awkwardness, but I also didn't act like I care about it to project IOD.
Happened to my 2nd ex. She is attracted to me but can't speak, hands too cold, can't even look at me for too long, which is why she is my ex, I broke our "relationship". She cried though, so although I'm not proud of it, I know she cares.
Back to the present, later that afternoon which is the time for our date, she ask her friend to tell me she can't go. I said ok, and wave goodbye to her from a distance. About an hour later, the friend called and told me that the girl I should've dated is sorry for what happened, and want to reschedule a "friendly" date. I misinterpreted that and I said no, I ask her out because I want her to be my girlfriend, if it's a friendly date why should I bother. The friend was shocked. Then I told her to give the phone to the girl. She said sorry, and what she means by saying friendly is, to know each other better. She also want to reschedule the date, I said nope, can't do a friendly date, I'll just cancel it if it is what it is. She told me that I was too fast and she is not ready. I said I still won't do it. She insist that we date on monday. I am pretty much giving excuses to not date her anymore, as I am really confused, even told her I will think about it, and she ask me what? why?. Told her I have to work, she ask me what time is your work, I said 6pm. After all of that I said sure, with a tone of "I'll try".
She is not comfortable with me, but still she insisted that we date. I don't know if she is attracted or not. I don't know how to flirt because of my glorious AFC Mindset.
Anyway, long story short, I sounded a little bit too straightforward, too aggressive, too fast, spoiled, a little bit desperate or uncaring (not sure). I didn't flirt with her, no convo as I'm afraid I'll fall into friendzone. No touch, just that. I'm not comfortable talking to girls either but I am trying. What is your advice guys? What's wrong with my attitude? Also, should I still date her and what to do if that happens?