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    So moved recently back to LA. Its a city where I know how to respond to quite well. I would go as far to say that before picking up Gaming i was still pretty decent as socializing but now more focused and carefree. Having learned a lot about framing & principals of gaming and tested the field from a smaller city its interesting to see the difference in responses and actions from people in general. However, something thats occured to me as a slight hiccup is that women in LA tend to do a lot of drifting in conversations. Last night went to a birthday party at a bar and talked to almost everyone--90% of the people there i talked to. Coversations with guys were simple and pretty logically structured. But not to be judgey but the with the women Its all over the place and not very congruent or to the point. Dont get me wrong its not that i dont know what to say. The conversation flows--my question to those who are very experienced in driving a 1 on 1 conversation how do you lock someone onto one subject instead of rolling onto subject over subject over subject. In the span of 2 minutes one coversation I had going with a girl switched to 4 to 5 topics. To me its a bit exhausting to continuously move from so many topics in such a short time.

    So what do you guys think? Am I asking for the impossible? Am I not as sharp as I thought I would be in the field in a big city? Am i trying to be too logical all the time? Or am i too in my head?
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    Default Re: Loose topics

    That's just how women communicate. Have you ever noticed when you're with a group of women they talk the whole time but don't ACTUALLY talk about anything? This is why. They talk about how they are feeling or what's going on around them. They don't limit themselves to "what" they talk about.

    This is why situational openers are so awesome. If you make an observation about something in your environment women LOVE to talk about it. They just love to talk about anything really. If you can handle the jumping in conversations with ease you're 90 percent of the way to getting laid like a rockstar.

    You just have to accept it and learn to get better at it. Depending on the woman some will not communicate in this way. If you touch on a subject that she is really interested in, you two will stay on that subject for allot longer. Also, when you're at a bar women (most women) are there to have fun, not get into a deep conversation. This also contributes to the "random" nature of their conversations. Once you master this type of communication you discover it's not actually random at all. It's just structured allot "looser" and is more "open". Cheers!

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    As always never disappointed with this forum. I see what you're saying. I understood it pretty plainly when learning about all this. I think im just shocked by realizing thigs in motion. Gonna be interesting to navagate through these conversations. Here we go..!
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    Default Re: Loose topics

    DirectIsBest said it all. As usual.

    But I'll add my 200 cents.

    Women get bored when they're talking about the same subject. Especially when they don't know you. It's uncomfortable because it's not supposed to happen.
    Talking about the same subject should be done when you two are knowing each other, building an emotional connection. rapport.

    When they're out there and you approach them, talking about the same subject feels like being in prison. And it's boring. Because it's not supposed to be logical, so the conversation won't follow a specific structure.

    I also believe that changing topics so fast is a way of testing us, but not consciously. Just to know that we're not faking/following a logical path. The same logical path that we follow in every interaction. Conversations are very dynamic things, so the changing of topics is perfectly normal.
    As in, it's a way of knowing if we are able to cope with them. To be spontaneous. To be ready for everything, instead of holding on to a certain subject and, when they're trying to change it, we go back to say everything we had to say about it (logical path).

    See this, starting from 1:16. I guess it's a perfect example of what we're discussing:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Rnl...0FJ-I0AWRl6cY6


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