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Thread: How to handle "maybe".

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    Default How to handle "maybe".

    In my personal experience a maybe usually means a yes to a date. Not always but usually. Here's how I handle the situation...

    If she says maybe to a date I respond "okay" then I don't contact her at all. When the time gets close and they text me to confirm I respond with "You didn't confirm with me so I made other plans". The next time you make plans with them they won't f*ck around. They'll give you a definitive yes.

    If she contacts you to flake don't worry! You weren't planning on meeting up with her anyways! She'll say something like "I cant go something came up blah blah blah. I'm sorry" To which you reply (hours later, let her wait) "I made other plans so it wouldn't have worked out anyways. Have a good night! ". This gets her to think "wtf we had plans and he was going to ditch them" and "Is he out with another girl?" Both of these are good things!

    If she doesn't text you at all forget about her! She's not invested in you enough to pursue her.

    Don't ever wait around for a "maybe" or a "we'll see". Make other plans and if she WAS planning on seeing you she won't give you that bullsh!t again!

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    Default Re: How to handle "maybe".

    In other words, don't work your schedule around a woman do the opposite. Let her know that you're not there to wait on her pleasure, that is for butlers.

    You'll only commit if she takes you seriously.

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    Default Re: How to handle "maybe".

    Spot on. Usually I'll set something up that I really wanted to do and invite her, and that way when she gives me the sh!t test, I'll tell her I made other plans anyway, but still do what I wanted to anyway. haha kind of a win win.

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    Default Re: How to handle "maybe".

    Quote Originally Posted by ConnorMaxwell72 View Post
    Spot on. Usually I'll set something up that I really wanted to do and invite her, and that way when she gives me the sh!t test, I'll tell her I made other plans anyway, but still do what I wanted to anyway. haha kind of a win win.
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    Default Re: How to handle "maybe".

    First off, you always want to make plans to do something that you want to do. The frame is: I don't date. I simply do cool stuff. And I'm inviting you along to do cool stuff with me.

    Then, if she flakes, you don't even have to pretend like you have a backup plan. The problem with faking it is that it could backfire or you could come off as incongruent, or worse yet, screw up and do something dumb later in the evening like posting on FB or something and having her see that your plans must not have been that great.

    Instead, you simply go out and do the thing that you were going to do anyway. Either with her or without. Doesn't matter. You're still having fun! The frame here is: Just think of all the cool people that I never would have had the opportunity to meet if I'd been stuck having that girl by my side all night long! Well, now she's not here, so the world is mine! I can meet everybody!

    So, whenever a girl flakes on me, I DEDICATE myself to having more fun than if she'd been around. And here's the funny thing about that... if you know pick up, and now how to approach people, and if you like it, then you're almost GUARANTEED to have more fun without her anyway... because if you're with her, then you're stuck with her for the whole evening, whereas if you're out alone, you get the opportunity to meet LOTS of women.

    One time, I did exactly this. And what did she see on my FB page the next morning?

    10:14pm Benny is now friends with Suzie Smith
    10:14pm Benny is now friends with Sally Jones
    10:45pm Benny is now friends with Tanya Green
    11:18pm Benny is now friends with well.. you get the idea.

    And then you start getting tagged in silly pics out at the bar or wherever. Yup. That's how it goes.

    Incidentally, one way you can pull this off, is ask someone to take a picture of you with someone you just met. Post it on facebook and be like, "Hey, I'll tag you in this..." Generally though, I'm not really a fan of letting random strangers on my FB, however, I'll make exceptions in cases where an opportunity to do this presents itself.
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    Default Re: How to handle "maybe".

    I agree that you should always have something to do, even fake it until you make it. I always ask what her schedule is like to set up a date when I'm a high point in the interaction and have enough attraction and rapport. That way she will be more compliant and give me a definite answer on when she's available and will want to see me. Sometimes I will double book a date just to increase my odds and in case one might flake. I'm taking a risk by losing some rapport with one girl I flake on, but I can always try make something up and try to set up a date for another time or just find another girl.
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